Thursday, February 25, 2021

Family Making the Most of the Distance

We've talked about being stuck at home with family. But what if you're separated by distance, whether on the other side of town, or in a different state/province/territory, even another country, and meeting up is not an option for now?

If you have a consanguinamorous relationship already, the separation can be especially difficult to endure. Modern communications can mitigate that somewhat, as explained below.

But what if you weren't to that point; you'd been thinking about initiating something before you had to stay apart, or you've been thinking about it now that you're missing them and stuck at home?

Communicating with your relatives or family members from a distance can provide a certain level of psychological freedom, especially when you are bored and/or they are. They might be more willing to try something bold and so might you.

So, how do you make something happen?
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Wednesday, February 24, 2021

Answering Questions

A few questions/comments relating to consanguinamory were asked and answered at this blog's sister Tumblr

Check them out, and bookmark/follow that Tumblr.

You can ask questions by commenting here or by contacting Keith
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Monday, February 22, 2021

A Secret Triad

This blog is here to advocate for the rights of all consenting adults to be together how they mutually agree. Included in that is supporting ethical or consensual nonmonogamy. Unfortunately, because of lingering laws and prejudices about consanguinamory, many people can't be open about their attractions and experiences; cheating, which we do not advocate, can happen in such a negative environment as people do not feel free to discuss things openly and honestly with their partners, or anyone else for that matter. Again, we don't advocate cheating, but we recognize that some consanguineous sex does happen in the context of cheating. Still, there are things we can learn about relationships in general and consanguineous relationships especially by interviewing people who have had such experiences.

The woman interviewed below is engaged to a man and having a secret affair with her brother and mother.

In much of the world, including all but a couple of US states, she, her mother, and her brother could be criminally prosecuted for this, not for the cheating, but for having sex with each other.

Read the interview below and see for yourself what this woman has to say. You may think her relationship is interesting, or it might make you uncomfortable, or you might find it ideal, even highly erotic and romantic; you might find the cheating to be unacceptable. But whatever your reaction, should this be a crime? If her fiancé was agreeable, shouldn't they be able to be open about their relationship and even marry? Also, notice that aspects of the relationship are common to consanguineous relationships that don't involve cheating, too. We don't condone cheating, but even a relationship that involves cheating can help give an understanding of the dynamic of consanguineous relationships, as this is happening everywhere.


FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourself.

J: I’m a 9-1-1 Dispatcher in [the Midwest USA]. I’m engaged and have been for over a year. I’ll be getting  married in the fall of 2022. I’m a 23 year-old white blonde. I wear glasses, I’m curvy lady, which took a while for me to accept and embrace. 5’5”. I finished high school and went to college, where is where I met my fiancé.

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Saturday, February 13, 2021

How Marriage Equality Supports Family Values and Morality

There are people who constantly make a point of telling us their beliefs that marriage is important for our countries, that being married is good for adults and for children, that commitment is good, that unmarried sex is bad, unmarried cohabitation is bad, that being a single mother is bad, and that marriage is needed to “channel male sexuality.” They cite with worry the fact that there are fewer married households now and more children being raised outside of a home headed by married parents. These are what they say “family values” and “morality” are about. Everyone should get married and only have sex and raise children in marriage and should go to church every week and enjoy “freedom of religion.”

Let’s consider some facts, at least how the stand in the US (your country may vary.)…
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Wednesday, February 10, 2021

It's Polyamory Week

It's Polyamory Week! February 9 through 15, 2021 is a week to celebrate, spread awareness, and learn about polyamory.

Have questions about polyamory? Ask away!

Polyamorists might choose this week to come out.

Maybe you've been considering polyamory yourself.

Here's a good blog entry marking Polyamory Week 2021.
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Tuesday, February 9, 2021

Ethical Nonmonogamy Has Always Existed and Always Will

Ethical nonmonogamy has always existed and always will.

An adult should be free to have relationships, marriages, and sex with any and all consenting adults, without criminalization, bullying, or discrimination. There should be no laws against ethical nonmonogamy. For example, Utah has had a law criminalizing polyfidelity to try to eliminate plural marriage. It hasn't worked.

People should be free to live out the sexuality and relationships in which they best function, whatever form they take.

People should be free to have a polygamous marriage.

People should be free to have polyamorous relationships.

People should be free to have open marriages and other open relationships.

People should be free to participate in swinging.

People should be free to have threesomes and moresomes.

People should be free to engage in "swapping."

People should be free to have sex outside of marriage.

People should be free to live together in or outside of marriages, and free to stay with each other for any length of time.

There shouldn't be any laws against these things. Don't like these things? Don't do them!

Some people want monogamy, or no relationship or nor sex, and that's fine. But others should be allowed their own lives. There is no good reason to try to stop consenting adults from sharing the relationships and affections to which they've mutually agreed.

Ethical nonmonogamy might also be referred to as consensual nonmonogamy or disclosed nonmonogamy.
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Monday, February 8, 2021

Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is almost here again. Many people will be getting married. Married people will be celebrating their anniversaries, or simply having a night out (or a special night in, considering COVID precautions), as will other people hoping to get married someday, or maybe just enjoying being together in public.

If you are in such a situation, good for you and enjoy it.

Whether you are or not, take a moment to think about all of the people who can’t marry the person or person(s) they love, or can’t so much as hold hands in public without being accosted. Think about the people, consenting adults, who have to completely hide their relationships because they could be sent to prison for simply having sex in private. Think about the people who have to hide who they are because, where they live, they could be killed for being who they are. Think about the people who can’t accept gifts from their their lover(s) at work, or even a loving comment in social media, because it would out them and get them fired.

This is what goes on because some people are being denied their rights to share sex, love, residence, and marriage. The US has had the limited monogamous same-gender freedom to marry nationwide, which was a great step forward, for years now, and it hasn't hurt anything. Other victories for that freedom to marry since February 14, 2020 have included...

April 23, 2020...Same-sex marriage became legal in Sark.

May 26...Same-sex marriage became legal in Costa Rica.

June 11...The Swiss National Council voted to legalize same-sex marriage, along with artificial insemination for lesbian couples.

June 23...Same-sex marriage became legal in the city of Tel Aviv-Yafo.

July 1...Civil partnerships became legal in Montenegro. The act was subsequently signed by the incumbent president.

September 4...Recognition of same-sex civil partnerships in the Cayman Islands.

November 3...The legalization of same-sex marriage in Puebla was codified by the Congress of Puebla.

December 1...The Swiss Council of States voted to legalize same-sex marriage.

In most of the world, a man can’t marry both of the women he loves, despite both women being in favor of such a marriage.

The people in most of these interviews can't have legally recognized marriages anywhere in the world, with perhaps one or two exceptions, and we need full marriage equality before people like Linda, Melissa, and Matthew can tie the knot.

So enjoy Valentine's Day if you are able, but think for a moment about the people who will only be able to fully enjoy theirs when we have full marriage equality so that an adult, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race, or religion, is free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any and all consenting adults without prosecution, persecution, or discrimination. Help make it happen sooner rather than later.

Maybe you're stuck at home with family this year?

Do you have special plans? Or, if you're reading this after Valentine's Day, do you have anything special to report? If so, comment below. Remember, you can comment anonymously. Or, if you prefer, contact Keith.

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