At the Too Afraid to Ask Reddit, konqueror238 wrote "Feeling attracted to my older sister during puberty?"
I have a older sister and she is a very good looking woman. During my puberty years my hormones were very crazy, that's very normal for boys during that age.During those years I was very attracted to my sister's body and I will admit with shame that I used to masturbate thinking of her, it also didn't help that I was also discovering the world of porn. At that time I was very young and didn't understand the concept of "incest", my brain just went full monkey mode at the sight of boobs. It was only after quite a while I stopped feeling that way.I will take that secret to my grave and she will never know of it. My question is, anyone else that spend their puberty years living with a attractive relative felt that way too?
It's sad that anyone would think they could be alone in having such feelings. Sex education is lacking!
It is very common to have such feelings and attractions, even if most people who do don't admit it. Some people act on their feelings.
It isn't limited to puberty, either. Some have such thoughts and desires at any age after, too, about siblings, parents, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins, grandparents, etc.
The Westermarck Effect describes the "Ew!" feeling many people have about such thoughts. However, not everyone experiences the Westermarck Effect, at least not when it comes to every member of their family.
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What are the most romantic incest stories that are around? The case studies here are full of so much love. It's remarkable.
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ReplyDeleteI've been attracted to my sister for years now. That attraction wasn't just in my teens, it has remained. I'm not sure if I would want us to be a couple but I definitely want sex with my sister. A family with benefits situation would be ideal.
ReplyDeletesexual education, sexual acceptance education, sexual awakening education.... these are all topics in which unfortunately we are extremely lacking and I say this as a twenty-year-old boy who has worked hard to develop his relationship with his mother (effort also reduced by the fact that there were two of us thinking about the matter)
ReplyDeleteSex education needs a reform, like the law regarding sex within a family. I hope your hard work with your mother worked? Sometimes it takes time to remove that barrier
DeleteI believe that the so-called Westermarck Effect simply does not exist.
ReplyDeleteInternal sexual attraction and sexual aversion to another person are inherent in both related and unrelated individuals.
Westermarck failed to recognize the influence of adult-instilled/educated children's behavior inside the families and the added influence of state/religious/societal-instilled behavior during adolescence, youth, and adulthood. There is a constant reproduction of the same false, irrational styles of sexual behavior in the family under the guise of religious dogmas, social taboos and government laws.
Many scientists have tried and are still trying to prove that the impossibility of consanguinamory/incest is due to Mother nature itself, and that humans are merely helping nature by prohibiting sexual relations between relatives by all means and punishing/curing those who deviate. They are portrayed as rapists, pedophiles and mentally deficient, and at best, it is demonstrated the futility and hopelessness of consanguinamory in literature, in films, and on television, which always ends tragically.
In addition, Westermarck did not take into account such an important factor as the rivalry in the family between siblings, including for material benefits or parental attention, as well as their jealousy of each other's success. If we talk about "innate sexual aversion" between parents and children, we must also take into account the natural dissatisfaction of children with their parents' authority, their prohibitions/boundaries, and children's feelings of complete dependence on their parents, not to mention cases where parents abuse their power or fail to fulfill their responsibilities.
I am also sure that, on the other hand, there are powerful factors in a family living under the same roof that contribute to consanguinamory.
This is primarily the constant "physical"/"geometric" proximity of individuals of the opposite genders, which inevitably leads to the involuntary display of poorly concealed primary and/or secondary sexual characteristics, stimulating sexual interest. Besides. Family members have known each other since the younger ones were born, and this closeness and understanding of each other's personalities and reactions reduces the barriers to sexual behavior between them compared to the same behavior with non-relatives.
So, there are a number of complex factors that both promote and prevent consanguinamory, that both promote sexual interest among family members and stimulate sexual aversion.
Nevertheless, the entire biological and social history of mankind does not provide A SINGLE objective, scientifically substantiated reason for the impossibility of sexual and romantic relationships between blood relatives. Unfortunately, this simple fact cannot be accepted not only by stubborn fanatics but also by average people around us.
And here we come to the sexual education of children, teenagers and adolescents.
Regrettably, we all understand that the official education of tolerance for consanguinamory/incest, as is currently the case with LGBTQ+ in advanced democratic countries, is a matter of the distant future. Of the very distant future.
But this does not mean that people who share the views of Full Marriage Equality should sit idly by. We can do a lot in our families and communities. We can foster tolerance for consanguinamory in our children, grandchildren, siblings, niblings and others. We can try to subtly educate other adults, including those who are not related to us. And we can support those who are considering or have already entered into sexual and romantic relationships with their relatives.
And that's not a small thing.
Constant dropping will wear away a stone.
Let's remember how gays, lesbians, and transgender people fought for their rights...
We will definitely win!