Full Marriage Equality
Advocating for the right of consenting adults to share and enjoy love, sex, residence, and marriage without limits on the gender, number, or relation of participants. Full marriage equality is a basic human right.
- Home
- New to This Blog?
- Essential Reading
- Welcome Message
- An Introduction to This Blog
- About This Blog
- Why I Started This Blog
- A Happy Triad (Interview)
- Case Studies
- For Family & Friends
- Why Support Full Marriage Equality?
- How You Can Help
- Frequently Asked Questions
- Glossary
- For Journalists
- Discredited, Invalid Arguments
- US Supreme Court Should Rule For Equality
- Marriage Equality Ammendment
- Rights Aren't Reserved For the Majority
- Others May Consent to Something You Wouldn't
- FAQ: Why is Consensual Incest Illegal?
- FAQ: How Common is Consensual Incest?
- A Natural Attraction
- Need Help?
- We're About Love & Sex Not Abuse
- Essential Reading
- Maps, etc.
- Get Connected
- Facebook Cause Group
- Consanguinamory on Facebook
- Causes.com
- My Facebook
- My Twitter
- My Tumblr
- My Google Plus
- Email me at yahoo.com
- The Final Manifesto on Blogspot
- The Final Manifesto on Tumblr
- Consanguinamory Blog
- Friends of Lily
- Kindred Spirits Forum [FREE No-Porn Forum]
- Brothers & Sisters Forum
- Genetic Reunion Group [Yahoo!]
- Genetic Attraction Forums
- Reddit: r/incest
- Reddit: r/incest_relationships [Private]
- Topics
- For More Info
- The Final Manifesto on Tumblr
- Consanguinamory Blog
- Friends of Lily
- Consanguinamory Wiki
- The Polyamory Wiki
- CousinCouples.com
- Nat'l Society of Genetic Counselors
- The Center for Sex-Positive Culture
- Nat'l Coalition for Sexual Freedom
- Consenting Adult Action Network
- World Polyamory Association
- Canadian Poly Advocacy Assoc.
- Polyamory in Australia
- Polytical.org [UK]
- PolyFamilies.com
- Polyamory.com
- PolyamoryOnline.org
- ChristianPolygamy.com
- Charlie Glickman [PhD SexEd]
Translate
Saturday, March 23, 2024
Ancestry, DNA, 23, Family Trees, and You
23andMe, Ancestry.com, Family Tree DNA, GeneTree, Genographic Project, MyHeritage, and Navigenics, and other services, often along with social media and networking and ease of travel, means people meeting or reuniting with close relatives.
Have you discovered consanguinamory in your family tree?
What about donor-conceived people getting together?
Have new or long-lost relatives been revealed to you?
A lot of people are dealing with these things now. There are people who understand. You can always write me at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com
Sunday, March 17, 2024
Is a Woman Unable to Consent to Marry Her Sibling?
This does not mean I think any given person is a good match for any other person, or that they are treating each other right. It just means whether or not they have a relationship and what they do together should be up to them, not anyone else.
Our laws are inconsistent about this. A 22-year-old woman living below the poverty level can legally consent to sign a prenuptial agreement and legally marry a 60-year-old male billionaire. She can have sex with the President of the United States, who obviously has much more power than her. The law in many places allows her to marry a complete stranger. Also, in most places, she can legally live with and consent to sex with a man who has what amounts to a harem, or she can consent to group sex with several weightlifting champions she’s never met before, or an older man who’s been her next-door neighbor since she was born and babysat her throughout her childhood, and is now living on death row as a convicted murderer. That’s all legal. However, in many places she’s still barred from legally marrying another 22-year-old woman, and in even more places, she is still barred from having consensual sex with, let alone marrying a full or half sibling, even if they weren’t raised together. I have yet to hear a reason justifying such discrimination that withstands scrutiny.
Recently some tweets were directed to me by a thoughtful person questioning brother-sister marriage, and those tweets deserve responses longer than 140 characters, so I’m putting my response here.
Saturday, March 16, 2024
You Did the Taboo - Now What?
There may or may not be feelings of elation, confusion, awkwardness, guilt, shame, and... a strong desire to do it again.
It is important for you to know...
