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Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Lies and Damned Lies About Polygamy

[Note: I am bumping up this previous entry because it is as relevant as ever. Polygamy is not something to escape from, fear, or prosecute. Abusive people are. The same goes for monogamy.]

Good ol’ tool of anti-equality forces, Professor Joe Henrich of the University of B.C., is back in the news. This article comes with a picture of Bountiful, B.C. (which is NOT the picture shown here) along with this text…

New research says that polygamy, which is practiced in Bountiful, B.C., leads to increased crime.

Right. Everyone avoids driving near Bountiful because of the high crime rate.

Prof. Joe Henrich found that when rich men take more than one wife, it leaves a deficit of women leading to increased fighting and competition for the remaining women.

Got that? You non-wealthy or unmarried guys are just a bunch of criminals.

Henrich is taking about women as though they have no minds of their own and are nothing but property, akin to cars.

Rich men can “take” more than one woman, marriage or not. Shall we ban all nonmonogamy? Or, since it might lower the crime rate according to this line of thinking, shall we require a woman to find an unmarried man and keep him busy so he won’t go around being a violent criminal?

"You have low-status men who are desperate for resources," said Henrich, a professor in the departments of psychology and economics. "More polygamy leads to a greater proportion of unmarried men, which leads to increased crime."

How does Henrich explain “low status” men who marry a woman and support her decision to not earn income as she tends to the children or earn less income than she and their children will spend? Wouldn’t it make sense, in Henrich’s view, for such men to never marry and have children, so as to be less “desperate for resources?”

Henrich and his co-authors studied societies where polygamy is prevalent, trying to discover the consequences.

Did they also conclude that polygamy causes high amounts of melanin?
"The scarcity of marriageable women in polygamous cultures increases competition among men for the remaining unmarried women," said Henrich. "The greater competition increases the likelihood men in polygamous communities will resort to criminal behaviour to gain resources and women."

I wonder why the article doesn’t cite examples?

I also wonder how much funding for this, or how much of Henrich’s pay, comes from the very government that has banned the polygamous freedom to marry and is actively attacking polygynous families?

We’ve already debunked all of this here, here, here, here, here, and here. We will need many more dung beetles to clear this pile up.

An adult should be free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any and all consenting adults. These excuses to deny full marriage equality are flimsy masks that fail to hide festering bigotry.
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Monday, August 18, 2014

A Treasured Love Denied Marriage

By my count, this is the thirty-sixth ongoing relationship I've covered through exclusive interviews in which the lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law.

The man in the interview below is an  adult in a vibrant, consensual relationship with another adult. Yet they face discrimination and prejudice for their love. They are very much in love and it is cruel to discriminate against them or criminalize their relationship.

Read the interview below and ask yourself if there is one good reason this person, going under the name "Billy Lee Black," should be denied his right to marry and have his marriage treated equally under the law or should have to hide the full, true nature of his relationship from anyone.



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FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Tell us about yourself.

Billy Lee Black: I’m 5 feet 8 inches, thin, green eyes, brown hair. I've been in many different lines of work. Up until recently I was a computer technician dealing mostly with fixing laptops, mobile phones, TVs etc. I always wanted to be a history teacher, in truth, but I always had something going on in my life that turned into a road block. Since being laid off because the company downsized, I became a part-time cleaner and intend to go to university to fulfill my dream, that or become an assistant teacher as that's something I always wanted to do, too. Helping children with special needs was always something I wanted to do since I had learning difficulties growing up, which I overcame thanks to a great assistant teacher.

I have one sibling and that's my half-sister who I'm in a relationship with. I have a son from a previous relationship; let's call him Billy Jr. Currently I live in the UK. It's illegal here to marry or be with any family member including family members who are married into the family such as step-fathers, step-mothers, step-sisters, step-brothers.

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Sunday, August 17, 2014

Have a Look Around

Are you new to this blog? Maybe you've been here before, but have missed some of the features here.

Over there in the column on the right you can find ways to connect and to follow this blog.

There at the top of the page are tabs with drop-downs of some important pages, entries, and links.

