Abuse, Love, and Marriage

Dan Savage answered a letter from "Truthful Revelation Unmakes Two Happy Spouses" that is relevant to this blog. It comes with a mild TRIGGER WARNING for potential sexual and emotional abuse.

Hate Hurts But It Won't Stop Love

RIGHT NOW, and any moment of every day, there are hundreds of thousands, maybe millions of people who are close relatives who are in the throes of ecstasy with each other, making love, having sex, embracing, kissing, having orgasms, cuddling, spooning. Maybe even three, four, or more lovers all together! Related!!! And they're going to keep doing it whether you like it or not. Some of them are probably in close proximity to you whether you are right now, living normal lives, other than having the intense double love bond that they do.


Yet the planet keeps turning.


On the other hand, even though most of these lovers will never be prosecuted even if they're some place that still had ridiculous laws against consanguinamory, there are people suffering for no good reason. They are consenting adults adults who aren't hurting anyone, who simply want to keep loving each other how they mutually agree. I hear from them. I hear from people who've been prosecuted, who are facing prosecution, who are being threatened with the loss of their children, who are being denied their rights and peace of mind because of the bigotry that still exists against consanguinamory. There are people who simply want to be able to live freely, be able to show the same affection as those around them, who can't. It's outrageously cruel that they have to face discrimination and being rejected by others around them, simply over love. They shouldn't have to hide.

If you're dealing with the unjust stigma against consanguinamory, know that you're not alone. There are also allies.

If you've perpetuated the hate, please stop and think about what you've been doing. Just because something isn't what you'd do doesn't mean others shouldn't have their happiness. There's no good reason to keep laws and stigmas against such love.

A "Where Are They Now" Update

There has been ongoing interest in a post to this blog with the title "Where Are They Now?"

The post is about a series of "adult" videos claiming to feature people who are in consanguinamorous relationships. The quality and the content of the videos had an "amateur" feel to it. A recent comment purports to give an update on a couple featured in one of the videos after speculation that they were not really a consanguinamorous couple...

Martin Luther King, Jr.

In the US, Monday is a holiday, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day. He was a giant in the fight for civil rights.



Many decades after he was assassinated, the fight for civil rights continues.

History is on our side. All consenting adults will be free to exercise their rights to share love, sex, residence, and marriage.

Are you like those who kept trying to keep some people second-class citizens, or are you like the people who marched with King?

Sister Wives is Back

Television's favorite polygynists are back for another season, which means a bunch of news articles for publicity. Typically, there's the speculation that someone is leaving their marriage. This time, crime is invoked as the headline for this inquisitr.com writeup by Bernadette Giacomazzo is "Sister Wives’ Rumors: The Brown Family Seen As ‘Felons’ By The State Of Utah"...

When Meri Brown, one of the better-known stars of Sister Wives, decided that she was going to open up a bed and breakfast in the state of Utah, she knew she was taking huge chances.

Aside from the standard concerns that every first-time business owner has about her new business, a new report suggests that she was concerned about her family being considered “felons” by the state.

It's ridiculous that any consenting adults would be criminalized or otherwise discriminated against for their relationships.

This shocking report comes courtesy of the Salt Lake Tribune, which suggests that Meri and the other stars of Sister Wives have been living in Las Vegas for the past seven years to avoid being prosecuted for polygamy.

Despite the notion that Utah — which has a large Mormon population — has made polygamy legal, the reality is, it’s just as illegal to be married to more than one person at the same time in Utah as it is to be married to more than one person at the same time in any other state.

It's actually worse in Utah. Polyfidelity is criminalized.

The new season of Sister Wives begins on Sunday, January 14 on TLC. Check your local listings for the time and channel.

Do you watch the show? What do you think?

Every adult, regardless of race, religion, gender, or sexual orientation, should be free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any and all consenting adults, without fear of prosecution, bullying, or discrimination.

They Would Marry If They Could

This blog does not endorse or encourage cheating. We strongly support ethical nonmonogamy. Even so, we know relationships of all sorts sometimes start as affairs and we're still interested in relationship dynamics for relationships that would be "forbidden" even if there was no cheating involved and never had been.

As common as consanguinamorous relationships are and how common they are to be closeted due to prejudice, it means some people will cheat to be in them. Aside from the ethical issues with cheating, it can be extremely risky when it comes to consanguinamory. While still illegal in many places, the vast majority of consanguinamorous lovers are never prosecuted. But when there is someone who is being cheated on, especially so close to the situation, that person may react to discovering the cheating by alerting authorities.

