Friday, May 13, 2011

Another Pespective on the FLDS Polygamy Issue

Macha, who has been kind enough to leave some comments here, has a great blog to check out. In this entry, Macha points out that polygamy isn't the problem when it comes to groups like some FLDS communities.

I realized then, that it's not polygamy. Polygamy is not the problem. It's the way it's practiced. It's the other harmful and abusive practices and beliefs mixed in with polygamy.


While polygamy can be abusive, dehumanizing, and unhealthy, so can monogamy. So can heterosexual relationships, homosexual relationships, polyamorous relationships, familial relationships, friendships, married and unmarried relationships. ANY relationship. The problem with groups like the FLDS is not that men marry and have sex with more than one woman.

Read it all. I’m not here to condemn (or defend) all FLDS communities. Macha has read much more about them than I have. But what was important to me was someone else seeing that polygamy is not to blame for domestic violence of child abuse in FLDS communities, or any polygamous community. If multiple adult women freely choose to marry one adult man and everyone is treated with respect and kindness, that is not a problem.

Hold abusers accountable. It is easier to do so when victims and potential witnesses aren’t turned into criminals simply because of their marriage. That is just one reason why full marriage equality is important.
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1 comment:

  1. Thanks for the shout-out! I'm glad you enjoyed the post!


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