Monday, October 24, 2011

Deep in Their Hearts in Texas

Congratulations to Clara Collins and Trent Holmes for coming out. From the Zimbabwe Mail comes this apparent case of Genetic Sexual Attraction (I have retained apparent typing errors in the article as I found it)…

This is a real life story about a 49 year old Texas woman Clara Collins who gave up her son Trent Holmes for adoption and 24 years later the boy turned up at her door-step looking for her real mum in November 2008, it was "love at the first sight" and the pair have been living together as partners.

Lara Collins insists the moment she said "I do" to her husband is the proudest of her life-despite the fact she gave birth to him.

Incredibly, she says there is nothing sick about her relationship with son Trent Holmes, 27, because she gave him up for adoption as a baby and never raised him.

She’s right that there’s nothing sick about it, but I would say that even if there had been an existing social mother-son relationship. An adult should be free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any consenting adults.

Brazenly, the 49 year old who was reunited with ehr son three years ago and immediately fancied him - even admits their sex life is the "best ever" and says she feels no shame, even though their "marriage" is deemed illegal because of the incest laws.

The laws are wrong. There is no legitimate reason to criminalize this, or deny them the right to marry. As far as the sex, it is typical for people in consanguinamorous relationships to experience more intense lovemaking than with any other relationship they’ve have.

Clara says: "I know people will be disgusted, but I have a wonderful fulfilling sexual relationship with Trent. I was shocked by my feelings to start with, but I know this can happen between parents and children when they've grown up apart. I've never been happier - and the sex is mind-blowing!"

Good for them.

For years Clara wrote letter to her son, but never heard a word from him or his adoptive family. She tried to move on, but never settled in a stable relationship or had more kids.

Then, three years ago, in November 2008, Trent, then 24, appaered at her door.

"I saw a tall, dark-haired man standing there. My heart skipped a beat and I knew he was my son. He had my smile and mum's eyes," Clara says. "He confirmed who he was and I felt an explosion of joy and hugged him."

But, incredibly, she faced unexpected emotions. she was hugely attracted to him. She explains: "I couldn't take my eyes off him - he was gorgeous. One moment I felt he was my son, the next I fanced him. It horrified me."

Do people in Texas really use “fancied,” and “mum,” or is that quote a paraphrase by the writer? Maybe I just don’t know my ass from my arse or bum. I shouldn't get my knickers in a wad about it. Anyway, the feelings, which sound like GSA, are not uncommon with reunions like this one.

The pair taked for hours and Trent revealed how, on his 21st birthday, he was told he'd been adopted and immediately started looking for Clara.

"I kept shaking and bursting into tears," Clara says. "But the motherly rush I expected wasn't coming. I felt a terrifying lust. I ran to the bathroom and threw up - I felt disgusted."

Conflicts in these cases are often created by societal prejudices.

Amazingly, despite her feelings, Clara invited Trent to stay so they could get to know each other better.

"Every day, I fought to feel like a mum - but I could only see Trent as gorgeous man," she admits. "When I handed him anything and our hands touched I felt sexual tensions - and when he hugged me my whole body quivered.

I lay awake at night wanting to be with him. I was mortified he'd guess how I felt."

But, astonishingly, Trent felt the same way.

"Ive aways fancied older women and had older grilfriends. I was instantly attracted to Clara," he admits. "It was so different to how I saw my adoptive mum - I noticed Clara's sex petitie figure and her boobs. I just wanted to kiss her. It was frightening."

Fortunately, Trent found out the truth…

Consfused, Trent reaserched his feelings online and discovered Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) - when parents and children who have been separated can feel a sexual attraction when reunited.

Trent says: "It was such a relief to know it was natural. I decided I had to make a move - I knew Clara was the woman for me and it wasn't wrong after all."

He cooked her a romantic meal and, after building up courage, leaned in to kiss her.

"I was stunned, but melting all at once," says Clara. "It was gentle at first and then passionate. It felt so right - but at the sma time so wrong. We kissed for 10 min and then I pulled away, I felt sick.

I kept saying how wrong it was."

But Trent explained about GSA and Clara began to accept her feelings.

Good for her.

I was suddenly relaxed and shocked myself when I led him to the bedroom and told him I wanted to make love."

Disturbingly, Clara admits it was the best sex of her life.

Why would that be disturbing? It is beautiful. Perhaps it “disturbs” the control of the sex police.

His parents were not accepting.

"They were horrified - I begged them to understand but Mu screamed and Dad threw me out," he recalls. "Mum said: "We no longer have a son.' It's so sad, but I've found true love and I can't give that up for them."

Perhaps his parents should read this page.

Clara told four of her friends about her relationship with Thrent and reveals two of them were disgusted and threatened to call the police, though she says the two others were shocked at first but finally told her they wouldn't judge her.

She now knows who her real friends are.

Last New Year's Eve, Trent, a telecoms manager, proposed with a £2000 engagement ring and the couple "married" in June.

Clara says: "It couldn't be an official wedding because of incest laws, but he said he loved me, and I no longer saw him as my son - he's my partner and love. I really feel we're man and wife."

There is no good reason to deny them the freedom to marry. This is another example of why we need full marriage equality sooner rather than later, so that they can be fully free to be with each other and their marriage can be legally recognized.

Clara and Trent, you are always welcome to comment here or to contact me. Don’t let the bigots intrude on your happiness.
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