Thursday, January 30, 2020

You Might Be Able to Resume Where You Left Off

If comments are a little too explicit for this blog, I don't publish them. Sometimes, I quote them in a new entry, though. "Dominick" left a comment on this entry. He explained that he and his sister would, as youths, frequently engage in sexual experimentation and play. They didn't continue.

As covered in other entries, this can be a normal thing.

Dominick then had some questions. 

I have this very strong desire to make love to my sister. To have actual intercourse. Am I pig for feeling the way I do now??? I'm very confused if the way I feel is natural. Or if something is wrong with me.

Good news, Dominick! You are not a pig for feeling that way. Yes, it is natural. Nothing is wrong you, at least not in this respect. Feelings like this are natural even if some people don't have them or have opposite feelings. Also, some people have such feelings even if they don't have a history of experimenting together. You know others who have these feelings, and you know others who did the same things, even if you don't know which people in your life they are.

The important thing is, what, if anything, do you want to do about those feelings? This might help. Also, like anyone else, please feel free to reach out if you have more questions or want to discuss these things further.
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Wednesday, January 29, 2020

Opportunity for GSA-Involved to Help With a Media Project

I was contacted by someone who is working on a media project relevant to people who have been involved with reunion Genetic Sexual Attraction.
My name is Tess, I work at HALAL Docs, the documentary department of a film production company in Amsterdam. I came across your website regarding marriage equality and I am hoping you can help me with the following request. 
For a very special documentary project, made by HALAL Docs, I’m looking for people whose lives have been touched by the Genetic Sexual Attraction phenomenon. 
They are...
...looking for as many people as possible who want to share their story with us, regardless of the format. Our intention is not to make a report but a beautiful, long and good documentary about living with GSA.

While I have a good feeling about this effort, I can't personally vouch for it. You can research the organization for yourself. As always, use caution in media interactions. It would be good if people who've experienced GSA would at least email to discuss what the possibilities are. There are ways of including people in things like documentaries while still protecting them from certain risks and protecting their privacy. And some of you are in places where you're not breaking any laws.

You can email Tess at tess[at]

You are also welcome to contact me for my thoughts about participation and necessary protection, given what your personal situation may be.
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Monday, January 27, 2020

Of Fire, Powder, Vibrations, and the Irresistible

This blog is here to advocate for the rights of all consenting adults to be together how they mutually agree. Included in that is supporting ethical or consensual nonmonogamy. Unfortunately, because of lingering laws and prejudices about consanguinamory, many people can't be open about their attractions and experiences; cheating, which we do not advocate, can happen in such a negative environment as people do not feel free to discuss things openly and honestly with their partners, or anyone else for that matter. Again, we don't advocate cheating, but we recognize that some consanguineous sexual relationships do happen in the context of cheating; many reunion Genetic Sexual Attraction situations involve this. Still, there are things we can learn about relationships in general and consanguineous relationships especially by interviewing people who have had such experiences.

The woman interviewed below formed a family with partner and having a child together, but she's deeply torn because of something that happened to her.

In much of the world, including all but a couple of US states, both she and her other lover could be criminally prosecuted for this, not for the cheating, but for having sex with each other.

Read the interview below and see for yourself what this articulate woman has to say. You may think his relationship is interesting, or it might make you uncomfortable, or you might find it ideal, even highly erotic and romantic; you might find the cheating to be unacceptable. But whatever your reaction, should this be a crime? Shouldn't they be able to be open about their relationship and even marry, if that's what they want? Also, notice that aspects of the relationship are common to GSA relationships that don't involve cheating, too. We don't condone cheating, but even a relationship that involves cheating can help give an understanding of the dynamic of consanguineous relationships, as this is happening everywhere, and clearly she feels extremely conflicted. You can tell how this is weighing on her when you read what she has to say. It's a terrible shame that there isn't more research into this and more help available.


FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe your background.

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Tuesday, January 21, 2020

Myth: People Who Act on GSA Won’t Be Able to Have Normal Lives

Reality: The only hindrance to having a “normal life” for those who continue together in a Genetic Sexual Attraction relationship is the bigotry of others.

