Podcast Examines Consanguinamory

A couple of episodes of a podcast have dropped very recently that examine consanguinamory, especially between mother and son, after the host of the podcast was contacted by someone who wants his mother. The podcast is named "Slutcast," is about "advocating for distigmatization of sex industry," and according to the statement accompanying the listing...

Slutcast is presented by Zoe Starr, an independent escort working in the Central West of NSW. Slutcast is unsponsored at present but Zoe welcomes any offers to be made via DM on twitter @athleticmilf1. Slutcast contains explicit content of a sexual and at times graphic nature, so if this offends please tune out now.

Please note that it could be considered "NOT SAFE FOR WORK" listening. Regarding the word "slut"...

slut is a derogatory term for a female sex worker. the use of "slut" is an attempt at irony- because my podcast is all about trying to break the stigma that society places on the sex industry and my aim is to pay homage to all those amazingly intelligent and savvy escorts and sex workers and to try to shed a light on their amazingness in an attempt to start to change society's very negative and judgemental attitude towards what is a very important job. This is done through the lens of someone (ie me) who is new to escorting (literally turned my first trick this evening)

Here's what Zoe told me about herself...

I'm an advocate for positive sex culture and removal of taboos. I'm an escort in central west NSW Australia. My tenet is to view the world through non-judgemental lens and, if I find an issue instinctively challenging, rather than judge or ridicule or poke fun, I like to examine why it is challenging and reflect back on me. 

"Part One" on this specific topic is what first caught my attention, with the rest of the tile being "Is it ok to have sex with your mum? Exploring the mum fetish."

The description says...
 

Motherf***er, MILF; both describing the same thing bit one is a derogatory term the other is a complement. The fantasy of wanting to have sex with your mum is not uncommon and it seems genetic councillors in the western world support exploration of this fetish.

This topic turned out to be a bigger topic than expected.

In this episode I present certain anecdotal examples describing mother and son sexual unions. I then look for evidence that these relationships are not harmful or harmful from physical and emotional perspective.

Part Two deals with fantasy and is not relevant to the topic of this blog.

Part Three is here.

Final episode- There is a consanguinamory online community advocating for individuals who are engaging in consensual sexual relationships with family members. But is this movement morally right? is this safe or harmful?

Overall, it is good that she was willing to take on this topic and talk about it. Hopefully, more people will get a better understanding by listening and following the links she provides.

We wish Zoe well with her podcast and everything else.

Metamour Day is February 28

Monday, February 28, is Metamour Day.

It’s a day to celebrate the relationships people have with their metamours. Metamours are a partner’s other partners, or other significant others (OSOs). “Metamour” is a commonly used term in polyamory and sometimes in the wider ethical/consensual/disclosed nonmonogamy community.

Having a positive relationship with a metamour benefits everyone. Some metamours have little contact with each other. Others are best friends.

Do you have a metamour? Are you cordial? Friendly? Best of friends? Let us know by commenting below.

Here are some things to consider when meeting a metamour. 

The Red Button

TRIGGER WARNING: Parts of this entry will deal with SA.

International Stand Up to Bullying Day - February 25

Friday, February 25 is a day to wear a pink shirt to take a visible, public stance against bullying.

It is International Stand Up to Bullying Day.

Bullying is unacceptable, and it is so often directed at people because of their gender, sexual orientation, or relationships, or those of their family members or friends.

Let's all stand up to bullying and protect each other.

We Support Love and Affection

1. Are they capable of consenting to this?

2. Do they consent to this?

That's all that matters when it comes to lovers. Someone else's disgust or prejudices shouldn't matter.

If they have mutually agreed to make love, have sex, explore, experiment, or play, nobody else should try to stop them. If someone hasn't agreed, they should be free to opt out.

We support consent. We support love and affection. Do you?

Good Medicine and a Loving Family

We have another exclusive interview to bring you. 

People in consanguinamorous relationships are everywhere, though consanguinamorists tend to be closeted. Fortunately, some are willing to be interviewed for this blog. As a result, Full Marriage Equality has featured scores of exclusive interviews with lovers denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law. Most can’t even be out of the closet or they’ll face prosecution under absurd incest laws, which, instead of focusing on abuse, also target consensual relationships.

