Sunday, August 14, 2011

Let's Make It Happen Sooner Rather Than Later

If you support full marriage equality and the general right of consenting adults to share love, sex, and residence, you can support these rights in any number of ways.

Promote full marriage equality On Facebook:

Group: I Support Full Marriage Equality!

Causes: I Support Full Marriage Equality!

Solidarity - Support people in your life who are LGBT, polyamorous, or in consanguineous relationships, especially if they are being discriminated against or rejected or are somehow struggling. Support from family members and friends is especially helpful.

Seek Organized Help and to Help – There are various civil rights and sex-positive organizations and events that already exist that should, in solidarity, welcome you if you need help or want to help. Your local Gay-Straight Alliance, PFLAG, or other LGBT group or event is one place to go. Some there might not be welcoming of poly or consang people, but others might have a sense of solidarity. (I will not financially support any organization or event that doesn’t support full marriage equality; equality just for some is not equality.) If you are an organizer, make sure you are being inclusive and showing solidarity.

Academic Research – Support and participate in research related to these matters, or, if you are a researcher or professor, consider related topics for research.

Vote – Support these rights with your vote.

Legislation – Ask your legislators to support privacy and freedom for consenting adults; ask them to repeal senseless laws against victimless crimes like polyamory and consensual consanguineous relationships. If you are a legislator, put together a bill that repeals outdated and unjust laws that tie up needed resources.

Law Enforcement/Court Cases – Don’t arrest and don’t prosecute people for victimless crimes like consensual private sex. If you are on a jury, nullification is an option, which means finding someone not guilty even if they have broken the law, beause the law is injust.

Media Feedback and Appearances – Thank media companies whose productions support these rights, and admonish those whose productions perpetuate prejudice and bigotry. Speak with the media to promote marriage equality, after preparing.

Speak Up – Support these rights in online comments and discussions, calls to talk shows, letters to editors, and so on. Answer polls and surveys in which you can express your support for these rights. Speak up in personal conversations when the topic or related topics come up; let people know you support the rights of consenting adults to pursue happiness.

Be mindful of terminology being used. Draw clear distinction between child abuse (child brides, child molestation) and consensual relationships. Do not let people equate, for example, adult siblings in a consensual relationship to rape of a minor child by a parent. Call out anyone who neglects solidarity by throwing others under the bus.

Share This Blog! – Spread the word about this blog. Follow us and link to us.

Tell Us! – Alert us to something we’ve missed, alert us to the existence of your blog, tell us what you think, or share your personal experiences with us.

Full marriage equality will happen. But we need your help to get there sooner rather than later.

(This has been adapted from my page How You Can Help.)

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  1. Major, major omission!!! Under Court Cases, there is no mention of LAWSUITS - such as Loving v. Virginia, the ACLU case in which the US Supreme Court struck down all US laws against interracial marriage. This is an extremely powerful method!!!

  2. Thanks. I figured the lawyers would have that information already.


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