Some who’ve been brought together through GSA lead perfectly "normal," even unusually good lives. This is more likely to be possible with the support of friends and family and will be even more likely with decriminalization of GSA and the arrival of full marriage equality.

Until then, many people in consanguinamorous relationships are somewhat closeted. There may be people you know who seem like the cutest couple, and may be great neighbors, who are actually people who were brought together by GSA.

Please help make it possible for more people who've been brought together through GSA lead "normal" lives.

See Myth: Only Defective People Experience GSA

See Myth: GSA Causes Birth Defects or the Children Will Be Deformed
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Sunday, January 19, 2020

Martin Luther King, Jr.

In the US, Monday is a holiday, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day. He was a giant in the fight for civil rights.

Many decades after he was assassinated, the fight for civil rights continues.

History is on our side. All consenting adults will be free to exercise their rights to share love, sex, residence, and marriage.

Are you like those who kept trying to keep some people second-class citizens, or are you like the people who marched with King?

This is how you can help.
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Saturday, January 18, 2020

The Anticipating Brother

Genetic Sexual Attraction is real, and the people who experience it often have their lives turned upside down. Sometimes, when there are mutual feelings, things will work out so that the lovers can be together.

"Richard" and the woman he love were in a state of mutual anticipation when this interview was conducted, providing a perspective that comes from a different place than previous interviews that have involved people who were together for a while.

People in 
consanguinamorous relationships are everywhere, though consanguinamorists tend to be closeted. Fortunately, some are willing to be interviewed for this blog. As a result, Full Marriage Equality has featured scores of exclusive interviews with lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are, by law, denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law.

Richard should be free to marry the woman he loves, 
yet they can't legally marry, and they could be imprisoned and have their lives ruined if they were outed to the wrong people. They are consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone; why should they be denied their rights? In much of the world, they could be criminally prosecuted for their love

Read the interview below and see for yourself what this man has to say. Should these lovers be denied equal access to marriage or any other rights simply because they love each other this way?

WARNING: Mildly expressed sexuality.


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Tuesday, January 14, 2020

Myth: Only Defective People Experience GSA

Reality: The only thing that fills in the blank of  “Only ___ experience reunion Genetic Sexual Attraction” is “introduced or reunited close genetic relatives.”

When someone says that only people who are [fill in the blank with whatever thing they think is an insult or pejorative] experiences reunion Genetic Sexual Attraction, they are speaking out of prejudice and ignorance. They might dismiss all people who experience GSA as being lonely, desperate for attention, rebellious, immoral, hypersexed, promiscuous, lacking boundaries, weak, lacking self-control, ignorant, uneducated, freaks, losers, unattractive, or whatever.

It’s not true.

People who experience GSA come from every demographic in every part of the world. There are attractive, outgoing, popular, successful, wealthy, disciplined, educated people who’ve experienced GSA, many of whom have been or still are, sexually involved. Their sex lives may have been rather average or even conservative before GSA. People who’ve experienced GSA come from diverse racial, professional, financial, political, and religious backgrounds.

Nobody's perfect, and it is tempting for the ignorant to point to some shortcoming or something missing in the life of someone experiencing GSA and insist it is the reason the person is experiencing GSA or having a consanguinamorous relationship. Or, it can be temping to point out how someone is different than you and blame that. It just doesn't match up to reality.

Based on the diverse backgrounds and situations and characteristics of people who've experienced GSA, it is apparent that is not the result of anything being "wrong" with the person who experiences it.

See Myth: Acting on GSA is Wrong or Destructive

See Myth: People Who Act on GSA Won't Be Able to Have Normal Lives
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Sunday, January 12, 2020

Search of the Day

This is a search that brought someone here...
is sex with a sibling through marriage illegal
It is important to remember that laws vary from country to country, and in the US, laws vary from state to state.

What would be a "sibling through marriage?"

