For all men raising or helping (or who have helped) to raise a child, whether you are a biological father, presumed father, grandfather, stepfather, bonus father, adoptive father, foster father or any variation… we wish you a Happy Father’s Day!
A special thanks to fathers who have supported and loved their children who are LGBTQ+, polyamorous, consanguinamorous, or have otherwise faced persecution or oppression because of who they are or the person(s) they love. And you fathers who ARE LGBTQ+, polyamorous, or consanguinamorous, we see you, too.
We offer a note of encouragement to all fathers who can’t legally marry the person(s) they love, but would if they could, or who face bullying due to love or who they are: We will win so that every adult can pursue love, sex, and marriage with any consenting adults.
If you have a good father in your life, are you planning anything special for Father's Day?
Some considerations if you have, or are considering, a more physical relationship with your father...
Some of you might want to share more physical affection with your father than you already do, and perhaps this is the time to make that step. This might help you decide, and this can help you make it happen. It can be a simple as making him a "father-with-benefits" if that is what you want. You can go slowly if either or any of you is nervous.
If you know he's interested, whether or not you can go along with it, let him have his fantasies.
If you can't see him in person, but want to give him a special greeting online, there are ways to do that.
If you're involved with your father, and he's struggling with it, check this out.
If you have an especially interesting Father's Day, or are planning something special, tell us about it by commenting below or you can email Keith at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com or reach him on Wire messaging app at fullmarriageequality.
Here are some past entries on this blog that involve fathers...
Secure Together
Seven Years Along
It Runs in the Family
Expectant Parents Denied Their Rights
Another Woman Denied Her Rights
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Being a father is a great happiness and a huge responsibility. Being a father with a sexual orientation that is not recognized by society and who has chosen the beloved one who is not recognized by society is truly a hardest challenge.
ReplyDeleteThis is further compounded by the fact that if a father is sexually romantically attracted to his child or another family member who is related to him by blood and enters into a consensual relationship with them, this is immediately perceived by ordinary people as grooming, abuse, violence, coercion and rape. And this happens only because the father is a man with great physical strength (more than the other members of his family possess) and the potential to exert a forceful and moral influence on the rest of the family, as the "head of the family", authorized by religion, tradition and his contribution to the financial support of his family members. From the point of view of consanguinamory, mothers find themselves in a much better position just because they are women. And the mother is considered "more important" for the child, even, unfortunately, from the point of view of the law in many states and other countries that is reflected in the infringement of men's custody rights in divorces and breakups of common law marriages.
Father's Day is a holiday for real Men who take care of their children, putting their interests above their own and making them happy. And if a child is happy with their father in a voluntary sexually romantic relationship that does not harm others, then this is wonderful, natural and highly humane.
Dear fathers, I wish you good health, good luck, prosperity and a huge heart that can contain love for all your children, no matter what it may be - purely paternal or consanguinamous.