The man interviewed below should be free to legally marry his lover and the mother of his son, or simply to be together as a couple without having to hide, yet they can’t. Prejudice can be deadly. They are consenting adults who aren’t hurting anyone; why should they have been denied their rights? In much of the world, they could be criminally prosecuted for their love, and might be persecuted severely in addition.

Read the interview below and see for yourself what this man has to say about the love he shares with his partner. You may think this relationship is interesting, or it might make you uncomfortable, or you might find it ideal, even highly erotic and romantic, but whatever your reaction, should lovers like these be denied equal access to marriage or any other rights simply because they love each other this way?

Also please note that someone you love, respect, and admire could be in a similar relationship right now. Should they be attacked and denied rights because of the "incest" label?

***Mild descriptions of sexuality are included in this interview.***


*****

FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourselves.

Derek: We currently reside in the southern USA. I was born and grew up in a rural area. A hard work ethic was instilled in me early in life doing family farming and gardening. I joined the Army after graduation from high school and served eight years six months and one day. I attended college and worked successfully as a healthcare executive many years.

I was the youngest child; my two siblings are older than me by eight and ten years. 

My ex-wife left when my daughter was four, and we never heard from her again. I was an only parent. I raised my daughter alone with no help.

Today, I am a disabled veteran and only work as a domestic engineer. I enjoy gardening, spending time with my dogs, chickens, ducks, and my daughter-wife and son-grandson; we live together.

We are both above-average looking, non-smokers, watch our diets, exercise as often as we can, and are extremely hygiene-oriented. I am American Indian and she is mostly Caucasian. 

We are both highly educated, and she is a medical practitioner. We are in the top twenty-five percent economically of people in our geographical area. 

Valentine’s Day

Valentine's Day is almost here again. Many people will be getting married. Married people will be celebrating their anniversaries, or simply having a night out or a special night in, as will other people hoping to get married someday, or maybe just enjoying being together in public.

If you are in such a situation, good for you and enjoy it.

Whether you are or not, take a moment to think about all of the people who can’t marry the person or person(s) they love, or can’t so much as hold hands in public without being accosted. Think about the people, consenting adults, who have to completely hide their relationships because they could be sent to prison for simply having sex in private. Think about the people who have to hide who they are because, where they live, they could be killed for being who they are. Think about the people who can’t accept gifts from their their lover(s) at work, or even a loving comment in social media, because it would out them and get them fired.

This is what goes on because some people are being denied their rights to share sex, love, residence, and marriage. The US has had the limited monogamous same-gender freedom to marry nationwide, which was a great step forward, for years now, and it hasn't hurt anything. Other victories for that freedom to marry since February 14, 2021 have included...

30 June 2021... Sinaloa

22 October 2021... Sonora

13 November 2021... Querétaro

20 December 2021... Guanajuato

30 December 2021... Zacatecas

In most of the world, a man can’t marry both of the women he loves, despite both women being in favor of such a marriage.

The people in most of these interviews can't have legally recognized marriages anywhere in the world, with perhaps one or two exceptions, and we need full marriage equality before people like Linda, Melissa, and Matthew can tie the knot.

So enjoy Valentine's Day if you are able, but think for a moment about the people who will only be able to fully enjoy theirs when we have full marriage equality so that an adult, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race, or religion, is free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any and all consenting adults without prosecution, persecution, or discrimination. Help make it happen sooner rather than later.

Maybe you're stuck at home with family this year?

Do you have special plans? Or, if you're reading this after Valentine's Day, do you have anything special to report? If so, comment below. Remember, you can comment anonymously. Or, if you prefer, contact Keith.

A Woman Denied Her Right to Marry the Father of Her Children

We have another exclusive interview to bring you. As this interview is being published, there are many people still spending more time home with family members. Perhaps some of them will find this interview an inspiration? Or they can see this for some possibilities.