When people marry, they make their siblings in-laws to their spouse. For example, Pedro and Paul get married. Pedro's sister Juanita is now Paul's sister-in-law, and Paul is her brother-in-law. Also, Paul's sister Mary is now Pedro's sister-in-law, and Pedro is Mary's brother-in-law. Some see Mary and Juanita as sisters-in law, and it is legal for them to marry, at least wherever two women can marry. Mary and Pedro would only be able to marry and Paul and Juanita would only be able to marry where polygamy is legal, or if Paul and Pedro divorced first. But then they would no longer be be in-laws. As far as sex, there isn't any place in the US where it is illegal for someone to have sex with their in-law, as far as I know. I'm not an attorney, however.

There are stepsbilings, and they are considered, from a social perspective, siblings through marriage, although laws in most places would not recognize them as siblings unless an adoption made them adoptive siblings. For a simple example, Mike has a son named Greg and Mike marries Carol, who has a daughter named Marcia. This would make Greg and Marcia stepsiblings, meaning siblings by marriage. In most, if not all, jurisdictions, they could legally marry or have sex because they are not considered legal siblings. Although, they would likely face social discrimination, especially if their parents married when they (Greg and Marcia) were very young and they were raised together. In some stepfamilies, there are legal adoptions. For example, Mike becoming the legal father of Marcia through adoption, or Greg becoming the legal son of Carol through adoption. In such cases, there are more likely to be laws barring Greg and Marcia from marrying or even having sex. However, stepsiblings do have sex, perhaps even more than blood and adoptive siblings.

People shouldn't even have to ask these questions when it comes to sex or marriage. The only questions that should matter are:

1) Are they legal adults and legally competent to consent?
2) Do they mutually consent to this?

That should be it. Nothing else should matter. That is why we promote full marriage equality and relationship rights for all.

If you have questions or comments, whether it is about being with your in-laws or stepsiblings, or something else, please contact Keith or comment below. You can comment anonymously, if you'd like.
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Saturday, January 11, 2020

An Open Letter to Legislators

This letter is focused on legislators in the US, but may be adaptable to legislators and legislatures in other countries. In the United States, most "sex police" laws and laws applying to marriage, civil unions, and domestic partnerships are set at the state level, by state legislatures. For example, the laws in New Jersey are different from the laws in New York, Texas, Florida, and California. There are some laws set by Congress that apply to indigenous peoples living on "reservations," to US territories, and to military personnel. Whether you're a Senator, Representative, Assemblymember, or some other legislator, this letter is for you.

Dear Legislator:

There may be laws on the books in your jurisdiction that need to be cleaned up or removed. The basic freedom of association that allows consenting adults to love each other how they mutually agree has been restricted by various unjust and unconstitutional laws throughout history. Although some of these restrictions have been removed by the Supreme Court of the United States, even those may still remain in your state codes or statutes due to legislative inertia or as mean-spirit statements or even in the hopes of a reversal by a subsequent Court ruling. It is clear that momentum is on the side of civil rights and has been for a long time. We must move forward in securing the rights of all adults.

It would be wonderful if your state constitution could be amended with the following:
The right to marry or to personal consortium shall not be abridged or denied by this state on account of sex, gender, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, ancestry, consanguinity, affinity, or number of participants.

We understand that a constitutional amendment may not be possible given current political situations. If that is the case in your jurisdiction, please introduce and support legislation that will be adopted that will repeal or override any past statutes that are remnants of discrimination and denial of rights. There should be no laws left on the books in your jurisdiction that criminalize or discriminate against any of the following:
  • autoeroticism or masturbation
  • interracial affection, sex, relationships, cohabitation, or marriages
  • same-sex and same-gender affection, sex, relationships, cohabitation, or marriages
  • nonmonogamous affection, sex, relationships, cohabitation, or marriages
  • open relationships and open marriages
  • consanguineous affection, sex, relationships, cohabitation, or marriages
  • asexual or aromantic relationships, cohabitation, and marriages
  • casual sex between two or more consenting adults 
  • BDSM between consenting adults
  • selling, buying, giving, owning, or using adult/sex toys, devices, aids
  • observing, with their consent, consenting adults engaging in affection, sex, or BDSM 
  • creating, possessing, or viewing photographic and video recordings of consenting adults nude or in sexual or autoerotic situations
  • unmarried cohabitation, whether temporary or permanent, between two or more consenting adults
  • marriage, civil unions, or domestic partnerships between two or more consenting adults
  • physical affection, "sodomy," or sexual acts between two or more consenting adults
  • sex therapy

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Wednesday, January 8, 2020

Frequently Asked Question: Why Do Polyamorists Get Married?

