Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Polyamory vs. Polygamy?

Jacob Woods is a gay man who "eats, breathes, and sleeps lgbtqia issues" and is a college student. He was supposedly writing about polyamory and the slippery slope argument, but it turned into a "polyamory vs. polygamy" thing.

For me, polyamory includes any intimate, sexual, or dating relationship in which there are three or more people with the informed consent of all involved. The simplest form of this is one person who is seeing two people, but at different times and those two people don't date each other. Polygamy, in my views, is marital polyamory. I know some equate polygamy with Muslim or Mormon polygyny (the LDS church itself long ago gave that up,) and polyamory with group marriage or anything other than patriarchal religious polygny.

Incestuous relationships cause birth deformities unless of course it is same sex incest.

He's using Discredited Argument #18 to throw consanguinamorous relationships under the bus.

What is the difference identifying as a polyamory who is sexually active and having an "open" relationship?

Open means open to new lovers or dates, under mutual agreement. This can be considered a form of polymory, but not polyfidelity.

What is the difference between identifying as a polyamory who is sexually active and having friends with benefits?

Again, FWB can be a form of polyamory.

What is the difference between identifying as a polyamory who is sexually active and someone who just straight up likes to get laid?

Most people like to "get laid," right? Someone who is sleeping around without relationships isn't practicing polyamory; just nonmonogamy.
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