People in consanguinamorous relationships are everywhere, though consanguinamorists tend to be closeted. Fortunately, some are willing to be interviewed for this blog. As a result, Full Marriage Equality has featured scores of exclusive interviews with lovers denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law. Most can’t even be out if the closet or they’ll gave prosecution under absurd incest laws, which, instead of focusing on abuse, also target consensual relationships.

The woman interviewed below should be free to legally marry her husband and father of her children, or simply to be together as a couple without having to hide, yet they can’t. Prejudice can be deadly. They are consenting adults who aren’t hurting anyone; why should they have been denied their rights? In much of the world, they could be criminally prosecuted for their love, and might be persecuted severely in addition.

Read the interview below and see for yourself what this woman has to say about the love she shares with her spouse. You may think this relationship is interesting, or it might make you uncomfortable, or you might find it ideal, even highly erotic and romantic, but whatever your reaction, should lovers like these be denied equal access to marriage or any other rights simply because they love each other this way?

Also please note that someone you love, respect, and admire could be in a similar relationship right now. Should they be attacked and denied rights because of the "incest" label?

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FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourselves.

Malory: My name is Malory and I am 27, my brother Jimmy is 26. We live in New Jersey, which, for the moment, has no laws prohibiting consensual incest. I am a educator and he is a construction worker. 

FME: Are you married or have you ever been legally and/or ceremonially married?

We are not legally married but there was a ceremony. Our parents and brother were there and our sister in spirit. Also there were two friends I had growing up that knew of our relationship. They attended but didn’t bring anyone. Our brother was the best man. One friend officiated and the other was my matron of honor. It was beautiful and took place in our favorite spot at the beach.


FME: How would you describe your gender(s)? How would you describe your sexual orientation and your relationship orientation?

Does She Want More?

Anonymous asked at this blog's sister Tumblr...

hey i kind of have romantic feelings for my niece and i dont know what to do i know that she doesnt like me romanticly but we have kind of done stuff that normal family members dont do and i just dont want it to get weird between us but i just really badly want to date her even thoug i know its bad and gross (i got told by cornytyrannosaurus to ask for more advies)

Here's how I answered.

Corny gave a great answer.

The vague and potentially confusing part here is that you are certain she doesn’t like you romantically but you two have “done stuff.” If that stuff is sexual, then… if she’s willing to get sexual with you but doesn’t want a romantic relationship with you, like go on dates, then you can either continue to do sexual things together and NOT be a romantic pair…or not. Being a romantic pair isn’t something she wants (with you, right now). Take it or leave it. This is an important lesson to learn for relationships in general.

If you’re sharing affection, you’re enjoying a lot more than many others, who don’t even get to share that.

Romantic feelings for someone who can consent to date you are not inherently bad or gross. If it’s what you want, you shouldn’t allow the “yucks” of others to take away your “yum” by internalizing their prejudices.

If you have had similar feelings for people who aren’t relatives, then the good news for you is that you have many options. If you’ve only had these feelings for close relatives, that makes life a little more difficult, but you’re not alone. There are literally millions of people who are like that.

You, and anyone reading this, are welcome to write to my for private dialogue. I never share what someone tells me privately with anyone else unless they give me permission. I can be emailed at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com

You Can Have Both

Today's [This entry has been bumped up] Dear Abby is disappointing. COMPLICATED IN TENNESSEE wrote...

I have a male best friend I adore...We are not dating; we just have sex sometimes, and everyone that I try to be with knows about him.

It's good that she's honest.

Must I give up on my bestie to be with the man I love even though Bestie and I promised each other that we will never break our bond for anyone?

Something is missing. Is there an actual man she loves right now who has demanded she give up Bestie? Did that man know the truth about Bestie from the start?

Dear Abby replied...

If you hadn't been having sex sometimes with your bestie, the "man you love" might have been able to accept him. The answer to your question is yes, you will have to make a choice. Now, the question I have for you is, which man do you think is the keeper?

Sigh. 

Abby is aware of polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of ethical (or disclosed or consensual) nonmonogamy. There are men for whom the fact that Bestie exists would be something that that makes this letter writer more desirable, and other men who would accept her relationship with Bestie. And yes, there are men who won't want to be with her, but those aren't the only men out there.