The question is asked as though the person asking assumes that actual monogamy is a requirement for marriage. It isn’t in most places, even though current marriage laws will only allow monogamy in the legal sense.

For the purpose of this question and answer, I will include any form of honest nonmonogamy, or any label applied, such as open relationship, open marriage, swinging, swapping, polyamory, polyfidelity and polygamy.

Why do swingers get married?

Why do people in open relationships get married?

Why do polyamorous people get married?

The short answer is: For the same reason most other people get married. They want to get married, they think it is the best thing to do at that time in life, or they’re pressured.

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Monday, January 6, 2020

Polyamory and Half Siblings

I was asked a question recently.

Q: In a poly family (say husband-wife-wife, all unrelated) is consanguineous sex between the half siblings of more, less, or average frequency?

A: It probably depends.

I'm not aware of any studies on this, so we need to look at this based on what we already know.

A) We know that half siblings who aren't raised together have a high likelihood of experiencing a strong attraction when they meet or are reunited post-puberty.

B) We know people raised together in close quarters, closely related or not, often develop and aversion of being sexual with each other (Westermarck Effect), or at least a suppression of sexual attraction for each other, but many siblings, whether full, half, step, or adoptive, raised together do experiment and some get more serious. To experiment, minors or anyone still "living at home" need not only the curiosity and/or attraction, but they need privacy or at least be allowed to experiment.

C) We know that polyamorous families are diverse, with varying parenting styles and attitudes towards sex. If the Westermarck Effect is at least partially the result of socialization ("nurture") rather than being exclusively nature (such as genetic), then parenting can make a difference.

D)  home in which the parents aren't a polyamorous triad or "V" might be a single parent home, a home with two parents, a parent-stepparent home, a parent-grandparent home, or other combinations.
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Saturday, January 4, 2020

Myth: Acting on GSA is Wrong or Destructive

Reality: Acting romantically or sexually on Genetic Sexual Attraction is neither inherently wrong nor destructive. As with any other factor when it comes to relationships, not every situation is the same. Some people just aren’t right for each other. Some people want to keep a vow of monogamy to someone else. Some people want a partner that is close in age, and their GSA relative is significantly older or younger. There are many different things that come into play in relationships. That consenting adults are close genetic relatives does not make a romantic or sexual involvement with each other wrong.

Different people are going to have different moral guidelines about sex, but consanguinamory by people who were not raised together or by one another (which is the situation with reunion GSA) is not considered wrong by everyone or all cultures. Nor is there anything inherently destructive about it, but rather some find it constructive.

For some, it is the best of all possibilities; it is wonderful, lasting, and fulfilling.

What can be destructive is prejudice against GSA or consanguinamory, expressed through criminal prosecution or attacks by family or others.  There is no good reason to deny consenting adults their basic rights when it comes to relationships and their sexuality. Family and friends might benefit from reading this.

See Myth: GSA is Unnatural

See Myth: Only Defective People Experience GSA
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Thursday, January 2, 2020

Polygamy and Public Assistance

I'm including a submission from a polygynist friend of FME. The following reflects his thoughts. I will make a brief comment at the end.


Q: I would like more explanation of what the polygamist mindset is like, because to mono people it is so hard to understand. For example. As a mono person all I can imagine is that there is one guy who is fathering 20 or more children and the state ends up providing everything for the family because they can't manage on their own. I don't think that it is right for the state or taxpayers to have to take care of all the children that are born into these families. These so called families are just lazy and want a free ride from the rest of us.

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