There's a Welcome message and there's an About This Blog page, and you can read about the triad that originally inspired this blog.

There's a Glossary so that you can become familiar with terms frequently used here.

I explain why we need solidarity in supporting full marriage equality and I debunk all the arguments that you'll ever hear made against equality.

On the Case Studies page I feature interviews with people who have been denied their rights, so you can "meet" people who are, or have been, in consensual loving relationships who have are harmed by the lack of equality under the law.

Are you here because of polyamory or polygamy? Perhaps you're here because this blog covers Genetic Sexual Attraction or consanguinamory (consensual incest)? Do you need help?


Whether you're a family member or friend who is looking for more information, or a journalist, or are someone who is looking to help the cause, I hope you are helped by what is here.

This blog is a labor of love. There's no advertising and we don't accept monetary contributions. Want to help? Spread the word. Also, this blog DOES accept content submissions (fullmarriageequality at yahoo dot com), but makes no offer, implicit nor explicit, of compensation nor guarantees that it will be used.

A very kind person improved this blog's template. I hope you are liking the new look. I still need to take care of a couple of things.

Tell me what you think!
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Saturday, August 16, 2014

Facebook and Twitter and More

Have you joined the Facebook group yet? Join "I Support Full Marriage Equality."

You should also like this page, Full Marriage Equality, and we meant that.

Are we Facebook friends? I want to be friends with all who support full marriage equality and relationship rights for all adults. Here I am.

Are we connected on Twitter? Here I am.

Are we connected on Tumblr? Here I am.

If you don't want to connect, still feel free to send me a note. I can be reached at fullmarriageequality at yahoo dot com

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Friday, August 15, 2014

Ever Wanted to Be In a Documentary?

Or maybe just help the documentary production research? There's a company called Clover Films that is looking for "alternative" relationships, including nonmonogamous or polyamorous, or consanguineous relationships. Someone there contacted me and wrote...
I am currently researching a documentary series for an international broadcaster around the subject of marriage equality rights and the struggles of people in alternative relationships across different societies and cultures worldwide. 
Clover Films is an international award winning documentary company, including 2 Emmys. One of our recent titles includes Transgenders: Pakistan's Open Secret. We explored the relationship between the transgender community in Karachi, Pakistan and Pakistani society. This film was selected by the UNAFF (United Nations Association Film Festival) and had a tremendous response when broadcast. 
We are not aiming to produce a tactless voyeuristic documentary series. We look at tough-to-tackle subjects and put them into the respective cultural context they deserve. There are many complex and complicated questions, and the entire series will be developed to address some of the misconceptions about these issues.
I asked about protecting identities of people who are closeted, and was provided with more information...
If you get a chance, check out our website. You'll see we're always working with people whose identities we must conceal through blurring and voice recognition: Taliban fighters, witnesses to crimes, abused children, etc. One of the reasons we are so respected and get such access is because we devote a lot of time and resources to ensure anonymity for people who need it. It would be irresponsible not to be dedicated to that, first and foremost. Please know we completely understand and respect you for also doing the same. 
That being said, should any participants feel that they want to appear openly, documentary films do have more impact when people can identify with those taking part. We would always work together with our participants and broadcasters to ensure that the right decision is made. On our most recent film in Pakistan, we worked incredibly closely with the broadcaster lawyers to protect the participants of our film.
And...
This isn't a casting call. We're looking to make a serious documentary series, not a voyeuristic reality show. 
Please assure your contacts that Clover is a serious production company that has worked with the BBC, Al Jazeera, PBS FRONTLINE and many, many more channels internationally.
So, if you're interested, follow the link at the top of the entry to make contact. When these things are done right, they can open minds and hearts.
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Thursday, August 14, 2014

Casting Call for Cousin Couples

Attention all cousins couples who want to appear on television: a production company is looking for you. I received a casting call from said production company. [Bumping up with a corrected email address.]

Please be mindful, if you're not already, that a few states still technically criminalize sex between first cousins.

As we know, there are a lot of myths about cousin relationships, and a well-done series can do much to raise awareness and reduce prejudices.

