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Are you in a consensual relationship that is forbidden by law, custom, or your family? Do you fear bullying, persecution, discrimination, or even prosecution because of who you are or the love you share with another?

Can you say yes to any of the following…

1. Are you lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning or do you have a same-gender love interest, or are you otherwise outside of a narrow definition of heterosexuality or gender roles?

2. Are you nonmonogamous, polyamorous, polygamous or do you practice some form of honest nonmonogamy, or are you curious about ethical, disclosed, or consensual nonmonogamy?

3. Do you think you or someone you know is experiencing Genetic Sexual Attraction?

4. Are you involved in consanguinamory, meaning involved in consensual incest or consanguineous sex or marriage? Are you in a consanguinamorous relationship, or have you been in one, or do you want to be in one? (If you're a minor, meaning you aren't yet a legal adult, read this.)

If so, you are not alone, and the links and information below may be helpful to you.

But first, to borrow from my disclaimer that is at the bottom of this blog…

The focus of this blog is consenting adults. This blog does not advocate anyone engage in activity that is currently illegal in their jurisdiction; it does advocate changing or repealing any law that prevents the freedom of association, love, and full marriage equality for adults. This blog condemns rape, sexual assault, and child molestation, and frowns in the general direction of cheating (breaking existing vows to others). This blog does not provide medical, therapeutic, legal, financial, or cooking advice. This blog links to other sites for informational purposes; it does not necessarily support everything at those links.

With that out of the way…

There is nothing wrong with love and consensual sex. That other people are against it does not make it wrong for you. Here are some sex-positive resources…

Center for Sex Positive Culture
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
Consenting Adult Action Network
Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance

Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS)
Charlie Glickman

Now, about the specific categories that may apply to you...

1. There are many great resources for LGBT people, and in many places, some strong legal protections. Here are just a few…

Human Rights Campaign
Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
Lambda Legal
Gay, Lesbian, Straight Education Network
Gay-Straight Alliance Network
Truth Wins Out
Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation
Freedom to Marry

Consider consulting an attorney or moving to where the laws are most favorable to you.
Freedom to Same-sex Marriage Map
Freedom to Same-sex Marriage in US Map

2. There are fewer resources and legal protections for nonmonogamous or polyamorous people, but there are still some places to find help.

World Polyamory Association
Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association
Polyamory in Australia (UK)
Poly Families
Christian Polygamy

I also recommend joining/supporting and seeking assistance from organizations with an LGBT focus or a general sex-positive focus.

Consider consulting an attorney or moving to where the laws are most favorable to you.
Freedom to Polygamy Map

3. and 4. Unfortunately, there aren’t many resources or legal protections pertaining specifically to Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) or consanguinamory.

Here are some writings of mine that may help:
Should You Do It?
How Common is Consanguinamory?
What Family and Friends Should Know
Interviews With People in Consanguinamorous Relationships

In places that still outlaw consanguinamory, the law does not make a distinction between consanguinamory initiated through GSA or consanguinamory initiated in some other circumstance. Sociologically, GSA-initiated consanguinamory is different from other forms of consanguinamory, although some people and the law may still ridiculously lump them together under the label of “incest,” along with child molestation.

As far as consanguinamory in general, Kindred Spirits Forum is a good non-porn site. People in GSA relationships or with GSA experience are welcome along with anyone involved in or interested in consanguinamory or any consensual sex labeled as “incest.” However, be sure to read and immediately follow the rules, or you'll be kicked off.

Other resources specifically for GSA include this Yahoo Group, which is very welcoming, and GSA: The Lion's Den is a blog by a young woman experiencing GSA with her genetic father.

There is a GSA forum that requires payment to join, which took up the torch of the original and most well-known GSA discussion forum, but the ultimate emphasis there is on discouraging consanguinamory, so I can only recommend it for people who have ended, want to end, want to avoid, or have been rebuffed in their desire for a sexual relationship, or are partners of those who are, or have been, engaged in a GSA situation and want to know how to cope with the difficulties and negative feelings. The discussion forum is now accessed via paid subscription.

Cousin couples can also find help here.

Anyone considering or facing a pregnancy with a consanguineous partner may want to contact the National Society of Genetic Counselors.

I also recommend joining/supporting and seeking assistance from organizations with an LGBT focus, a polyamory focus, or a general sex-positive focus.

Consider consulting an attorney or moving to where the laws are most favorable to you.
Freedom to Consanguineous Sex Map

You can contact me on Facebook or through emailing me at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com, and you can join our Facebook group I Support Full Marriage Equality!

Answers to Frequently Asked Questions
Answers to the Usual Arguments Against Relationship Rights and Full Marriage Equality
How You Can Help Others

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  2. RE:"3. and 4. Unfortunately, there aren’t many resources or legal protections"

    Did you know there are actually "pedophilia advocacy groups"?! NAMbLA is only one member organization of the IPCE. It just blew my mind, how there are so many such organizations, some international, some having convicted child molesters in their ranks -- for goodness' sake! -- while I've NEVER heard about such a thing as an advocacy group for consenting adults in consanguinamorous relationships.

    1. I understand what you're saying there should be groups for consensual incest, but Pedophillia isn't a choice

    2. People do have all sorts of attractions that they don't choose. Preying on children is action that must be avoided and is a matter to choices. So if we want to be technical, we need to focus on preventing abuse, not automatically discarding people based only on their feelings.

  3. consensual consanguinity is a choice for us adults! Most organizations like HRC don’t support polyamory and or consanguinity! Were brainwashed into this ideology of being in a a romantic relationship with non-family member such as some stranger and not romantically love your adult family members as adults!


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