A Blogger Comes Out

Briana Blair wrote "The Unfortunate Shame of Polyamory, My 'Coming Out' Story."

The shame and fear regarding this subject has been tearing my up inside. However, after a few long talks with my husband, and assurances from him that’s he’ll have my back, we’ve decided that it’s time for me to “come out of the closet” and be honest with myself and the world about who and what I am.

Nobody should have to hide who they are.

Over the last few days I can honestly say that I’ve gained a much greater understanding of what it must be like for homosexuals to come out to the world. I have a much greater respect for them and the courage it takes them to be honest with themselves and the people around them. I may still be mostly straight, but I can see and feel just how hard it all is. People can be so narrow-minded, judgmental and cruel, it takes serious brass balls to put your sexuality out in the open.

Yes, it does. There are so many people out there, some of them with power, who hate other people because of things like this.

It wasn’t until my current relationship, which is with someone who is wonderful, understanding and intelligent, that I was able to talk about and begin to explore this part of my nature.

 Supportive people can make all of the difference.

I know that some people in my inner circle won’t give a flip. If I find another boyfriend I won’t have to hide it from them. Extended family, friends and people I’m connected to in other ways may be less loving and understanding. That’s where the fear comes in. The time has come though for me to face the music and put it out there. 

What if someone you knew came out to you, as LGBT or poly or consanguinamorous?

Best wishes, Briana! You go!