Acceptance Not Condemnation

Jane Doe continues to blog with great entries. This time, she explains how people hurt when they should be helping instead.

However, how can we be sick simply for falling in love with someone?

Excellent question! Consanguinamory is not sick.

None of us in our community asked to be consang, with all the complications that brings to our lives. But for better and worse, we are. Right now, consangs face unique struggles, our love is often one that dare not speak it's name aloud. Yet in reality, we do not differ from other people in all the ways that really matter in life. We fall in love, we spend our lives together, we have families, sometimes we are lucky enough to grow old together, in the shadows, unseen, unsung and uncelebrated. 

No, we're not sick people, we're normal human beings with normal lives made all the more complicated and anxiety ridden by the burden of secrecy and fear placed upon us. We don't need 'help' either, because there is nothing at all wrong with being a consang. I'm very comfortable with my sexual identity thanks very much, I wouldn't change it for the world, because it's a part of me and it's made me who I am.

Jane is on target!

In short, there is no reason or need to 'help' people who are happy with their sexual identity, regardless of which orientation they happen to belong to. And yes, consanguinamory is an orientation, just as normal and just as healthy as any of the above. It does not make us evil, and it does not make us sick.

Thanks, Jane! Go read the whole thing, and more of her blog.

Harassing consenting adults for loving each other makes things worse, not better. Make things better. There is no good reason to deny consenting adult their rights to the relationships to which they mutually agree, including marriage.

There good chance someone you love or at least appreciate is consanguinamorous. Make things better for them, not worse.