It Is Good to Hear From You

One of the great things about this blog, for me, is that I've had so many wonderful people reach out to me over the years. They outnumber the bigots exponentially. They include people in relationships facing discrimination, people who used to be, people considering their options, and their family, friends, and allies.

The curious also reach out, whether they are journalists, other media producers, or "everyday" people with curiosity.

Many people who've reached out have expressed that they had been hesitant to do so, and some of them remain cautious. Some people over the years have dropped contact and then resumed it later, even years later.

There are only a few of us doing things like this blog, so that means that for each of us, there are many of you, the reader, the seeker. That means that if you contact me, keeping up contact will usually be up to you. If we've been in friendly or cordial contact before, but you haven't heard from me in a while, I'm sorry about that. You're welcome to reach out, no matter how long it has been. I always like hearing from you, even if it is just "Hello." If you want to update me, I'd like to read it.

If you haven't reached out yet, please know that I have honored the privacy of thousands of people. If you need someone to communicate with, if you have questions, or if you just want to share something, do reach out.

Whatever your gender, whatever your sexual orientation, whatever your relationships or hopes about relationships you want, I welcome you. Allies are welcome, too.

The best ways to contact me are...

Email: fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com

Wire messaging service: fullmarriageequality

Facebook

Twitter

I am also always eager to hear from additional counselors and therapists able and willing to work with the people for whom this blog exists in an affirmative, positive way.

The same goes for lawyers, attorneys, and other legal advisors who are willing to work with, advise, or represent the people for whom this blog exists.

If you're a graphic artist who wants to help out, please let me know.

Journalists and other media producers: see here.

Academics and researchers: adapt what's in this message to journalists to your situation.

Haters: Please channel your energy into something productive and kind, rather than fighting against love. If this blog upsets you, direct your attention elsewhere.

English is the only language I have mastered. If you don't read and write English, one of us is going to have to use translations and you're far more likely to get quick responses from me if you're the one who does that.

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Intersex Awareness Day - Thursday, October 26

.Intersex Awareness Day is Thursday, October 26.

Intersex people should not be discriminated against or denied their rights, nor forced into narrow gender roles imposed by someone else.

You are welcome here!

Humans are diverse. We have diversity in our bodies, in our identities, in our attractions, and in our relationships.

Kindness and respect go a long way. Let people be who they are. Bullying, harassment, and discrimination spread hate. Spread love instead.  Let's support each other and stand up for the rights of all.

Asexuality Awareness Week

It’s Ace Week!

October 22 through 28 is Asexuality Awareness Week.

It's an international campaign to educate about asexual, aromantic, demisexual and grey-sexual identities and experiences. You are welcome here! Nobody should be discriminated against or be denied their rights for having these identities.

We recognize and support our family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, classmates, and others who are asexual.

Your existence and worth shouldn’t be denied.

Spirit Day 2023 - Thursday, October 19

Thursday, October 19 is Spirit Day. Among varying activities, people wear purple in support of LGBTQ+ youth, against bullying.

Nobody should be bullied, harassed, or discriminated against because of their gender, sexuality, or relationship diversities or those of their family members or friends.

Are you observing Spirit Day? Leave a comment below telling us about it.

Defend people against prejudice, bullying, harassment, and discrimination.

How You Can Help

Coming Out Day 2023

Life can be tough for someone whose identity and orientation doesn’t fit in to a narrow little heterosexual, monogamous, "traditional"-gender-role box or whose relationship doesn’t meet the local sex police’s approved standards. Sometimes, a person or the people in a relationship want to come out of the closet. Sometimes they need to come out. For some of these people, it is a little less difficult if they do so as part of a communal event, such as National Coming Out Day.

National Coming Out Day is Wednesday, October 11. Here’s the official website, at least for the US. There is much helpful information there, regardless of where you live.

The more people that come out, the more the others around them will realize they do know and appreciate people who are LGBTQ+, or polyamorous or otherwise nonmonogamous, or consanguinamorous, and that such people and relationships deserve equality. So coming out helps progress.

On the other hand, it is understandable that any given person, couple, triad, or quad decides to stay in the closet for now. There’s still so much hate, so much prejudice and persecution, and even unjust laws that hinder the life and love of people who are good citizens and just want to be themselves. I support the decision of anyone who believes they need to be reserved for now for the sake of their safety and family.

The decision to come out is yours. Do you want to come out, and to whom? Your friends? Your family? Your coworkers? Your classmates? Your neighbors? Your crush? The whole world?

Also, if someone comes out to you, the decision to be an ally is yours. If your classmate, coworker, neighbor, friend, parent, child, or sibling comes to you and says they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, polysexual, pansexual, transgender, polyamorous, nonmonogamous, consanguinamorous or in a consanguinamorous relationship, what will you do? Will you choose love and acceptance?

Even if you are heterosexual, monogamous, and nonconsanguinamorous, you may want to come out as an ally for full marriage equality. That alone can take courage, but it helps.

If you are planning to come out, or you do come out, please feel free to share your experience here by commenting. You can do so anonymously. You are also welcome to contact Keith if you want someone to talk with. The best ways to do that are to email fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com or message fullmarriageequality on the Wire messaging app.

Lesbians Day 2023

Sunday, October 8 is International Lesbians Day.

Today and every day, it is good to remember that, like anyone else, lesbians should be free to share love, sex, kink, residence, and marriage (and any of those without the others) with any and all consenting partners. 

Lesbians should be free to live their lives, without fear of harassment, bullying, criminalization, or discrimination.

Thank you to all of our lesbian friends and allies!

National Sons Day

In the US, Thursday, September 28 is National Sons Day.

Celebrate sons. All sons, regardless of sexual orientation or relationships. 