Here is the text of the casting call...

Against all odds and everyone’s opinion, are you dating, marrying or involved with your COUSIN?   

Are you tired of disapproving family, jokes about your relationship and want to clear the air? Or perhaps you’ve kept your cousin-­‐romance a secret and want to share your story?

We’re casting cousins who appear to be between the ages of 18-24 and are together in various relationships for a new documentary. We’re looking for people who want to share their story.

Please email us the following information to cousinscasting123@gmail.com:
  • Your Name
  • Location 
  • Phone  and  Email, twitter, facebook, instagram - all contact information
  • Who are you in a relationship with? (how are you related)
  • Who knows and doesn’t know about your relationship?
  • Please include several recent pictures of you and your partner.    
The casting director from LES Casting  wrote that they "produce and cast many different projects for several different networks (OWN, History Channel, A&E, etc)."
The idea is that while there are still taboos around this subject, most couples who are romantically linked with their cousins are just normal, regular everyday people who are happy to have found love. We are interested in exploring these couples stories, how they met, how they are moving forward in their relationships and how they are dealing with any kind of stigma from society. The hope is that through a series like this, EVERYONE can relate to these love stories on some level.
This looks promising. If you're at all interested and may be qualified, check it out.
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How Nonmonogamous People Can Avoid Trouble


Believe it or not, there are still criminal laws in many places criminalizing consensual sex and relationships between adults.

It doesn't matter to them how loving, happy, and lasting the relationships are. It apparently doesn't matter to the people interfering that every dollar or minute they spend trying to stop consenting adults from loving each other is a dollar or minute that could instead go into protecting people, especially children, against predators.

In addition to the persecution and prosecution of consanguinamorous people, polyamorists, polygamists, and other ethical nonmonogamists can face discrimination and even prosecution.
Some awesome people put together a very helpful lists of state laws for polyamorous people in the US or considering moving to the US. First, note the disclaimer that there is an ever-present at the bottom of this blog. I'll mostly repeat it here:
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Documentary Production Needs Funding

If you support full marriage equality, there are many ways to help the cause. One of the ways is raising awareness. Even informative documentaries that take a neutral stance can help because the more that people see relationships that are discriminated against consist of real people who are hurt by prejudice, the better. I’ve previously passed along calls for interview or documentary subjects (see this recent posting, for example) but now I’m passing along an opportunity to provide funding for a new documentary.

Jan-Willem Breure, a Dutch director, is currently working on documentary about consanguinamory, and it will challenge the “incest taboo.” Please note this is not a documentary about abuse or molestation. This is about sex, or to be redundant, consensual sex.

A previous documentary by Breure won the Dutch Media Prize for Best Documentary of the Year, so he is not some inexperienced, unknown character. He’s looking for donors who can provide amounts small as well as large.

Here is the website:

www.jw-productions.com

There is a trailer available to give you an idea of the production. If you want to see it, email Breure or you can contact me a fullmarriagequality at yahoo dot com

Documentaries and other media should not ignore this subject or treat it with a negative bias. Here’s a chance to help, if you’re so inclined.

And, as always, if you're in a "forbidden" relationship and want to be interviewed for this blog like dozens of others have been, contact me.



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Wednesday, August 13, 2014

The US Supreme Court Should Rule for Equality

In June 2013, the US Supreme Court took baby steps forward towards full marriage equality. Since then, state and federal courts and the Obama Administration have been taking more steps forward. But there is still a long way to go and still wasteful resistance to progress.

The Court should consolidate and consider many federal cases now in the system. We want the US Supreme Court to make the best possible ruling, which is to recognize relationship rights, including full marriage equality, for all adults nationwide.

The Court should rule that…



An adult, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race, or religion, should be free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any and all consenting adults, without prosecution, harassment, or discrimination.


There are many reasons why the Court should do this.
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A Private Passion

By my count, this is the thirty-fifth ongoing relationship I've covered through exclusive interviews in which the lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law.

