1. There are people everywhere who have consanguineous sex, and there always have been.
2. There are polyamorous people everywhere, and always have been.
3. There are people everywhere who swing or have group sex, and there always have been.
Sometimes, people are in two or all three of these categories, and those who are might find each other.
We are bringing you another exclusive interview.. As this interview is being published, there are many people still spending more time home with family members. Perhaps some of them will find this interview an inspiration? Or they can see this for some possibilities.
The woman interviewed below should be free to legally marry all her spouses, or simply to be together with her lovers without having to hide, yet they can’t. They are consenting adults who aren’t hurting anyone; why should they have been denied their rights? In much of the world, they could be criminally prosecuted for their love, and might be persecuted severely in addition.
Read the interview below and see for yourself what this woman has to say about the bonds she shares. You may think her relationships are interesting, or it might make you uncomfortable, or you might find it ideal, even highly erotic and romantic, but whatever your reaction, should lovers like these be denied equal access to marriage or any other rights simply because they love each other this way?
Also please note that someone you love, respect, and admire could be in similar relationships right now. Should they be attacked and denied rights because of the "incest" label?
You might want to read this interview first, or wait and read it at the end (I'll link to again below) as they are connected.
**WARNING: Mildly explicit descriptions of adolescent exploration and adult sex.**
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FME: Are you married or have you ever been married?
FME: How would you describe your gender? How would you describe your sexual orientation and your relationship orientation?
FME: You currently live with...?
FME: You are in a sexual/romantic relationship with your full-blood brother, sisters, and parents?
FME: What was your childhood like? What was family life like? Were alternative lifestyles/sex discussed or practiced in your family, and if so, how? Can you describe your sexual awakening?
FME: How did sexual affection become a part of the relationship between family members?
Marie simply told him "We want to have sex with you."
He started to protest, "But you're my sisters."
Marie shut him up with a kiss and sliding her hand down his pants, and from there raging teenage hormones took over. Marie was already on birth control, so no need for her to use a condom, I was not, so safe sex for me, for the next few months at least.
Our parents found out by catching John and Amy having sex. There was no "maybe" that something was going on; they were nude and she was riding him. As it turned out, both of my parents had past sexual relationships with relatives. My mom was with her uncle who was close in age, and my dad was with a cousin. They both viewed it as a very positive experience, and knew that we were able to share in a similar experience.
Our parents made themselves available to us for sex. They wouldn't come to us for it, as they did not want us to feel like they were forcing themselves on us. Again, it had to be our choice. The first time we all made love together was a special day.
FME: Can you describe your feelings during those processes and events? How about “the day after”? How did that go? How were you feeling?
FME: Before this had you ever thought this would be possible or enjoyable; did you have any opinion one way or the other about close relatives or family members being together?
FME: How do you describe the sex now? Taboo? Natural?
FME: Describe your relationship with your family members now.
FME: Do any of you or all of you together ever involve anyone else?
FME: Do you get together in pairs or is it usually a threesome or moresome?
All of the above. Often it is spontaneous, sometimes it is planned in advance. John and Marie married twins - a brother and sister - who are also involved with each other. Obviously they have no problem with our lovemaking and often join in. My fiancé knows and had past experience with his sister, while they are still on good terms, they aren't actively involved anymore after she got married and moved away. Amy's boyfriend knows and is perfectly OK with it, though that may be due to being able to have sex with Marie and me as well!
FME: Do you all literally sleep together, or what are the sleeping arrangements?
FME: How did you find spouses who were supportive of this or wanted to participate? How did you introduce them to the fact that family members were also lovers?
FME: Does anyone else in your life know the full, true nature of your relationships? What kind of steps, if any, have you had to take to keep your privacy?
FME: What do you want to say to people who disapprove of your relationship, or disapprove of anyone having this kind of relationship?
FME: If you could get legally married to a family member or multiple family members, and that included protections against discrimination, harassment, etc., would you?
FME: Tell us about the children born to family members.
FME: What do your children know about this? What if they wanted to be with you or with each other, or an aunt, uncle?
FME: What advice do you have for someone who may be experiencing these feelings for a relative or family member?
FME: What advice do you have for family members and friends who think or know that relatives they know are having these feelings for each other?
FME: Do you consider yourself consanguinamorous in orientation, or could you be fulfilled in a relationship with someone who isn’t a close relative? Also, do you consider yourself polyamorous as an orientation, or could you be happy with monogamy to an unrelated person or monogamy with a sibling or other family member ?
FME: Any plans for the future?
FME: Anything else to add?
If you want to read that related interview with Jennifer, it is here.
Why should they be denied their rights? There’s no good reason.We need to recognize that all adults should be free to be with any and all consenting adults as they mutually consent, and part of doing that is adopting relationship rights for all, including full marriage equality sooner rather than later. People are being hurt because of a denial of their basic human rights to love each other freely.
You can read other interviews I have done here. As you'll see, there are people from all walks of life, around the world, who are in consanguinamorous relationships.
If you are in a relationship like this and are looking for help or others you can talk with, read this.
If you want to be interviewed about your "forbidden" relationship, or that of someone you know, connect with me by checking under the "Get Connected" tab there at the top of the page or emailing me at fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com or see here.
If you know someone who is in a relationship like this, please read this.
Thank you, Neely, for doing this interview about your polyamorous, consanguinamorous life! We wish you well in your relationships!
Let people love who they love
ReplyDeleteExactly.
DeleteIf two or more adults, including those who are closely related consent to an relationship between themselves, it is not hurting anyone who believes in equal relationship (and if marriage becomes an option that as well) rights. Though I am bi and polyamorous, consanguinamory was never an option for me due to religious dogma in my family. However, I welcome people in polyamorous and consanguinamous relationships (regardless of gender and/or sexual orientation) to experience the joy in themselves and their partners to make an better world for the rest of us!!
ReplyDeleteConsensual love is not an crime!!
ReplyDeletePrison cells should never be getting filled, at any time, by ADULT family members who are having CONSENSUAL sex and loving each other deeply . It's disgusting that government "Fat Cats/Big Wigs" still make it illegal. But I can understand the baby making part. It's a gamble because it increases the likely hood of birth defects which is not good, of course. So, I am not on board with the reproducing between close family members especially if it continues generation after generation. That's when they start giving birth to "gremlins" or "reptilians"to put it lightly and comically.But with everything else I agree.
DeleteP.S. I have read many stories on this website and I can't say that if I was in similar, if not exact, type of situation I would be able to resist especially if the attraction/sexual tension is so incredible strong among us/them. Especially with my libido and my love for beautiful women. I'm probably one of the last to judge. Haha
I know a brother and sister that are both grandparents that have been intimate sexually since they were teenagers. The sister and I experienced lesbian sex together and eventually got caught by her brother. All three of us experimented with masturbation and then oral sex. What I didn’t know is when I went home and they went to bed at night they would sneak into each other’s rooms and do that and more. I actually told my grandmother about them and she just said keep it secret. They aren’t hurting anyone and consensual sex between siblings is safer as both learn to pleasure each other. They will both be more confident and know how to please future partners.
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