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Saturday, May 21, 2011

Avoid Hurtful People

A quote from Victor, one of the most helpful people at the GSA forum

Just because you're related to someone doesn't mean they can't be a complete ass. Just because you love someone doesn't mean they love you back.
Victor’s signature also includes this quote…

"The one that will not reason is a bigot; the one that cannot reason is an idiot and fool; but the one that dares not reason is a slave to the opinions of others."
Both statements are so true.

As with some people we’ve thought of as friends, someone we’re related to can be a hurtful, destructive, or irresponsible person. Just because we thought someone was a friend, or just because we’re related to someone doesn’t mean they won’t betray us. In addition to generally being hurtful people, they may also be bigoted and nonaccepting when it comes to our relationships or sexuality. You can struggle to find mutual love and happiness, only to experience rejection and even threats from the people you thought were your friends, or from family.

Or, we can find ourselves attracted to someone who is all wrong for us. Victor’s first statement was in regards to someone who is experiencing GSA for someone who is not being kind and responsible in return.

So what to do? Appreciate your true friends, especially the ones to whom you happen to be related. Do what you can to give more of yourself to them, and as little of yourself as possible to the destructive people.

A special thanks to all allies for full marriage equality.
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1 comment:

  1. A very difficult lesson to learn for husband and me, that having some matching DNA doesn't mean somebody has a right to be a part of your life, and you're not evil for distancing yourself from hurtful people even if you're related to them.

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