Nicola Yates, 26, tracked down real father Andrew Butler, 46, through the family-tracing website Genes Reunited.
But instead of developing a normal father-daughter relationship, the Birmingham pair fell in love and began living together as boyfriend and girlfriend.
GSA is common enough that I don’t think it should be categorized as abnormal. If someone doesn’t like what adults do with each other, then too bad. They need to get over worrying about what other people are doing in their own homes.
Nicola, a pretty accounts administrator, and factory worker Butler are now facing jail after her mother and sister discovered the awful truth and alerted police.
The police should have responded with, “So what?” I mean really. They are consenting adults. Who are they hurting? The woman who rat them out found Butler attractive enough to marry him and have children by him; why is she surprised someone else would find him attractive? Perhaps there is a wee bit of jealousy there on the part of the woman who rat them out, and maybe others in the family.
The shamed pair pleaded guilty to two counts of having sex with an adult relative at Birmingham Crown Court on July 7. They will be sentenced next month.
This should not be a crime. It is a waste of law enforcement resources.
They have been in love for years, enduring a previous run-in with the law…
The daughter was given a community order for 18 months and ordered to sign the Sex Offender Register for five years.
Butler received a four-month prison sentence, suspended for 18 months, and was made subject of an 18-month supervision order. He was ordered to undergo a sex offender programme and to sign the Sex Offender Register for seven years.
This is outrageous. They should be free to be together and marry, if that is what they want.
By the end of 2007 Nicola was thought by friends and family to have put the forbidden love affair behind her.
Details she posted on social networking sites at the time showed she had a wide circle of friends, was looking forward to a forthcoming job interview, and enjoyed partying and sports.
But in 2008 her family’s worst nightmare returned when Nicola announced she had a ‘new boyfriend’ – but was reluctant to introduce him to her family.
Insiders say the then 23 year-old tried to keep her new man’s identity under wraps. Mum Katrina asked to meet him but Nicola ‘kept putting her off’.
It is now known that the daughter and dad were secretly living together.
They shouldn’t have had to hide. It is nobody else’s business what consenting adults do.
The court heard the incestuous affair had lasted from 2008 to 2009. The penalty for the sex offence can be a two-year jail sentence.
Nicola and Butler are currently on bail. Their bail conditions forbid them from contacting one another.
Ridiculous. An adult should be free to pursue love, sex, cohabitation, and marriage (or not) with any consenting adults.
The good news is that for every case like this where consenting adults are persecuted by society and the government, there are many more where the lovers are free to live as they please because they are competent enough to keep their relationship a secret.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments. I have written about this here:
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