In some places, laws against polygamy and consanguineous intimacy (consanguinamory) would have to be repealed, overruled, or superseded, just as some places have done with laws against sodomy, interracial marriage, same-sex marriage, cohabitation, etc. - and I argue in favor of that in that people have a right to engage in these things and receive equal treatment from their government and society and protection against certain forms of oppression.
As long as a locality has a justice of the peace or some other agent authorized to perform legally binding marriage ceremonies who will do so without discrimination, I do not argue that any ordained clergy with conscientious objections should be required to perform ceremonies without discrimination unless said clergy is receiving government funds or is employed by the government.
The global definition of marriage should be as follows:
The uniting of consenting individuals in a witnessed ceremony.In other words, marriage should involve only these requirements:
1. The participants shall have consented to the marriage.
2. The participants shall undergo a witnessed marriage ceremony.
3. Any current spouse of any of the participants must have been informed and have either consented, or been allowed to divorce.
A married couple or triad taking on an additional participant may, legally, be forming a new marriage. Or, if only one of them wants to be married to this new participant, and the others have not objected, then this would be a distinct marriage from the existing marriage. A "community property" marriage would mean all are married to each other legally, even if they don't consider themselves married socially. An "equitable distribution" marriage wouldn't necessarily work that way. Existing agreements should be honored, or modified under the consent of all parties. For example, If a man and woman are married with an agreement that the women would get certain assets or support in the event of a divorce, then the man can't lawfully agree to provide those same assets to an additional wife; but the existing agreement can be revised with the original wife's consent. In a community property "all with all" marriage, the original wife would also be gaining a second spouse, and the default division of marital assets would go from 50%/50% to 33%/33%/33%.
I am friends with, inspired by, and thus have chosen via this blog to represent a biological brother, sister, and mother who are seeking marriage equality. They are all above the age of consent where they reside. Bigotry, hatred, discrimination, ignorance, intolerance, fear, and resistance to change are the forces preventing from being able to have a public marriage. As it stands now, in many places. they could be prosecuted for crimes if it could be proven to a court that they had simply expressed their love for each other in certain ways, even in the privacy of their own home.
I do not advocate anyone engage in activity that is currently illegal in their jurisdiction; I do advocate changing or repealing any law that prevents the freedom of association, love, and full marriage equality. I do not believe anyone should have to move away from home to be legally free to express the fullness of their love. Perhaps this blog can help bring enlightenment and understanding, and as a result, equality.
UPDATE September 21, 2010 -The right to consanguineous (between close relatives) sex and marriage tends to gets most of my attention on this blog, then poly rights, with same-sex rights getting the least attention out of all three categories. This is because I am based in the USA, where same-sex relationships are no longer criminalized; the right to same-sex marriage is recognized in a handful of states and thankfully may be recognized nationwide soon. There are many great online resources supporting the right to same-sex marriage. There are many great online resources supporting poly rights, though poly people still have a ways to go. However, only some states permit first cousins to marry and except for specialized exceptions, no state allows marriage for closer relatives; most states actually criminalize consensual sex between close relatives. Linked to this is an ongoing, pervasive prejudice against consanguineous sexual relationships. The support network for consanguineous rights needs to be grown most of all, so that is what gets most of my attention.
UPDATE December 9, 2010 - Read more about the triad who inspired this blog.
UPDATE February 2, 2011 - I have made revisions to this page and the home page to reflect my support for people to not only be able to choose "all-with-all" marriages of three or more spouses (compatible with community property law), but also having the alternative option of "dyadic networks" marriages instead of "all-with-all."
Comments are welcome.
Proposed Marriage Equality Amendment
Map Showing Freedom Levels For Consanguineous Marriage
Love vs. Abuse - Consensual sex between adults is not rape or abuse.
Help for the Abused
Help For Those With "Prohibited" or Persecuted Sexual Orientations or Relationships