Third Time is the Charm For a Woman With a Triplicate Bond

There are scores of ongoing relationships I've covered through exclusive interviews in which the lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are, by law, denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law.

The attractive woman in the interview below is obviously capable of thinking for herself. And yet, she's denied her right to marry the person she loves and they could be thrown in prison just for loving each other. They aren't hurting anyone; why should they have to hide their love and be denied their rights?
Read the interview below and ask yourself why this woman should be denied her rights.


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FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe your background.

Anonymous Woman: I grew up in West Virginia. I am 41 years old and college educated. I have been married twice and divorced twice. Both marriages were 14 years. I spent my life knowing that I had been adopted at birth. I knew my biological mother's name and had been told that I had a younger sister. I had also been told that she lived within 30 minutes of me, but I had no need to meet her.

When I turned 39, I started wondering about my younger sister and started trying to find people who knew her. I eventually accomplished that, and through that process found out that not only did I have a sister, but I had a total of five other siblings; two brothers and three sisters. One sister died at four months, another sister was adopted out and we can't locate her. One brother died of drug overdose four months before I found out about him. I met my one sister who was still alive and I was able to locate.

Then I met my other brother who is a year older then me.  As soon as we met, something happened. We felt so close instantly, like crazy, like we had always known each other.

We started spending all of our time together, laughing and talking about family. About three weeks after we met, we both started noticing feelings that we thought we shouldn't have been having considering we were blood relatives. We really started trying to avoid those feelings and even started talking less and less each day. It was not working. We fell in love. It was a love like neither of us had ever felt or had before. We had the strongest bond. We realized we were already best friends, soulmates, and siblings. We always say to each other "three infinity" because of our three bonds with each other.


FME: Are you married?

We are not married yet, but we are planning on getting married. We have thought about starting the fight of trying to get legally married but then we know it would probably fail and we would then be very public and have attention drawn to us.


FME: How would you describe your sexual orientation?

We are both heterosexual.


FME: You currently live with... ?

We live in separate homes.


FME: So you are in a romantic/sexual relationship with your genetic half-brother? What is his age?

Yes we are in a sexual romantic life time love relationship with each other . I am 41 and my brother is 42.


FME: Do you have any children together?

We do not have any children together.


FME: How did sexual affection become a part of your relationship?

We moved very quickly with each other because we knew we were meant to be together. We have three strong bonds that are unbreakable by anything or anyone. My brother is my hero, my protector, my lover,and the guy I look up to. He takes care of me.


FME: Can you describe your feelings during that process?

The feelings I have for my brother are not able to be described, except maybe saying that they are superior to any other feeling I had ever felt before.


FME: Before this had you ever thought this would be possible or enjoyable; did you have any opinion one way or the other about close relatives or family members being together? Had you ever heard about Genetic Attraction or Genetic Sexual Attraction?

Before meeting my brother, I had never thought I would ever be involved with any kind of family member. I had never heard of Genetic Sexual Attraction at all. Once I learned I had these feelings and was in love with a family member, I did start researching other people and how they handled the situation.

FME: How do you describe the lovemaking now? Taboo? Natural? Especially erotic?

We have a very adventurous sex life that is very erotic, and we do look at it sometimes as taboo which makes it that much more intense. We find it exciting that we are related. I will not speak for him, but for me it is the most intense sexual relationship that two people could have. We feel like we are sharing more than blood when we make love.


FME: Describe your relationship now. Is it family-with-benefits, an affair, girlfriend-boyfriend, a marriage, what? Do you see each other as family or lovers, or are those two roles inseparable at this point?

Our relationship is forever. We have been together for almost two years now, and it still feels like we are days into it. We live in separate homes, for now until, we marry. Some days I just need my brother and other days I need my lover or my best friend. No matter what role I am needing him to be, he is. He is all three amazing men all in one man. What could be better for a woman than that?


FME: Are you in a closed relationship with each other or are one or both of you seeing or seeking others?

We are very committed to each other we have never had a need for another person.


FME: Does anyone in your life know the full, true history of your relationship and how did they find out? How have they reacted?

We have dealt with a lot concerning people knowing about us. People accidentally discovered us which brought it out. One of those people had told everyone so we had no choice in people knowing or not knowing. His son no longer speaks to him, and one of my four daughters will not have a relationship with me. Other than that, for the most part, people have accepted us.


FME: What do you want to say to people who disapprove of your relationship, or disapprove of anyone having this kind of relationship? What's your reply to those who would say that this is one of you preying on the other; for example, that he must have forced himself on you or manipulated you?

So many people have asked me what he has over me to get me to be with him as man and woman. They have ask me why and if I have a drug problem; neither of us do drugs. They think I am desperate or having pity on him. I tell them "You can not help who you fall in love with, but you can make the choice of who you are with, and I chose to be with the person who makes me happy and loves me."


FME: Aside from the law, which I think is ridiculous, can you think of anything that would make relationships like this inherently wrong?

No, I think the laws concerning this should be outlawed themselves. Adults are adults they have the right to make whatever decision they want. That is one of the many benefits of being an adult. Other than the laws, I find no reason what so ever that would make being an adult with another adult family or not as wrong.


FME: So if you could get legally married, and that included protections against discrimination, bullying, etc., you would?

We will get married in one way or another, even if it isn't legally recognized.


FME: What advice do you have for someone who may be experiencing these feelings for a relative or family member, especially a half-sibling?

Relax and enjoy because it will probably be your fairytale relationship that you always wanted. Don't allow others to judge you. Don't give up on what you want just because other people say its wrong. Use others negativity to build a stronger relationship.


FME: What advice do you have for family members and friends who think or know that relatives they know are having these feelings for each other?

Mind their own business and treat them no differently then any other couple. Let love be love.


FME: Any plans for the future?

We want to find a way to help make the laws change. We plan to move to one of the states without so many penalties. We have even considered leaving the country to a place where we would be completely legal until the laws in America change.


FME: Anything else to add?

Never allow anyone to change who you are other than you.


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There you have it. Consenting adults loving each other and not hurting anyone. Yet, the couple faces discrimination and denial of their rights simply for loving each other. They are happy and in love, yet they are denied their fundamental right to marry. They could be still be criminally prosecuted in most US states.

Why should they be denied their rights? There’s no good reason.We need to recognize that all adults should be free to be with any and all consenting adults as they mutually consent, and part of doing that is adopting relationship rights for all, including full marriage equality sooner rather than later. People are being hurt because of a denial of their basic human rights to love each other freely.

You can read other interviews I have done here.

If you are in a relationship like this and are looking for help or others you can talk with, read this. 
If you want to be interviewed about your "forbidden" relationship or that of someone you love, connect with me by checking under the "Get Connected" tab there at the top of the page or write me at fullmarriageequality at yahoo dot com.

If you know someone who is in a relationship like this, please read this.

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Thank you to Anonymous Woman. We wish her continued happiness with her triple bond to the man she loves in their GSA relationship, and may your third marriage be the charm!