The couple in the interview below are consenting adults with a passionate and playful love for each other. Yet they face discrimination and prejudice for their love. Other than being attractive, there is nothing about them that would cause you to look at them and see anything different than any other citizen who should have their rights. They are very much in love and it is cruel to discriminate against them or criminalize their relationship.

Read the interview below and ask yourself if there is one good reason these two consenting adults should be denied their right to marry and have their marriage treated equally under the law or should have to hide the full, true nature of their relationship from anyone in their life.

**PLEASE NOTE SOME OF THE DISCUSSION GETS SEXUALLY INTENSE**


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FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourself.

Pat: I'm a 27-year-old white male, living in Oregon. After attending college locally, I'm self-employed and live with my mother, who is 45 and who is also my wife. We live alone.


FME: You are in a sexual relationship with your genetic mother?

Pat: Yes.

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Monday, August 11, 2014

Yes, It Does Happen

The news from Brazil about a Genetic Sexual Attraction case is prompting commentaries and discussions about things like "Incest by Accident," which is the title of this piece at guardianlv.com by Roanne FitzGibbon...
Recently, a couple about to be married in South Africa introduced their parents to each other, which resulted in facts that had long been hidden. The couple, expecting their first child, were all set to be married when the parents of each partner revealed some truths. It turns out that the bride and groom-to-be were actually brother and sister. Through a series of events and circumstances they did not know while growing up, their own parents confessed to secrets that made a difference. The soon to be wedded couple simply ended their love affair, despite their feelings and proceeded alone without their lover.
I think she's referring to this case.

Sad cases of finding out the truth of heritage have prevented or annulled otherwise happy unions. In the interest of upholding laws and rules, some lovers have forsaken their vows in the name of doing the right thing.

But is it really the right thing to break up a new family? I supposed it is, if the lovers can no longer go on together, but it seems to me like it is external disapproval that has been internalized.
Marrying a cousin or having sexual relations with a relative is generally a criminal offense and mostly banned around the world.

See here for a good idea of what the laws actually say.
Exceptions and allowances do occur for incest by accident, but for the most part, it has been deemed crude and offensive.

More than a natural attraction, love affairs involving incest are considered weird and unaccepted.

This is what I have to say about that.
Having children out of these unions can result in genetic malfunctions and mutations.
Sure, as can any birth.

Promoting a stance with incest is an offense and can be punishable through law, as one cartoonist found out recently in Kendal, Cumbria, England. Andrew Smith’s images of Bart and Lisa Simpson having sex were confiscated and alarming.

Aside from copyright infringement, those characters are ten years old and younger, so that has nothing to do with real adults.

I'm not quite sure what the point of that piece was, other than "it does happen." It does. It happens all of the time, and, in most situations, it never makes the news.

I wrote this for those who want help. My advice to anyone who finds out that they're with a close genetic relative is to first and foremost, keep quiet about it, as nobody else needs to know immediately, and think about it. This is the same person you fell in love it. Finding out that you're close genetic relatives does not change who the other person is. Think about that before deciding whether or not to end or change the relationship.
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Sunday, August 10, 2014

How Consanguineous Lovers Can Avoid Trouble


Believe it or not, there are still criminal laws in many places criminalizing consensual sex between adults, and there are still police officers who will investigate people for this "crime," still prosecutors who will take the case before a court, and still judges and jurors who will convict people and sentence them to prison.

It doesn't matter to them how loving the relationships are. It doesn't matter if they love each other more than they could love others, it doesn't matter if the lovers didn't even meet each other until they were adults. It apparently doesn't matter to the people interfering that every dollar or minute they spend trying to stop consenting adults from loving each other is a dollar or minute that could instead go into protecting people, especially children, against predators.

In addition to this persecution of consanguinamorous people, there aren't any protections against other forms of discrimination against the consanguinamorous, such as employment discrimination. There are still many states that don't have protections for LGBT people, either, and polyamorous people are even less protected than monogamous LGBT people.

I sometimes forget that people don’t follow the news and law as closely as I do for this blog, so they may be unaware of these things. So I want to share with you what I've learned.

First, note the disclaimer that there is an ever-present at the bottom of this blog. I'll mostly repeat it here:

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