- I am afraid of people becoming aware of my gender, sexual orientation, attractions, relationship(s), or sexual experiences.
- I am attracted to someone, a few, some, or only people of my gender.
- I am in or want a same-gender relationship or marriage.
- I am gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, queer, questioning, curious, or heteroflexible.
- I feel like a different gender than what I appear to be to most people.
- I am transgender, gender non-conforming, genderfluid, non-binary, intersex, or androgynous.
- I don’t fit into a “traditional” gender role or the role other people think I should have.
- I do not want to ever get married.
- I do not want close relationships, only casual ones.
- I enjoy casual sex at least on occasion.
- I/we enjoy swinging.
- I/we enjoy swapping.
- I/we enjoy threesomes.
- I/we enjoy group sex.
- I/we are polygamous or want a polygamous marriage.
- I am polyamorous.
- I am in or want a polyamorous relationship.
- I am seeing a polyamorous person.
- I/we have or want an open relationship/marriage.
- I am attracted to or want to have sex with a family member or close relative (an in-law, step-relation, adopted relation, half-blood relative, full-blood relative, cousin).
- I am in a sexual relationship with or want a sexual relationship with a family member or close relative.
- I want to marry a family member or close relative, or have our existing marriage legally recognized.
- I have experienced Genetic Sexual Attraction or a strong attraction to a close genetic relative I was not raised with or I didn’t raise or who didn’t raise me.
- I am in or want a consensual incestuous relationship with another adult.
You need to know:
- You are not alone.
- Your feelings, your experiences, and what you want are not necessarily wrong or impossible.
- You have a future. It gets better. You can have a great life!
- Change is happening, and you can help it happen faster.
Not everyone is going to want to accept who you are or who you love or how you love. That’s okay, as long as they don’t try to control you. Sexual, relationship, and marriage rights are arriving for all adults, and as that happens, anyone who hates you or is prejudiced against you will have less and less ability to hurt you. That is why this blog exists; we promote relationship rights, including full marriage equality.
Please see these other pages on this blog:
For New Readers
About This Blog
Against Abuse - There's a difference between abuse...and love and sex.
Love vs. Abuse
Help for the Abused
Help For Those With "Prohibited" or Persecuted Sexual Orientations or Relationships
On Polyamory and Polygamy
On Genetic Sexual Attraction
Consensual Incest FAQ
I Am Sex Positive
Why Support Full Marriage Equality?
Answering Common Objections to Full Marriage Equality
Ten Myths About Sibling Consanguinamory
How You Can Help
For Family and Friends
For Journalists
About This Blog
Against Abuse - There's a difference between abuse...and love and sex.
Love vs. Abuse
Help for the Abused
Help For Those With "Prohibited" or Persecuted Sexual Orientations or Relationships
On Polyamory and Polygamy
On Genetic Sexual Attraction
Consensual Incest FAQ
I Am Sex Positive
Why Support Full Marriage Equality?
Answering Common Objections to Full Marriage Equality
Ten Myths About Sibling Consanguinamory
How You Can Help
For Family and Friends
For Journalists
![Non-Monogamy Diagram [I:FV]](http://www.obsidianfields.com/lj/nonmonogamy2.5.1.gif){kind=link}
I belong to this category: I am attracted to a very close family member - my older sister. We are both in our 40s and I don't know how to talk to her about it. We are the only ones in the family, just the two of us.
ReplyDeleteWelcome. Feel free to contact me via email or on Facebook.
DeleteFamily with benefits in Danger
ReplyDeleteIm an Indian middle aged software professional. My wife n i share a great marriage. We are sex positive. N have a fair share of sexual experimentation and activities.
We have two teens. We all are intimate. But the kids never had sex yet. Indian society n laws are tougher to deal with. N we are afraid.
Should we migrate to US?
Are there options?
Will it help?
