I want my kids to have their own rooms eventually. It’s not a gender thing. I don’t really have a problem with a brother and sister sharing a room until high school (at least I think I don’t).As many of the comments pointed out, for most of human history in most places of the world, siblings shared bedrooms with each other, if not their parents. In many parts of the US in recent years, affluence has allowed (or laws have mandated) that siblings have, if not their own rooms, different rooms for different genders.
For me it’s more about allowing twins to have their own space and identities. When you are a twin, you are almost always with your sibling. People lump you together, assume you are the same, and force you to share what other kids don’t have to. It’s sort of the reason we put them in separate classrooms at school.
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If someone thinks it is "creepy" for siblings to be close, siblings who are close are not likely to let on that they are that close. My husband’s cousins are 21 and 23 (brother and sister) and they have shared a room their entire lives. Their parents have this cute but really tiny 2 bedroom house. They say they don’t mind sharing a room (they have a curtain in the middle between the beds for privacy). They get along well but they’re not “creepy close” or anything like that.
It could be I moved to Italy when I was 22 and I remember going to visit a friend who had had knee surgery and was recuperating at home. I went with my then-boyfriend (now husband) to check up on him and was totally amazed to see that this 25yo living at home still shared a bedroom with his 22yo sister! Especially because when touring the house I saw that there was a large furnished attic being used as a rec-type room. So, one of them could have moved up there if they’d wanted to (I imagine). It’s true that space is really limited here and it’s a culture that doesn’t encourage young people to move out until marriage/cohabitation, but I was really surprised. Given that, I think their relationship is completely normal.sexual and normal.
My 13 year old boy/girl twins shared a room until they were 4 and still have separate rooms today. However, more often than not my son ends up sleeping on my daughters floor or on her couch to the point that I’ve considered giving his room to my 3 year old who shares with me.
Siblings sharing a room doesn't mean something will happen, nor is giving each sibling their own room a surefire way to make sure something won't happen. What is important that is that one sibling is not allowed to violate the boundaries of another sibling. Privacy must be respected. Also, if siblings close in age do explore or experiment per the consent of all, it isn't something for parents to freak out about.