There is so much hatred, exclusion, prejudice, discrimination, bullying, repression, oppression, and bigotry in this world.
But there is also love, inclusion, affection, kindness, support, freedom, growth, cooperation, and solidarity.
Your identity, your orientation, your relationship style is for you to discover and explore, often with the help of kindly lovers, mentors, teachers, friends, and family.
Who you are, who you love, and how you love shouldn’t be forced upon you. Indeed, it can’t be. Rather, hostile forces only stifle, repress, cover up, traumatize. They don’t truly change who you are.
If you prefer to be alone most of the time, that’s OK.
If you prefer to have one partner, that’s OK.
If you prefer to have multiple partners, that’s OK.
This shouldn’t be up to naysayers. The naysayers can decide for themselves. They shouldn’t decide for you. They shouldn’t get a say in who your partners are and how you share love, sex, play, and life.
What matters is that the partners have consented to be together, and to do what they’re doing.
Laws that attempt to deny this are unjust and destructive.
Media offerings that perpetuate harmful misconceptions are irresponsible.
Services, such as forums, comments sections, blogging platforms, and social media, which deny participants the freedom to discuss these things and advocate for equal rights of all are part of the problem rather than the solution. Naysayers who attempt to spread their bigotry hurt people.
This blog is here to help.
You are supported here.
We are in solidarity, and welcome solidarity.
Let’s keep evolving towards relationship rights and full marriage equality for all.
Love must win.
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It is not their concern to be involved.
ReplyDeleteI wholeheartedly support the call of this post.
ReplyDeletePeople are born free and endowed with inalienable rights, among which the right to sexual self-identification and the choice of a partner(s) is one of the key ones.
Why do voluntary and conscious sexually romantic relationships without moral and physical coercion cause such hatred, rejection and bigotry? The answer is simple: because the vast majority of people do not like, do not tolerate, and often simply hate people who are not like themselves, especially if these are nearby. That is, if such "renegades" are their family members, neighbors, colleagues, acquaintances.
This psychological, emotional, and physical intolerance of the sexual dissimilarity has the same roots as religious, racial, national intolerance and intolerance to opposite genger.
Therefore, open or hidden intolerance to a different sexual identity, to sexual relations with "wrong" partners is essentially the same "racism", but only in the sphere of intimacy, in the sphere of the manifestation of our basic instinct and related emotions, the main of which is love.
"Similarity," being like everyone else, being like a crowd, like a herd, is also very convenient for those who lead this crowd and give ordinary people a sense of calm and confidence that they are living the right life. And this leads to the belief that ostracizing and eliminating the "wrong ones" is a good thing in the interests of the crowd, nation, religious confession and any group of people. In the name of the "health of the nation," the ancient Spartans simply killed newborn babies with physical disabilities, but modern "humane" civilization is trying to "cure" and convince children, adolescents, men and women with the "wrong" sexual orientation in all possible ways including the involvement of psychiatrists, bootcamps, religious and moral sermons, false propaganda from the mass media, as well as more subtle means - literature, art, cinema and television. Thank God that such renegades are not sent to concentration camps, as in the days of the Nazis.
Yes, we all have internal biases, rejection of certain manifestations of sexuality, but any honest person should be able to see beyond and deeper than their own feelings. Any decent person should be tolerant of the peculiarities of someone else's appearance, behavior, and sexuality if these features do not pose a danger to themselves, others, and humanity as a whole. And this is precisely the main idea of human progress and the triumph of reason, not unbridled instincts.
We cannot change the attitude of society, religion and the state towards the freedom of human sexuality as quickly as we would like. There is currently no alternative to the concept of small deeds. Voltaire wrote: "Everyone should cultivate their garden" (from French: faut cultivator son jardin). This means that each of us, in our place and at our time, must defend the ideas of Full Marriage Equality in our family, among our neighbors, colleagues, fellow students, acquaintances, and help those who are fighting for their rights to happiness of loving their chosen partner(s). We must teach our children tolerance in the field of voluntary sexual relations. And we must be able to react correctly if love suddenly breaks out between our family members, whether narrow or extended.
Yes, love must win, but each of us must do everything possible to ensure that this victory is achieved with the least loss and injury.
This blog is awesome. You are 100% right
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