Friday, May 25, 2012

New Relationship Energy in an Established Relationship?

There's a blog called, simply enough Gay Polyamory Blog. As I've said before, even if a polyamorous "V" is comprised entirely of heterosexuals, such as a MFM or FMF triad, and all dating/sex event are monogamous, the two people of the same gender (at the ends of the "V") are metamours, involved with each other by proxy through their shared lover. So all polyamorous relationships involve some form of same-gender relationship (many are more direct than the metamour relationship), and that is one reason why polyamory should be included in discussions about LGBT rights, even though many LGBT relationships are monogamous.

This entry at GPB is The "Honeymoon Phase."

My partner and I recently realized (via poly wonderfulness) there is a great opportunity for a “honeymoon phase” when we date other people and we want some of that with each other. I believe many can attest to elements of that phase being wonderful and something that should never be lost.

In that, we decided to try to look at our relationship as new again. While we love many aspects of our 3.5 year relationship – stability, comfort, etc. we are trying on a new perspective. The first step was to recreate our first date. This looked like not only planning to go on a date in the same location as our first date, but pretending we just met. Beforehand we started texting each other all those things new people text each other – cute little innuendoes, pics, etc. 

Needless to say, it was fun! We asked each other all the typical questions – where are you from, what do you do for work, what do you do for fun, what type of music do you like, etc. We not only learned some new things about each other and how things have changed since we met, but also how much we have in common and how many similar interests we have.
 Something worth trying, no?
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