1) You're not alone. I guarantee you know someone else who has had similar experiences. Most people keep quiet about them, but you'd be surprised who in your life has had consanguineous sexual encounters. Some of these situations might be like yours.
Saturday, March 9, 2024
How Common Are Swinging Parties?
You can find me there. Someone else who is active there is author/educator Franklin Veaux.
Here is his answer to the question "How Common Are Swinging Parties?"
Very. Very very very. There are a lot of swingers in the world.
If you’re near any reasonably-sized Western town, there’s probably a swing party or three happening somewhere in town on any given weekend, not including all the private sex parties and play parties happening in private homes.
If you’re in a larger town or small city, I can pretty much guarantee there are swinger events happening near you, on average, at least four or five days a week. If you’re in a major city, I’ll bet money a sex party is taking place within five miles of you on any given weekend.This idea that most people are cisgender heterosexual lifelong monogamists (or serial monogamists) who fit neatly into traditional gender roles and marry one person of the "opposite sex" who is the same race as them and not "too closely" related and they have vanilla sex in their bedroom 2-3 times per week and rarely anywhere else is something that just doesn't match up with reality.
There are people who are voluntarily celibate and/or chaste, whether they are asexual or not.
There are people not far from where you are right now who are transgender or genderfluid.
There are people not far from where you are right now who...
- Are in a relationship/marriage with someone of a different race.
- Are in same-sex monogamous or monogamish relationships, including marriage.
- Are ethically nonmonogamous, whether they are swingers or in open relationships or are polyamorous or somehow engaged in, and/or prone to, some forms of consensual, honest nonmonogamy.
- Are in, or oriented towards, romantic and/or erotic relationships with close relatives.
- Engage in what are considered kinks or fetishes that only involve consensual interactions with others.
Our laws, institutions, workplaces, policies, and programs must take these things into account. Affirming relationship rights, including full marriage equality, will help with that.
Thursday, March 7, 2024
Support the Rights of All Women
All women should be free to be themselves, to have their basic human and civil rights, whether they are cisgender, transgender, or noncomforming or fluid; whether they are asexual, heterosexual, lesbian, bisexual, polysexual, or pansexual; whether they are aromantic, celibate, monogamous, or nonmonogamous. Whether their relationships are exogamous, endogamous, or consanguineous. Whether they are questioning or they are certain. Whether they are raising children or have raised children or not. Whether they are married or partnered or single.
A woman, regardless of her birth, sexual orientation, relationship orientation, race, or religion, should be free to share love, sex, kink, residence, and marriage (and any of those without the others) with ANY and ALL consenting adults, without fear of prosecution, bullying, shaming, or discrimination.
(Same goes for any other adults, too.)
Wednesday, March 6, 2024
Secretly and Happily Married
The man interviewed below should be free to legally marry his spouse, or simply be together without having to hide, yet they can’t. Prejudice can be deadly. They are consenting adults; why should they have been denied their rights? In much of the world, they could be criminally prosecuted for loving each other this way, and might be persecuted severely in addition.
Read the interview below and see for yourself what he has to say about the love they share. You may think this relationship is interesting, or it might make you uncomfortable, or you might find it ideal, even highly erotic, but whatever your reaction, should lovers like these be denied equal access to marriage or any other rights simply because they love each other this way?
Also please note that someone you love, respect, and admire could be in a similar relationship right now. Should they be attacked and denied rights because of the "incest" label?
Note: This is a "David" I have not interviewed before.
*****
FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourself.
David: My name is David. I'm a divorced father in my forties to a very lovely daughter. I have a home-based business as a contractor for which I oversee computer systems such as phones, fire suppression, air conditioning, lighting, etc., all via the Internet. There are certain companies that, despite having a qualified staff on site, sometimes need me to quietly look in when no one is looking. That's the only way I can say it without getting into trouble.
I'm in good shape and healthy as my job has me sitting lots. I keep in shape by walking lots and hiking in the mountains when possible. I love cooking and I love a good cup of tea. What's interesting is how my daughter has followed in my footsteps. She is a very confident woman, working towards her RN. When she was in high school, she started volunteering at our local hospital, helping the unit clerks, working at the information booth, cleaning and just being a kind voice and smile to patients and their families. I am so proud of her and her drive. She does have a touch of OCD, a strong focus. This has helped her countless times, and helped me as well.