It's something that has to be worked out with any person she is with. Aside from the sex, some people want their partner to be their best friend, and don't want to be in a relationship in which their partner's best friend is another person (sometimes, depending on gender).

Monogamy shouldn't be considered the default. Nobody should assume monogamy when dating someone. People need to actually talk about and negotiate the rules of their relationship. If they want or need monogamy, they need to be clear about that and define what monogamy means. For some, it means the partners will not touch (literally!) another adult. For others, monogamy means that they will be spouses and nobody else will have the status of a spouse, but things like casual sex with others is fine.

Attention Mental Health and Relationship Professionals

If you're a professional (or on your way to becoming one) in the fields of mental health -or- counseling for romantic or sexual relationships, I'd like to hear from you, if any of the following apply to you:

1. You've personally felt attraction to, sexual desire for, or romantic feelings for, or have been curious about getting sexual with a close relative or family member, whether you raised, were raised by, or were raised with them or not. This could be what is described as incestuous desires, attractions or fantasies, or consanguinamorous feelings, or Genetic Attraction or Genetic Sexual Attraction.

2. You've personally experienced consanguinamory, or incestuous or consanguineous sex or experimentation with a close relative or family member, whether you raised, were raised by, or were raised with them or not. (Note: I'm not talking about assault, but rather experimentation, affection, or sex.)

3. You support (even if just quietly to yourself) the rights of consenting close relatives to be together in romantic or sexual relationships or have sexual experiences together.

4. Whether in your personal life (4a) or your professional life (4b), you've wanted to be an ally or affirming or welcoming of people with such experiences or feelings.

This is not a request for services.* We want to know of your mere existence at least; you can even stay anonymous. We know you're out there. I've been in contact with a few of you over the years. So please let us know you exist, and which of the above apply to you. You can be as simple as stating the number(s) above.

So if any of those apply to you, whether you are, or have been, or are on your way to becoming, a therapist, mental health or relationship counselor, a relationship coach, LMFT, MFCC, psychologist, psychiatrist, social worker, sociologist, or any other similar professional, credentialed or otherwise, it would be great to hear from you.

You can comment below, including anonymously (you can also request your comment not be published) and there are many other ways to reach out. I’d never publish anything you send to me without your permission.

You can email fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com, or reach out on Wire messaging app at fullmarriageequality

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/fullmarriageequality

Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/FullMEquality - You can send Direct Messages.

*While this is not a request for services and you can remain completely anonymous if you'd like, you are welcome to provide as much information as you'd like (again, nothing gets published without your permission) and if you ARE willing to take on clients, that would be wonderful to know. Your feedback on the topics of this blog are welcome, too.

Brazil Should Move Forward, Not Regress

Someone who wishes to be anonymous recently shared this...

Hey I recently found out that there is a new law to be voted to criminalize incest in Brazil.

I don’t think it will pass. I believe incest is more common than people think in Brazil.

...

The article is in Portuguese but I will post the translation here.

“Congressman Sanderson's Bill 603/21 (PSL-RS) criminalizes the practice of incest in Brazil. The text provides for imprisonment of one to five years for those who have sexual intercourse with father or mother, son or daughter, brother or sister and grandfather or grandmother, whether consanguineous relative or affinity.

"The proposal adds an article to the Criminal Code. In Brazil, incest is not a crime, unless it involves children and adolescents. If, on the contrary, those involved are adults and do not act under threat or violence, there is no prohibition for the practice.”

When it comes to certain relationships, Brazil has been closer to equality than most most of the world. Brazil should continue to move forward, not go away from equality.

Consenting adults in Brazil should be free to share love, sex, kink, residence, and marriage, or any of those without the others, without persecution, bullying, criminalization, or any other discrimination. There are people in consanguinamorous relationships all over the country. They aren't hurting anyone. Calling them criminals would be such a terrible injustice.

Are you in Brazil? Whether you are or not, if you have something to say about this, you can comment below or contact Keith.