Making a Mark

People in consanguinamorous relationships are everywhere, though consanguinamorists tend to be closeted. Fortunately, some are willing to be interviewed for this blog. As a result, Full Marriage Equality has featured scores of exclusive interviews with lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are, by law, denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law.

The man interviewed below should be free to legally marry his lover, yet they can't, and they could be imprisoned and have their lives ruined if they were outed to the wrong people. They are consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone; why should they be denied their rights? In much of the world, including all but a a few US states, they could be criminally prosecuted for their love

Read the interview below and see for yourself what this man has to say. You may think his relationship is interesting, or it might make you uncomfortable, or you might find it ideal, even highly erotic and romantic, but whatever your reaction, should these lovers be denied equal access to marriage or any other rights simply because they love each other this way?


WARNINGS: Mildly explicit sexuality.


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FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourself.

Mark: I’m a thirty-something white male. I live on the outskirts of a big city in Switzerland. I have no kids or siblings. I think I'm middle class; I can afford to treat myself, and mom, to some niceties of life, but don't own a yacht or a Ferrari. I'm an avid cyclist, downhill skier and love photography. I'm a member of a handball team and earn my living as an engineer.  I like to think that I'm liked and respected by my peers.  Although I do enjoy good company, I'm not a party animal. 

Presidents Day

It's one of our extended holiday weekends here in the US, meaning Monday is a national holiday, this time for Presidents Day (which replaced Washington's Birthday and Lincoln's Birthday).

All the modern Presidents have been men married to a woman while campaigning and in office. There was at least one President in our history who wasn't married. Reagan had been divorced and remarried. Trump, as most people know, has been divorced twice and is into his third marriage.

We came very close to having our first female President. Of course, she was and is married to a man (one of our former Presidents!)

When will we have a woman as President? When will he have an out LGBTQ President? There are least a couple of women serving in high office right now who could eventually break both barriers at the same time.

We have had plenty of nonmonogamous Presidents. When will we have one who is openly, ethically nonmonogamous?

Hopefully, more and more future voters will understand that people can be great leaders and be gay, or lesbian, or pansexual, and/or genderqueer, and/or polyamorous.

With consanguinamory still being criminalized in most states, having openly an openly consanguinamorous President seems much further off. Never say never, though.

Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is here again. Many people will be getting married. Married people will be celebrating their anniversaries, or simply having a night out, as will other people hoping to get married someday, or maybe just enjoying being together in public.

If you are in such a situation, good for you and enjoy it.

Whether you are or not, take a moment to think about all of the people who can’t marry the person or person(s) they love, or can’t so much as hold hands in public without being accosted. Think about the people, consenting adults, who have to completely hide their relationships because they could be sent to prison for simply having sex in private. Think about the people who have to hide who they are because, where they live, they could be killed for being who they are. Think about the people who can’t accept gifts from their their lover(s) at work, or even a loving comment in social media, because it would out them and get them fired.

This is what goes on because some people are being denied their rights to share sex, love, residence, and marriage. The US has had the limited monogamous same-gender freedom to marry nationwide, which was a great step forward, for years now, and it hasn't hurt anything. Other victories for that freedom to marry since February 14, 2018 have included...

Alderney ...June 14, 2018
Jersey ...July 1
(A referendum to constitutionally ban same-sex marriage in Romania failed ...October 7)
Bermuda (again!) ...November 23
(Same-sex civil unions become legal in San Marino ...December 5)
Austria ...January 1, 2019

In most of the world, a man can’t marry both of the women he loves, despite both women being in favor of such a marriage.

The people in most of these interviews can't have legally recognized marriages anywhere in the world, with perhaps one or two exceptions, and we need full marriage equality before people like Linda, Melissa, and Matthew can tie the knot.

So enjoy Valentine's Day if you are able, but think for a moment about the people who will only be able to fully enjoy theirs when we have full marriage equality so that an adult, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race, or religion, is free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any and all consenting adults without prosecution, persecution, or discrimination. Help make it happen sooner rather than later.

Do you have special plans? Or, if you're reading this after Valentine's Day, do you have anything special to report? If so, comment below. Remember, you can comment anonymously. Or, if you prefer, send Keith an email at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com

Another Couple Denied Their Right to Marry

As a result of people in consanguinamorous relationships being brave enough to reach out, Full Marriage Equality has featured scores of exclusive interviews with lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are, by law, denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law.