 Full Marriage Equality has featured scores of exclusive interviews with lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are, by law where they live, denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law. Almost all of these interviews have not included cheating as part of the dynamic, though as you will see here, we;re willing to do such interviews.

The woman interviewed below should be free to legally divorce her spouse and marry her lover, yet she can't, and she could be harassed, persecuted, and imprisoned if she and her lover were open about their love. They are consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone; why should they be denied their rights?

Read the interview below and see for yourself what this woman has to say. You may sympathize with her husband and be upset with her, or you may be in the same situation as her or her lover, or maybe you simply find this provocative. Whatever your reaction, I hope you'll see that laws criminalizing consensual (to be redundant) relationships and sex cause more problems than they could ever solve.

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FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe your background. 

Anonymous: I'm a 37-year-old, married mother of one son living in the UK. I work part time in a supermarket. I'm an only child

FME: You are in a sexual relationship with your son? Are you his biological mother?

Yes, he is my biological son and we have been involved in a sexual relationship for almost a year.

GSA in Cinema

Reunion Genetic Sexual Attraction has always existed, but life as it is today now makes it more likely that someone could be raised apart from a close genetic relative and then introduced or reunited with that relative post-puberty. Although the term didn't exist when "The Last Sunset" was released in 1961, the movie contains what could be described at as a reunion GSA relationship.


My apologies if you consider this a spoiler, but the movie was released a while back!

The movie starred Rock Hudson as a lawman (Stribling) who is after a character portrayed by Kirk Douglas (O'Malley). O'Malley goes to the property of a former lover (now married to another man) and falls in love with her daughter. The gist of it is that it is eventually revealed the daughter is O'Malley's daughter. As a result, he faces Stribling with an unloaded gun so that he was doing what we call "suicide by cop." Because, you know, the way movies worked back then was that O'Malley had to be punished for the "sin" of falling in love with his genetic daughter.

I'm not sure how close the movie is to a novel from which it was adapted, but I suppose it would have been too much to ask that the lawman, rather than the outlaw, experience GSA. That probably would have been too scandalous.

I don't know about the rest of the cast, but of course what we know now is that Rock Hudson was a closeted gay man. Today, there are millions of people who are in the closet about their consanguinamorous orientation or their involvement in consanguinamory. A small percentage of them are people who did not know of their close genetic relation to someone until after falling in love with them. If they are disturbed by such a realization, it would be good for them to have trained, understanding therapists who are informed on the realities of these situations. For the time being, people can find help by reaching out to others.

It would also be great to see movies address GSA and consanguinamory without condemning adults for loving each other.

Star Crossed Life is a Consanguinamory Blog

There are countless pornified blogs on Tumblr claiming to involve siblings in consanguinamorous relationships. It's always good to find a blog that focuses on a consanguinamorous relationship as more than merely sexual, and details life in general for someone who in such a relationship. Star Crossed Life is one of those, and I'm hoping to see the blog continue.

We Get Letters From Adults Denied Their Rights

There was a comment left after an entry on this blog regarding myths about sibling consanguinamory. Anonymous didn't explicitly reveals gender, but it isn't relevant to the situation.

I'm in a relationship with my older brother.

Congrats!

I'm 23 and he's 26. I've loved him since way back. It eventually evolved over the years in what I would describe as a beautiful natural way, because we love each other.  

We will always be a couple. Few are so lucky that they find their perfect match.

It's especially cruel when people feel perfectly matched and like they could never be as happy without each other and being with someone else instead, and they are told by others, including people who will never be in their life, that they can't be together.

We Get Letters About Scratching an Itch

After an entry on this blog inviting people to tell the stories of their "forbidden" relationships (by  writing me a fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com), this comment was left by Anonymous...

I'm 51 years old married mom. I'm sexually involved with my 27 years old son. My husband is still alive, but he doesn't know. 

Keith, you say you don't support cheating. But I don't know what to do. I love my husband very much and I don't want to be separated from him. At the same time I love my son too and the physical satisfaction he gives me makes our bond stronger. And to be honest me and husband not sexually active for over 20 years or so. But that didn't make me love him less. I never cheated on him before and I know he would never cheat on me. But now I have fallen into a quicksand and I can't find a way to get up. I don't know what should we do. 

Relax. You’ll find I am not about to throw stones.