I'm assuming you are not talking about abusing or preying on underage children. From what I understand, India has no laws against consensual sex between family members. However, if you find your family can't live there in peace, you might want to look into moving to Spain.
DeleteI'm 15 and have had a crush on my sister (2 years younger) since I was 10. I wan't to tell her but we don't get along very well. In fact we get along worse than most siblings. We got along extremely well for a while when I was 12 but it's gotten progressively worse since. :'(
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing that. You are both still very young. You are not alone in your feelings.
DeleteIs there any gsa organzation?
ReplyDeleteI don't know of any public supportive GSA organization. There is a Yahoo Group and there are a couple of other online venues. Contact me via email at fullmarriageequality at yahoo dot com or private message at Facebook.com/fullmarriageequality and I can help you out.
DeleteMy mother and I began a sexual relationship when I was 28 and she was 49. It began with a visit home for Thanksgiving when my step father was dying of cancer. From the moment I stepped off the plane, my mother was hugging, kissing me (pecks on the lips), and left the airport terminal with her arm in mine.
ReplyDeleteThat very evening she exposed herself to me as casually as she could giving me the worst case of blue balls I've ever had in my life. When I left to sleep downstairs and she embraced me in a hug my erection pressed against her firmly. I was certain she felt my excitement, but she didn't seem to mind in the least and just held me close to her.
That night, my mother appeared at my bedside in tears pouring her heart out about losing my step father and being alone. As I comforted her in my arms, she asked me if she was attractive and I told her she was beautiful in wide and out. It was then told me if she didn't get some sexual satisfaction she felt like she was going to go insane, and it was then she asked me if I would have sex with her.
What happened between us that night was nothing short of magic. My mother had me empty myself inside her completely and we spent some time laying together in the dark connected by our sexes discussing the earth moving experience we had shared.
For the duration of my visit we had sex regularly, and by the time I had to return home, she asked me to move home. By then, it was obvious to us both we didn't want what happened between us to end so I moved home and we continued to be together for nearly five years.
Anonymous, thanks for sharing that. I would like to talk with you more about this. Please contact me at fullmarriageequality at yahoo dot com
Deleteafraid of people becoming aware of my gender, sexual orientation, attractions, relationship(s), or sexual experiences? nobody should be afraid of this.
ReplyDeleteI thank you for this blog. As I am in a consang relationship, with my half brother. We have had issues along the way. He was put up for adoption at birth. I never knew he existed until I was 21, when he located our mother. Our attraction started immediately. We did what we could to fight it. Now some 19 years later, we have fully embraced us and our love for one another. Our story is full of ups and downs, as I am sure many are. We are at the point now that we have to "act" like siblings when we are around family, we are finding it harder to do so as time passes and our relationship grow.
ReplyDeleteI have enjoyed reading through this blog and will most certainly pass it on to my other half. Knowing we are not freaks and not alone is very comforting. Some day we hope that our laws will change so we can live as a couple, just like everyone else.
I think the world is going about decriminalizing incest all wrong. I challenge the incestual society to identify the positives...both societal, and cultural, that exists if incest were not a crime or considered wrong.
ReplyDeleteLike this...
1. Why does society dictate that people who already have others that they love, and others that love them, that that person now needs to abandon those loved ones and risk their lives to find someone else to live and exist with, that will never love that person as much as they are already loved in their own family. When that person has loving parents and siblings, why does that person HAVE to walk away from the family that loves them, and find someone through trial and danger to love in place of the loved ones they ALREADY have living and loving right beside them.
2. Less suicide - With out the restrictions of society towards incest, the closeness and support of your family loved ones, is readily available. There is less aloneness, more support people readily there with you. Family that can live with you, and love with you without having to leave you to find their own loving support.
3. Genetic engineering - With the advances in genetic engineering, even having offspring with incestual partners is minimized to the same levels of risk of deficiencies, or deformities, as non-incestual relationships. Maybe even less than that. With genetic engineering, genetic mutations common in one family genetic pool can be identified and removed, before birth. CRISPR and other technologies can completely remove genetic anomalies, in a family genetic pool because they would be more readily identifiable.
