Secure Together

Kindred Spirits forum continues to be a great place for consanguinamorous people and allies to connect, and to read about the experiences and emotions of people in these relationships. With permission, I'm quoting some statements from one woman who is at the forum.

From her introductory message...

I'm in a relationship with my father for 7 years. I'm 27 and he's 48. I lost my virginity to my father at the age of 20, so he's my first and only love. We just moved to our new place and we are planning to make a baby. I know he will make a great father. I mean, after all, he did raised me himself. Feel free to message me, or ask me any questions.

Later, she responded to Jane's situation with her father...

Jane Doe, I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you and your dad. My father was the same way when we started our relationship. He felt like he was betraying my trust and that he wasn't being fair to me. It took a whole year for my father to get over his shame and guilt. I had to constantly reassure him that I like it and I was okay with it. He's a great father and he finally sees that now.

Someone asked, "Do your relationships feel any stronger because of the added blood bond?"

I think I'm late to the party here, but the answer to your question is yes. It's not just the sex itself, but even the little things like, flirting, holding hands, or just a simple conversation. When I cuddled with my father in bed, I feel so loved as his woman, and as his daughter. I feel like I just won the lottery ticket because I have someone who is my best friend, my lover, and the best part, my father.

Later she added...

I think I've already found my perfect match on earth and that is my father. We absolutely knows everything about each other. I love the fact how he's always been there for me since birth. I can't imagine being with anybody else.

In another thread she wrote...

He makes me feel beautiful inside and outside. I know I can't find this kind of love and bond with any body else...I love sharing the same bed with my father. I love how close we are and how open we are with each other. I love knowing that I can come to him as my man, and as my father. But most of all, I love the deep trust between us.

And...

Something about the bond I have with my father is indescribable. It's so much deeper than love and I've grown strongly attached to my father

She announced some exciting news...

I couldn't wait any more so here is the exciting news. I am pregnant with my daddy's child. I have always wanted a baby with my dad and now that I'm finally pregnant, it felt surreal. We are both excited about being parents and raising the child together. The word "happy" can't even begin to describe how I really feel inside. Each day it feels like I made the right choice to be with my dad.

Finally, she had choice words for "Opposers"...

My dad is not a pervert, a predator, manipulator, child molester, and he's definitely not an evil person. My dad is kind, loving, caring, generous, and trustworthy. He is fair and generous to others. He's willing to help friends, family, and even strangers. My dad is humble and unselfish. He gives more than he takes. He does community volunteer work and makes donations. He taught me about love, kindness, fairness, and generosity. To me, it makes perfect sense why I only want to be with my dad. My dad is NOT a bad father, or a bad person. He is my BEST friend and the GREATEST dad in the world. We deserve to be happy just like any couples. No matter what anybody says, this is love. Matter of fact, it is beyond love. It is something that can not be define by a dictionary, professors, psychologists, or even scientists. It is beyond knowledge and logic. It is probably the most rare, and even maybe the most unique relationship out in the universe. I am so lucky and grateful to have such a beautiful relationship with my dad.

Like so many others, she has discovered that the person for her is someone she already loved and trusted, and their connection is a powerful one. There is no good reason they should be denied their rights. It is the prejudiced bigotry of others that causes the most trouble. Let consenting adults have the relationships to which they mutually agree, including full marriage equality.