Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Like Parent, Like Child

We've previously discussed both fantasies and realities of adults being with their parents and we've also talked about steprelations getting together. at brings us "Here's Why So Many People Have Sex Fantasies  About Their Stepmoms"...
If given the chance, most of us would not have sex with our stepmoms.
True, but most can mean slightly over 50%, which can leave almost 50% who would.
That’s not just because many people have a deep and abiding respect for their parents’ relationships, but also because it’s just an icky thought.
It's not an icky thought for everyone. What can happen is that if your stepmother was regularly present in your life from an early age, you might develop the Westermarck Effect when it comes to her.
Have sex with the woman who regularly beds down with your dad (or mom)? No! Gross! Let’s move on! Right? Wrong.
Yes, wrong. How many people have been attracted to a sibling's lover/partner/spouse? How many people attracted to women have wanted a mother and daughter? Or sisters? How many people attracted to men have wanted a father and son? Or brothers? Plenty. And sometimes they are wanted back.

Because, friends, here’s an important thing you need to know: Regardless of our feelings about our stepmothers in general (and they tend to be complex, at least according to that one movie with Julia Roberts and Susan Sarandon), people seem to really love porn that centers on the stepson/stepdaughter/stepmom dynamic.
How much do people love stepmom porn? Enough that it topped the list of PornHub’s most searched keywords, making it the most popular theme users searched for. Everything else? Passe. And even adult performers are getting into it. When I talked to Alix Lynx at the Adult Entertainment Expo she said that a lot of the content she creates is labeled with the “step” prefix because she knows that incest is what consumers crave (much like plants crave the electrolytes found in Gatorade.)
Well, partially true, yes. There is a lot of demand for "incest porn" and consanguinamory erotica, but some services have restrictions that won't allow it, so "mom" becomes "stepmom" and "sister" becomes "stepsister." But there are also a lot of people who find themselves attracted to their real life steprelations, and whether or not they actually get sexual with them, they might enjoy erotica or porn with that theme.

As we have previously, we pause here to remind people that, like most media, porn usually isn't able to depict reality. Real relationships happening every day between step and actual blood relations are usually very different from what you will find in incest porn.
Just like the whole “calling your partner ‘daddy’ in bed” thing the desires for one’s stepmom have nothing to do with actually getting it on with someone who’s almost like family (“She is family, son”).
Except sometimes it does.
Sure, it may be weird to find that your partner has a lovingly crafted playlist of SMILF videos on their ‘puter, but it also doesn’t mean that you have to sit down and have a chat with them about their interests (or call their stepmom to let them know that, hey, no big deal but someone’s hot for a non-blood relation who has made their dad feel things no one ever has before).
It's generally good for partners to discuss their fantasies, turn-ons, and fetishes. And yes, fantasies and turn-ons might work in someone's media of choice even though they have no actual desire for their family member. Some people who like depictions of siblings have none of their own. What someone likes to watch isn't necessarily what they want to do (and some who do have no interest in watching others, real or fictional, though most would like to see non-pornographic visibility increased). But there are people who have that desire to be with a family member, and some of them already have been there.
Watch all the stepmom porn you want, don’t proposition your actual stepmom, and everything will come out right in the end.
Sigh. Unless you're talking about cheating or something along those lines, stop telling adults who they should and should not proposition. Whether anyone likes it or not, some marriages are at least partially open, and some stepmoms get together with their adult stepchildren without anyone cheating. It does happen, and it shouldn't be shocking. Some of you reading this know because either you were involved or were close to someone who was. As always, you can tell us about it (see comment instructions below).
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  1. Something about the author of that article irks me. If you don't like these relationships there's a simple thing you can do, don't do them. Just because this author thinks Consanguinamory is gross and icky doesn't mean it is, and it isn't a good reason to criminalize such relationships.

  2. Mark Shrayber, what do you care? Do you not have a life? Is that all you do is sit around thinking about porn and everybody elses sex life? Maybe if you had a sex life you wouldnt be busy worrying about everyone elses. Go get laid and leave everyone else alone!!

  3. It seems that the authors from uproxx are hateful people because so many articles are anti love, and anti relationship. I choose not to have all that hate in my life.

  4. I will be honest, I cant stand hearing people say how icky it is for someone to have a relationship different from theirs. That makes me sick to hear. If you dont like these types of relationships then stop writting about them. Stop thinking about them. And dont have them. What do you care!!

  5. Keith. I give you loads of credit man. I dont know how you can write about people like mark schrabyr or anyone else and not get angry. You do a great job of keeping calm and collected when writting. How do you do it?? It makes me so angry. I feel my blood boiling. There are so many things that i want to say but i think you would end up blocking me for my language. Maybe you can write a post on how to keep calm when dealing with people that are so misguided. As usual, great article.

    1. Thanks. Part of it is that I get a release by exposing the lack of reasoning and compassion behind the denial of rights and the stigmatizing of love. Comments and emails of thanks and relief also help.

  6. My mom and I are involved in a relationship. My dad had an accident and became bed ridden. My mom was always busy taking care of him and also doing a lot of works to make the ends meet. In this period I tried to help and support her as much as possible. Eventually we became very close and open to each other. Gradually we started building up attraction to each other. We started acting on that and becoming intimate and we realized what we both want. Though at first it was going on behind my dad's back but my and me both felt guilty about deceiving him so we confessed to him. And to our surprise he understood our situation and said he has no problem with it as long as we are both happy. So its been going on for a while. My dad passed away few years back. But my mom and me are helping each other. We live like a couple after moving to a new city. We really like to marry if it could be possible.

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  7. My father is the only man I've ever been with, and he is the most affectionate person that I know. For me as a daughter, I love the romantic bond that I shared with my father. We bring the best out of each other. I know it sounds crazy, but my father is my first and only love. I feel like we were meant to be together.

    1. Anonymous, thanks for sharing that. If you haven't done so already, write me at fullmarriageequality at Protonmail dot com.


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