4. Domestic violence - With society dictating that you must abandon the people that love you and cherish you already...such as family, you are required to seek out strangers, that over a pretty short time, are supposed to be trusted, and loved by you. Yet for a 20yr old person, society says you are to abandon to 20 yr love, of all your loved ones...then meet and know someone for only a year or two, and expect them to love and cherish you the same way as the five family members that you just abandoned, and have known for the whole 20 yrs of your life. Something is wrong with this picture.
5. Less poverty - higher family wealth - When clans were a thing, the clan/family had a combined wealth. For instance now, one family member with $10,000 couldn't do, or buy, much of anything. But five family members with $10,000 each could combine their money and buy a new truck...and use that truck to create more wealth for the collective family. Now we tell individuals to go out into the big bad world, without the financial and mental support system of the family.
6. Less failure - It’s simple, one person digging a hole for an in-ground pool...will take far longer than 4-5 people digging the hole together. From businesses to quality of life. An incestual family, or clan of families, could create established overall goals, and then achieve them with a collective effort from family members. Especially if the family members are lovers & friends, supporting and wanting the same thing for each other. If the family banded together toward common wealth and quality of life goals, as the saying goes..."A rising tide, lifts all boats..."
7. Less obesity - Much of obesity comes from lack of movement, or low self esteem. Within a consenting family unit being lovers with you, parents and siblings, it creates deeper bonds, deeper trust, deeper support, deeper caring, and more in depth observation of each family member. With emotional, and sexual involvement with family members, there is much less low self esteem. Your family members who you have known for your whole 20 yrs of your life, give you positive mental and physical praise and support, than you, as a person get, when society makes you abandon your loved ones and exists in the big bad scary world, where self concerns about your whole being fester and multiply.
8. Senior Care - An incestual family would simply care for its members, more than a non-incestual family. If you had been lovers with your mom, or dad, for the last 30yrs, and they were now becoming senior citizens in need of additional support and care. Caring for the elders of the family would generate much more caring, if they had been loving sexual partners for all those years. And what of the 80 yr old woman with no partner of her own...her own 50yr old son could make her feel like a millions bucks, with the simple act of oral sex with his mom. Something he had been doing for the last 30-40 yrs... The upgraded care for seniors is almost limitless. Seniors with sexual relief, are infinitely more healthy and functional than seniors without sexual relief. With sexual relief being available within the family, there would be far less seniors in neglected nursing homes, and more seniors playing tennis on the courts.
ReplyDelete9. More money - With multiple family members, living incestuously, combining incomes and wealth, each individual family member would see themselves as part of something more than only themselves. They would not look at their wallet, and see only $37...they would know they have the wealth of the collective family to rely on and assist them. There would be virtually NO FEAR of lacking food, or other sustenance. There would be much, much, much...did I say 'very much' less poverty. Also, an extreme amount of reduction in government programs for the poor.
10. Housing - Of course we would need less houses...or land for those houses. 1 acre of land could easily have 4 houses of one family on it. Whereas, 4 houses, each with an acre, would use up 4 acres of land. Incestual family housing would be very different that traditional houses today. Houses could be one structure, with individual wings, with a central kitchen and even living rooms. While the larger houses would cost more to build, they would cost less per person, living in them.
11. Mental well-being - Again, it is almost limitless, to imagine the increased mental well-being of the incestual family members. To love, and be in love with the person next to you, that you have grown up your whole life, loving them. Everything about you mentally would be better and of a higher scale. A loving touch, a loving laugh, and even a loving cry together, would uplift the mental well-being beyond what could be described here. When you are really sad, or depressed, great sex with a loved family member, will certainly turn things for the better. Also, when it time to celebrate, really celebrate, like you won the lottery celebrate, great sex with family members can also be undescribeable. Simply put, the mental support, caring, and comfort, that come with an incestual family, would have profound mental well-being benefits for all of the family members.
