I’ve adopted a personal policy and I recommend it for anyone who supports rights for all.
I don’t have time for bigots.
Bigots will never stop the hate.
Time is wasted on them.
I save my time for helping lovers and those who want to be, helping allies, helping legitimate journalists, academics, and media producers, and the genuinely questioning, curious, confused, and uncertain. Is someone you know involved in consanguinamory and/or nonmonogamy, or some other relationship you don’t understand, and you’re not sure what to think, say, or do? Those are the people who will get my time.
In private communications, I’ll at least block bigots; maybe more.
If they leave a comment on this blog, I might analyze it in a post. If it’s devoid of any worthiness of response, it may simply get deleted. I’ll still analyze and counter bigotry I see in media.
If they interact publicly on social media, I’ll only keep interacting if I think anyone, such as someone else observing, could benefit. Otherwise they’ll be ignored, muted, blocked; maybe reported, depending.
These ways might also be applied when someone in one community rejects solidarity with others. Throwing others under the bus isn’t acceptable. We must seek rights for all.
There is no good reason to deny people their basic rights to their identity, orientation, and the relationships to which they mutually agree, including full marriage equality.
The bigots will continue to shrink in numbers. Those who refuse to let go of bigotry will, more and more, find themselves keeping their prejudices to themselves, and eventually they will die out. More and more people will support rights for all.
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biggots have to go away
ReplyDeleteEven if they didn't,ignore them.That's a better snub.
DeleteA wonderful realistic policy!
ReplyDeleteBigots have harmed and are harming everything they touch, especially in politics (unfortunately, there is now a lot of evidence of this), religion and in relation to Full Marriage Equality.
Yes, they cause moral and physical damage to many, but most of all they damage themselves.
They have too many enemies that they create solely out of their twisted morals. They steal from themselves, they don't know how to truly love and empathize. They destroy their own families ang friendship out of principle, not accepting the right of their nearest and dearest to choose sexual/gender identity and sexual partner(s). They renounce their own children, persecute them and try to fix by force what cannot be fixed. Stupid. Senseless. Cruel. And they deprive themselves of the happiness of communicating with their own "wrong" children and grandchildren.
I agree that we shouldn't waste time on them, because if adults hold diametrically opposed opinions, then agreement between them is possible only by misunderstanding.
So, not my circus, not my monkeys.
But I would make one exception: teenagers and young people who are taught bigotry but who are still able to perceive the opposite opinion.
They have not yet lost their sincerity, they do not want blind faith, but logic and evidence. They like to argue. And here our efforts will not be in vain, because in the realm of rationalism and science there is NOT a SINGLE proof of the "harmfulness", "inhumanity", "impossibility" of the entire spectrum of sexual relations between people, including consanguinamory. And Keith constantly exposes ALL possible objections in a series of "NOT a Good Reason to Deny (Polyamorous) Love" posts.
I agree that bigots are becoming fewer over time, but, alas, their "population" is still far from extinction.