Whether they are cis, trans, fluid, or whatever their identity, if they are sons, it is their day.

Are you a son?

Do you have a son? If you have a son, it's time to think about the good things he's brought into your life and what you can do to show your support and appreciation.

Are you celebrating?

Do tell in the comments below.

If you have something to share or ask you don’t want in the comments, you can write to Keith at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com

National Daughters Day

In the US, Monday, September 25 is National Daughters Day.

Celebrate daughters. All daughters, regardless of sexual orientation or relationships. 

Whether they are cis, trans, fluid, or whatever their identity, if they are daughters, today is their day.

Are you a daughter?

Do you have a daughter?

Are you celebrating?

Do tell in the comments below.

If you have something to share or ask you don’t want in the comments, you can write to Keith at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com 

Haters Attack Mom For Celebrating With Athlete Son

What do you see?

I see a loving mother. I see a strong athlete son.

The consanguinamoryphobia being spouted over this video, attacking this woman, is outrageous. Such phobia is often an indication someone has hidden desires they haven’t resolved.

It’s OK for a mother to be beautiful.

It’s OK for a mother to dress well.

It’s OK for a mother to celebrate and be affectionate with her son.

It’s sad that the bigotry expressed over this will likely have a chilling effect on this mother and son and so many others. People shouldn’t have to hide affection. 

Most people in consanguinamorous relationships go through great pains to hide it. You know people who are involved, even if you don’t know who. But let’s assume this mother and son do have that special additional bond and she let her guard down. My question is: So what?

So what?

What if they have freely, mutually consented to be affectionate with each other in a way that includes passionate kisses, stimulating each others genitals, and sharing orgasms? How does that hurt you? How does it hurt anyone?

There are people out there who verbally abuse (or worse) their mother or son in public. In contrast, these two are embracing each other affectionately. He has the strength to carry her (good for him!) Why the outrage?

The critics should be ashamed of themselves.

Get on the right side of history, the side of love.

Have you done or witnessed anything like this? Do you wish you could be affectionate like this without being harassed or bullied? I’d like to hear from you. You can email me at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com or find me on Wire messaging app at fullmarriageequality. 

NOT a Good Reason to Deny (Consanguineous) Love #20

"It is sick! These relationships are dysfunctional!" This is almost always a thinly disguised variation of Discredited Arguments #1, #3, or #19. There are many mentally healthy people in healthy, functional, consanguinamorous relationships.

As this blog and others have repeatedly shown, there is no good reason to keep laws, discrimination, or stigmas against consanguinamory (consanguineous or consensual incest sex or relationships) that is consistently applied to other relationships. One of the grasping-at-straws assertions that one might make when all of their justifications for denying rights fails is "people who do that are sick" or "those relationships are dysfunctional."

Before we do anything else, let's make it clear that we're talking about consensual sex and relationships, not abuse. It's not fair to point to abuse, assault, child molestation, etc. by a close relative as an example of how "incest" is "sick".

Documentary Production on Consanguinamory Seeking the Experienced

 

We’ve been contacted by a production company seeking to do a documentary on consanguinamory.

If you think you might have something to contribute, even if not on-camera, consider reaching out to them. Here’s the information…

 

Love Productions, the makers of hit TV series The Great British Bake Off, The Great British Sewing Bee, The Piano and The Great Pottery Throwdown, are currently preparing a documentary film on the subject of consanguinamory.

 

Our aim is for this film to be a sensitive, respectful and understanding look at an issue many people around both the UK and the world are having to deal with every day of their lives under extremely difficult circumstances: from the point of view both of those campaigning for its decriminalisation, and those endeavouring to live happily in such consensual relationships without prejudice, judgement or persecution.

 

We would really love to hear from people who either in the past or present have been part of a consanguineous relationship, in order to inform our understanding of this subject and what daily life is like for those experiencing it. 

 

Rest assured we will fully safeguard the details, and protect the identities, of everyone who gets in touch with us, and there is absolutely no obligation to be involved with the eventual film: which would in any event be made in a way which keeps its participants’ identities completely secret.  

 

In this first instance, we simply welcome the opportunity to hear from anyone who is happy and comfortable to enlighten us with the true stories of their own loving relationships, alongside the issues and struggles they’ve faced as a consequence of them.

 

If you would like to speak to us, in full confidence, please do get in touch with Adam at either adam.hollingworth@loveproductions.co.uk, or on 07969 901301.

Visibility in media can help progress. So, again, if you think you could possibly contribute in some way, reach out to them and see if you like what they’re doing.

This is How You Contact Keith

There are multiple ways to contact Keith, the person behind this blog.

1) Email is great! It is the best way. Keith's address is fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com. PLEASE NOTE: I am very responsive to emails. If you send me a message and you don't see a response within a day, check your "spam" or "junk" folder. Or contact me one of the other ways listed below.

2) On the Wire messaging app: fullmarriageequality

3) On Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/fullmarriageequality

4) Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/FullMEquality - You can send Direct Messages.

5) There is [UPDATE: WAS] a sister Tumblr to this blog. You can submit an "ask," including anonymously. You can also send a private message if you are signed in to a Tumblr account. If you submit an ask anonymously, you can't get a private response unless you provide an email address or a Facebook or Twitter or Wire or Tumblr account at which you can be reached. Say you want a private response if you don't want it published.

6) Comment here on this blog! You can comment after this entry (below) or any other entry, and you can do so anonymously if you'd like. Again, if you submit a comment anonymously, you can't get a private response unless you provide an email address or a Facebook or Twitter or Wire or Tumblr account at which you can be reached. Say you want a private response if you don't want your comment published. Comments have to be approved to be published, so you can write stuff you want Keith to see but you don't want published.