Thursday, September 27, 2012

Daphne Bramham is Very Upset Some Adults Love More Than One

Daphne Bramham at wrote on “Polygamy and the Toronto School Board’s big mistake.” It was about this poster that showed representations of love, including what many people have interpreted as depictions of polyamorous relationships. It is part of a worthy campaign.
Toronto school board members may not have thought about polygamy when it approved a poster that shows a stick man and two stick women inside a heart.

Really? What other inference can you take from two women and a man all holding hands, even they are stick people?
That sometimes, more than two adults are involved?
Sure, Toronto is a long way from Bountiful where Canada’s most infamous polygamists live.
Those “infamous poygamists” are not the only polyamorists in Canada.
But surely someone had read about the trial in Kingston, Ont. that ended in January with the conviction of polygamist Mohammad Shafia, his second wife, Rona, and their son, Hamed, of first-degree murder and conspiracy to commit murder. The elder Shafia orchestrated the murders of his first wife and his three daughters in Kingston, Ont. and couched it all in terms of ‘honour killing.’
Good thing no professed monogamists have ever killed anyone, right? I’m sure the problem with Mohammad, Rona, and Hamed was polygamy, and that if Mohammad was a professed monogamist there would never have been a problem, right? Yes, because of this case, all adults who love more than one other adult and all adults who love someone who also loves another, and all of their children must be ignored at best and persecuted and prosecuted at worst. That makes sense. Uh huh.
Yet, school board spokesman Ryan Bird has insisted in various media interviews that told the National Post that  the poster — aimed at educating students about gender-based discrimination — was “meant to show that a person can be attracted to more than one gender.”
Well, the poster does say that, doesn’t it? Oh, so it is bisexuals we should be ignoring. Got it.
The program is supposed to affirm and support “all sexual identities, biological sexes, sexual orientations, gender expressions and gender identities.”
Good for them!
But by being so stupid and so blind how the image reads to most people, the Toronto School Board appears to be promoting a practise that leads almost invariably not only to the sexual exploitation of girls, the expulsion of boys, but poor educational and health outcomes.
Hmmm, no, I don’t think so.

It is obvious from her attack that she was "blind" to the image in the lower right corner clearly showing two males with a female. That can't represent either the Muslim or Mormon polygyny.she rails against. So, does she think polyandry is OK?

Daphne Bramham is right to be concerned about domestic violence and child abuse. She is ridiculous and it is sad that she sweepingly condemns consensual polyamorous relationships and is afraid of anything anyone might construe as a positive representation of them.
— — —


  1. OH MY BLOODY GOD. As if in monogamous relationships violence is nonexistent. Violence is wrong, on that much we agree, but assuming that violence comes from the fact that a person can love more than one person... Can people really be so blind?

    And anyway, polygyny is, in no way, denigrating to women, because we're all assuming it's a relationship in between consenting adults. A woman may love a man and a woman, and 20 more if she so wishes. What is denigrating to women is assuming we're not strong enough to say no when we want to say no.

  2. Dear Mr Keith,

    In case anyone hasn't noticed, there also appears to be a stick woman with two stick men in an orange-y heart at the bottom right corner of the poster.

    Also, you have made a grammatical error.

    "It is part of an worthy campaign." should actually be written "It is part of a worthy campaign." I do not mean to be offensive or criticizing, but "an" is only used in front of vowels...and the word "hour".

    That is all...

    May your blog prosper forth and may Full Marriage Equality happen soon.

    John Mattens (Anti-human, Romance Liker, Spongebob fan)

    1. Dear Mr. John,

      Thank you so much for reading. I did point out that part of the image in the text of my post.

      Thank you for catching my typing/editing error. I do know that rule of grammar. I fixed it.


To prevent spam, comments will have to be approved, so your comment may not appear for several hours. Feedback is welcome, including disagreement. I only delete/reject/mark as spam: spam, vulgar or hateful attacks, repeated spouting of bigotry from the same person that does not add to the discussion, and the like. I will not reject comments based on disagreement, but if you don't think consenting adults should be free to love each other, then I do not consent to have you repeatedly spout hate on my blog without adding anything to the discourse.

If you want to write to me privately, then either contact me on Facebook, email me at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com, or tell me in your comment that you do NOT want it published. Otherwise, anything you write here is fair game to be used in a subsequent entry. If you want to be anonymous, that is fine.

IT IS OK TO TALK ABOUT SEX IN YOUR COMMENTS, BUT PLEASE CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY AS I WANT THIS BLOG TO BE AS "SAFE FOR WORK" AS POSSIBLE. If your comment includes graphic descriptions of activity involving minors, it's not going to get published.