Tuesday, March 5, 2024
National Sons Day - March 4
A special shout out to all the parents who support their sons who are LGBTQ+, ethically nonmonogamous, and/or consanguinamorous.
Speaking of consanguinamory, a very special shout out to all of you who are consanguinamorous with a son. I'm sure you can think of a great way to celebrate the day.
If you are considering adding an additional bond with your son, this might help.
You can let us know if you make a point of marking this day, either by commenting below (you can do so anonymously) or by contacting Keith.
Saturday, March 2, 2024
Why Attempt to Suppress Affection?
Thursday, February 29, 2024
Zero Discrimination Day - March 1
When people seek health care, they shouldn't be discriminated against because of any disease they have, or for being LGBTQ+, nonmonogamous, consanguinamorous, kinky, or anything else about their gender, sexuality, or relationships.
Reject prejudice, stigma, and unjust discrimination.
Serve those who need care.
Monday, February 26, 2024
Metamour Day - February 28
Thursday, February 22, 2024
Is It OK? (Mother and Daughter)
It isn’t just okay, it can be WONDERFUL.
Of course, that’s having sex, not assaulting anyone. And NOT cheating, meaning you’re not breaking rules you have with either.
Would the LAW say it is OK? That depends. Laws vary from place to place, but in some US states, there are still unconstitutional laws criminalizing any sexual affection between a daughter and her mother. But they can both be sexual with YOU, even at the same time.
Wednesday, February 21, 2024
Is Polyamory Just Another Word For Swinging or an Open Relationship?
These three terms are not synonymous.
All three ARE forms of ethical nonmonogamy or consensual nonmonogamy or disclosed nonmonogamy.
Swinging can involve unattached individuals, but usually involves established couples (or even triads, quads, etc.) in group encounters with others, in which the focus is on casual sex. Sure, the people involved can be friends, even close and longtime friends, they might even love each other, but what's going on is that people get together at sex parties.
Open relationships, including open marriages, are relationships in which there is an existing, established bond, but those in the relationship have agreed that they are open to new partners, whether they are short term or long term partners.
There is also swapping, in which people in a relationship trade partners with people in another relationship, mostly for sex. This is usually done with just two or three couples, as opposed to at a party.
Polyamory means having a romantic, dating, courting, nesting, or spousal relationship with more than one person, with the agreement of all. It takes on many, many forms. It could be a triad who live as spouses to each other. It could involve a married couple who also have girlfriends/boyfriends they see individually or together. It could be four people who are dating each other on an ongoing basis. There are countless forms of polyamory. Some people are polyamorous as an orientation.
Some polyamorous relationships are open. Some are closed. Some polyamorous people engage in swapping and/or swinging, some don't.
Many people who are in open relationships or who swing or swap don't consider themselves polyamorous, especially if they're only looking for casual sex when they get with people outside of their relationships.
There are people in open relationships who are not swingers and do not engage in swapping. There are people who will do swapping but don't consider themselves swingers. There are swingers who do not identify their relationship as open, especially if the only time and place they will get sexual with others is at a swingers club/party.
So, the terms mean different things. And there are other forms of ethical nonmonogamy.
"Yeah, but aren't these all just different words for cheating?"
NO!
Cheating is breaking the rules.
Ethical or consensual nonmonogamy means that the people involved have agreements ("rules") that allow for what they are doing.
To be sure, there are people who are involved in these forms of ethical/consensual nonmonogamy who are sometimes involved in cheating, but that is because they broke the rules.
It is up to the people involved in a relationship what the terms of their relationship will be, and if and when those terms will change. As people go through life, their desires and needs can change and they might revisit the terms to modify them.
We need to ensure that adults, regardless of gender, can share love, sex, kink, residence, and marriage (and any of those things without the others) with any and all consenting adults, without fear of prosecution, bullying, or discrimination. There is no good reason our laws shouldn't protect these rights, and institutions and service providers need to except and account for the fact that some people are nonmonogamous, and not assume everyone is monogamous or wants monogamy, and certainly not try to force people to be monogamous.