Wednesday, July 27, 2011


Charlie Glickman is a serious sex educator. He wrote some good advice on “How to Have a Happy Threesome.” He provides tips for couples looking for a third person, rather than a solo person looking for a couple. Also, it is written to be applied to recreational threesomes, but the tips could be used for a polyamorous couple looking to audition someone for a triad. (Some poly people form “Vs” and others form triangles. And for many poly people, the sex is secondary and grows inevitably out of their friendship, and thus the tips would be different. But for others...)

First, are you both sure that you both want to do it? It’s pretty common for one partner to be more enthusiastic about it than the other. That can be okay as long as there’s some interest, but if one of you really isn’t into it, for any reason, don’t push it.

He’s right; this should be the most basic consideration.

OK, so you both want to make it happen. But what are you looking for? Do you want to find a man? A woman? Do you want to have two of you focus on the third? Do you all want to take turns being the center of attention? Are there specific kinds of sex you want to have?

You can read the rest here. It has some very important basic considerations if you’re thinking about doing something like this, including the important reminders about safe sex.
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