Well that's my challenge to think of incest in terms of society. To break through the cultural norms. In truth, it seems to make much more sense to have an incestual society, than a non-incestual society. Everything would basically still be as it is today. You could still marry outside the family. You could still start, and run your own business. You could still go it alone if you chose to...but what if you didn't have to...that all of your personal needs from love, support and to sex, your family was there for you.
I have come with 11 reasons to promote incestual relationships. I challenge the underlying incestual society to come up with more reasons. Also, ask yourself...who is the idiot, or where in the hell did society, get the idea that non-incestual families are better than incestual families....when incest makes so much more of a sense of reasoning.
I believe these reasons and more should be used for the trial in New York, to convince the judge. I also believe that the collective reasons above, represent our rights as humans, and that decriminalizing incest, is actually our civil right.
Hello Keith I last was in touch with you about a year ago . I am in my 50's and my sister is in the same age group . I have lusted after her on and off over the past 40 years . We get along really well in face to face chats and our texts often include 😊🤗 to each other . This morning in reply to my message telling her to have a good day with 🤩😊 she replied with ' merci beaucoup 🥰 . What should I read into this - if anything ?
ReplyDeleteI don’t have enough context. Contact me privately: https://marriage-equality.blogspot.com/2018/07/this-is-how-you-contact-keith.html
DeleteI want to share the credo formulated by me: "Any two human beings have the highest moral right voluntarily, freely, without any external restrictions to love each other, create a family, have children together (as far as nature allows) – regardless of skin color, nationality, citizenship, gender, age and degree of kinship."
ReplyDeleteI am sure that only two sufficient reasons are important that give any couple a reason to be together – conscious mutual love and the courage to defend it in front of the whole world.
It is amazing that in the public consciousness incest is associated only with the physical side of the genders' attraction, with the thirst for sex, with domestic violence, with perversions. As if true love between relatives is impossible in principle. This stupid idea manifests itself in an exclusively erotic and pornographic display of this phenomenon in the mass media, on specific Internet communication platforms. Literature and cinema more seriously allow for certain feelings in addition to ordinary peeping, sniffing dirty underwear, copulation and masturbation, but a religious and social moral order runs through them like a red thread: nothing good ever comes out of the relationship of relatives, even if they were not imprisoned, children were not taken away, they were not executed, or the heroes did not finish suicide.
ReplyDeleteEvery day for many centuries they are hammering into us that incest necessarily leads to a tragedy with or without a fatal outcome, that this is a law of nature. They say that even animals do not encroach on brothers, sisters, fathers and mothers out of some higher considerations of genetics or divine providence, although everyone knows that this is complete nonsense. However, where such a law came from and whether it exists at all is indecent to discuss, this is also something like a taboo: kinda such degenerates who encroach on family members are provided with moral degradation, an abominable lifestyle, defective offspring, external deformity, mental retardation, death - and that's it. Even if it is known that single acts of inbreeding do not affect the degeneration of the population, and unfavorable genetic changes are generally a probabilistic thing, that there are a lot of disabled people born in quite "normal" families around, that medicine has the means to identify the possibility of defective offspring, prevent this, and even genetic correction of parents. And in general: after all, you cannot have your own children if you are afraid, but use adoption, artificial insemination of donor and so on.
All my thoughts do not mean that I am advertising incest – by no means. The romantic sexual attraction of two human beings to each other cannot be imposed as a popular commodity, as a role model - it is meaningless, ridiculous and ... scary. I just want to convey to those who can and want to hear: if love suddenly breaks out between relatives, trying to suppress it forcibly, especially by involving the law, is cruel, inhumane, just stupid. After all, coercion, stupid suppression, "re-education" have never been successful means of achieving a real goal, no matter how high this goal may seem.