The man interviewed below should be free to legally marry his lover, yet they can't, and they could have their lives ruined if they were outed to the wrong people. They are consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone; why should they be denied their rights? In much of the world, including all but a a few US states, they could be criminally prosecuted for their love

Read the interview below and see for yourself what this man has to say about his love with his mother. You may think this relationship is interesting, or it might make you uncomfortable, or you might find it ideal, even highly erotic and romantic, but whatever your reaction, should these lovers be denied equal access to marriage or any other rights simply because they enjoy what we call double love?


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FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourself.

Anonymous Son: I live in India and from an upper middle class family. I currently work for a consulting firm.


FME: You currently live with... (siblings, parents, children, roommates)?

I currently live with my mother.

A Daughter Supports Her Parents

People in consanguinamorous relationships are everywhere, though consanguinamorists tend to be closeted. Even where their love is not criminalized, they can still face harassment, discrimination, and other forms or persecution. Fortunately, some consanguinamorists and some family members are willing to be interviewed for this blog. As a result, Full Marriage Equality has featured scores of exclusive interviews with lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are, by law, denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law. This blog has also had a few interviews with family members of consanguinamorists, such as the one below. 

The woman interviewed below shouldn't have hide the truth about her family.Her parents are consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone; why should they be denied their rights? 

Read the interview below and see for yourself what she has to say when she can speak freely in safety. The interview has been edited for clarity, as English is not her first language.

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FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourself.

Anonymous Daughter: I'm 19, living in a city in Russia, with my parents at the moment. I just finished my studies and I'm not working now. 

Dr. Elisabeth Sheff of Fidelity in Polyamorous Relationships

Sheff continues to write on polyamory, and anyone who wants to know more about polyamory (or ethical nonmonogamy or consensually nonmonogamous relationships in general) should check out what she's written. It is to the credit of psychologytoday.com that they carry these writings. This latest article is on various kinds of fidelity.

Polyfidelity is a form of polyamory in which a group of people agree to be sexually exclusive with each other and not have lovers outside of the group. Usually these groups are quite small—triads with three people or quads with four are most common—though they can be as large as 20-plus people who form an exclusive intimate network. Twin reasons usually motivate people to consider polyfidelity: sexual exclusivity among a smaller group makes fluid bonding much easier, and a desire for emotional exclusivity.  Some groups choose to be polyfidelitous for a while and then later open their sexual choices to include others beyond the group and become polyamorous. For others, especially those who accidentally fell in love with each other and were not necessarily seeking a poly relationship per se but one happened to them anyway, the relationship expanded beyond two is quite enough and the idea of adding even more people to their lives is not appealing.

There's a whole world of different ways to do relationships. We're all better off when our laws and how we respect others take this into account.

Nebraska Denies Marriage Equality and Arrests Consenting Adults

Grand Island police in Hall County, Nebraska must be wondering why they arrested consenting adults for exercising their fundamental rights. Here's yet another example of why unjust laws need to be overturned or repealed, and removed and why we need full marriage equality.

This case has been widely reported and names and pictures of the persecuted have been splashed everywhere.

From 1011now.com...

According to the Grand Island Police Department, a father and a daughter, a 21-year-old female and a 39-year-old male, have been arrested for incest. 

On January 29, Travis E. Fieldgrove, a 39-year-old St. Paul male, and Samantha H. Kershner, a 21-year-old St. Paul female, were arrested on warrants relating to an incest case, according to authorities.

Did they abuse a third person? No!

GIPD said this case relates to the two being involved in an intimate relationship beginning in September of 2018 in Grand Island, Nebraska despite evidence that Fieldgrove is the paternal parent of Kershner.

This shouldn't be a crime! This is nobody else's business? Who is the victim??? If she's a victim, then why was she arrested?!?

Evidence leading up to the arrest suggests that Fieldgrove and Kershner were aware of the biological relationship before being intimate, and further indicates that they quickly married one another after being notified of the investigation.

It's still a crime even if they weren't aware. Because the law is ridiculous!!! They should be free to marry. Unfortunately, they aren't yet. They should have protected themselves.

Court records indicate that the two married at the Adams County courthouse in Hastings. 

Both Fieldgrove and Kershner are charged with felony incest in both Hall and Adams counties.

So two counties are wasting public resources. This needs to stop!