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Thursday, May 30, 2019

Polyamory is Not Synonymous With Promiscuity

Polyamorists are diverse. About the only thing all polyamorous people have in common is that they are 1) people and 2) polyamorous. There are polyamorous people everywhere, and there always have been. Some tend to conform to the larger culture around them and seem as "average" as can be, some are countercultural. Polyamorists vary in sexual orientations, philosophies, faith traditions, political affiliations, lifestyles, and just about every way humans can be diverse.

They are also diverse in how they live out polyamory, which is why "polyamory" is definitely not synonymous with "promiscuity" if promiscuity is defined as "the practice of having casual sex frequently with different partners or being indiscriminate in the choice of sexual partners."

Some polyamorists never engage in casual sex and are very particular about their choice of sexual partners, and some will have fewer sexual partners over the course of their life than many people who identify as monogamous. Yes, there are some polyamorists who are promiscuous, but promiscuous polyamorists aren't the only people who are promiscuous.

None of this is to intended to be negative towards casual sex or promiscuity. just to clarify that polyamory and promiscuity are not the same thing. Someone can have two lifelong partners they didn't have sex with until well into their relationship and be polyamorous. And just because someone enjoys some casual sex with a few different people doesn't mean, necessarily, that they are polyamorous.

One of the beautiful things about letting consenting adults negotiate their own encounters and relationships without laws or other forms of discrimination interfering is that you can have things the way you feel is best and your neighbor can have completely different relationships, and you and your lovers can all have what you need. This is yet another reason to support full marriage equality and relationship rights for all.
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Tuesday, May 28, 2019

We Get Letters From Twins

Anonymous left a comment on an entry...

I am with my twin brother. We started 5 months ago.We are now 22 and very happy.
Congratulations on your love!
I had been with two men before and my brother was a virgin before me. He had only wanted to be with me. He is my twin, and naturally there was always this fantasy. Yet,I never dreamed this could become a reality. There was always a shame about it.

It's too bad that there are prejudices against love.

He always had a strong dislike and jealousy towards both of my boyfriends. This always made me upset because we have always been the best of friends. When I was involved with them my relationship with my brother was distant. When I came to understand that he was jealous and what his feelings for me were, my feelings for him quickly escalated and manifested fast,.when it became clear to me he had these thoughts.
It can be difficult for someone closeted about their consanguinamorous feelings. When the other or others recognize what is going on, it makes more sense of things.
Though society condemns us I felt why not.
There's is no good reason to avoid what you both want.
We can be very, very happy together. No matter how unrealistic people say this is.
Others have done it for a lifetime.
It was me that made the first move.Very slowly, yet fully knowing that he was in love with me. We just turned 22 and nothing would please me more than to become pregnant and spend my life with him.
Somebody has to make a move if anything is going to happen.

Congratulations again on your love! Please do contact me privately as I'd like to keep in touch and hear more from you (and anyone else in a similar situation). I can be emailed at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com.

These links might help you with your goals...

How to Avoid Trouble

Considering Parenting

Consanguinamory and Reproduction

What To Tell the Children

What About Roles?

Keeping the Closet Door Closed

How to Pull Off Living Together


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Sunday, May 26, 2019

Monday is Memorial Day in the US

Monday, May 27 is a day that fallen military personnel are honored and remembered.

Some of our fallen were LGBT, some were polyamorous. Some were consanguinamorous. Until somewhat recently, none of them could be open about who they were or who they loved without dire consequences; only some of our LGBT military personnel have been able to come out thanks to the end of DADT and the implementation of some protections. Yet along with the rest of their military brothers and sisters, they fought for freedom.

So please let freedom ring.

Someone should be able to serve no matter their gender identity, sexual orientation or their relationships with consenting adults. And they should be able to have their marriages legalized, and certainly not punished for their relationships.
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Saturday, May 25, 2019

Here Comes Summer

While Summer literally starts every year around June 21, in the US, we tend to consider it Summer Season with the arrival of Memorial Day Weekend, which is an extended holiday weekend, taking place right now.

Many schools, all the way up through universities, have concluded their Spring sessions and commencement and graduation ceremonies have taken place.

These things mean many family members are spending more time together, some coming from out of town. Students, former students, professors, instructors, and other school staff may be starting their breaks. They are having parties around pools, beach trips, and the like. Some may be spending more time around each other for much of the next few months.

In this environment, consanguinamorous interactions flourish. Some are started, some are rekindled. If you're having strange, erotic, or romantic feelings or thoughts about at least one family member, whether they are a close genetic relative of not, or if you're beginning or resuming a sexual or romantic relationship of this sort, you're certainly not alone.

Whether the person you're spending time with is a blood relation, adoptive relation, step relation, affinity relation (such as an in-law or an aunt by marriage), or honorary family member, irrational prejudices and other factors can cause confusion or conflicted feelings.

Feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk with. As always, you're welcome to comment below; you can do so anonymously, if you'd like.
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Friday, May 24, 2019

Pansexual Visibility Day

May 24 is Pansexual Visibility Day.

We support the rights of all to live out their sexual orientation. This includes pansexuals.

If you are pansexual, know that we support you and you are welcome here.

If you're not pansexual, you know someone who is! That is one reason why Pansexual Visibility Day is important.

Everyone should be free to be themselves, and to have the relationships to which they mutually agree, and not be harassed or assaulted or discriminated against because of it.

Are you pansexual? Know someone who is? As always, you are welcome to comment below about your thoughts and experiences.

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Thursday, May 23, 2019

Yes, Consanguinamory Should Be Legal

Should consanguinamory be legal?

Yes!

When people think through the question calmly and rationally, they usually realize there is no good reason to deny consenting adults, including closely related adults, such a basic human right as to love each other as they mutually agree.

Here is question being discussed in an academic setting.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TbXkjM5HeME





Note: This blog hasn't featured much video content, but thanks to an ally who is calling my attention to some videos, I might be featuring several videos over the next few weeks.
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Friday, May 17, 2019

Taiwan Advances

It's always good to see progress continues in moving towards full marriage equality. This time, it is in Taiwan...
Taiwan's parliament has become the first in Asia to legalise same-sex marriage following a vote on Friday.

More freedom to marry takes us closer.
Lawmakers debated three different bills to legalise same-sex unions and the government's bill, the most progressive of the three, was passed.
Good. There's still much to do, though.
The two other bills, submitted by conservative lawmakers, refer to partnerships as "same-sex family relationships" or "same-sex unions" rather than "marriages". 
But the government's bill, also the only one to offer limited adoption rights, was passed by 66 to 27 votes - backed by lawmakers from the majority Democratic Progressive Party. 
It will take effect after Taiwan's President Tsai Ing-wen passes it into law.
There simply is no reason to deny consenting adults their relationship rights, including full marriage equality. 
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Thursday, May 16, 2019

International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia

May 17 is the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia.

Regardless of someone's sex or gender identity, regardless of their sexual orientation, an adult should be free to be themselves, to be in public, to work, to be "single," or to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any and all consenting adults, without fear of prosecution, bullying, harassment, discrimination, or any other negative effects of homophobia, transphobia, biphobia, etc.

Let's stand up to hate, bigotry, prejudice, discrimination, bullying, and unjust laws. Let's protect people from being abused by those who would perpetuate hate.

Progress is often difficult and achieved through much struggle. Sometimes it can seem like there have been setbacks. But overall, progress is being made. Let's keep the momentum going!
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Friday, May 10, 2019

Mother's Day

It's Mother's Day weekend, at least around these parts, so Happy Mother's Day to all mothers out there, especially mothers who face discrimination, persecution, and even prosecution for loving one or more other adults, and the mothers who've stood by their children who've faced bigotry for being who they are and loving who they do.

We're making progress. Hang in there and continue to care for your loved ones.

If you have plans for an interesting Mother's Day or end up having an interesting Mother's Day and you think our readers will want to hear about it, do tell! Sons and daughters.... any special plans?

I include those who've "adopted" mother figures, especially if you've done so because your own mother is no longer with us or was not a supportive person. Almost all of us have a mother in our life, even if that mother isn't officially family.

So you mothers or the people who admire them: comment below, which you can do anonymously, or you can email fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com.
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Wednesday, May 8, 2019

She Wants to Watch

Quora can be a great place to ask and answer questions. Here's my profile there, if you want to follow or connect there.

Someone asked this question...
Our 19 year old daughter asked us to let her watch when we have sex. What is wrong with her?
Here's my extended answer...

There might not be anything wrong with her.

If you two don’t want to have sex in front of her, tell her "no." She can find other people who’ll let her watch, if she wants to.

If you both like the idea or are open to it, then consider granting her request.

Some people like watching other people have sex. A lot of people like doing it via media (such as sex videos) and there are also people who like to watch in-person. Some people like having sex in front of others. Some don't mind having sex in front of others. Others don't want to have sex in front of others.

To each their own.

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Wednesday, May 1, 2019

Why Polyandry Should Be Legalized

Polyandry should be legalized because the freedom of association, including the right to marry, is a basic human right and marriage equality means an adult having the freedom to marry any and all consenting adults.

An adult, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race, or religion, should be free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage (or any of those without the others) with any and all consenting adults, without fear of prosecution, bullying, or discrimination.

Adults should be free to love each other how they mutually agree.

There is no good reason to deny the civil rights of polyandrous people or deny their relationships equality.

Some people thrive the most within polyandrous relationships. Polyandry isn't for everyone, but some people enjoy polyandry.


Polyandry means having more than one husband; as such, it is a form of polygamy. There are places in the world where such relationships are traditional. There are relationships all over the world that function this way.

Fortunately, polyandrous-style relationships aren't criminalized in general in most countries that don't require all relationships be functionally monogamous or polygynous, even though it is illegal in places like the US and the UK to register as having more than one husband at the same time.

Lets make full marriage equality happen sooner rather than later, so that anyone who wants a polyandrous relationship will be truly free to have one.
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