Jacquelynn is a beautiful young woman. If you want to see her NOT SAFE FOR WORK Tumblr, you can find it here.
Read the interview below and ask yourself if there is one good reason her right to love the adults she does should be denied.
FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe your background.
Jacquelynn: My name is Jacquelynn. I’m a white female American of legal age. I live on the North East side of the U.S. I am the oldest blood sister of 6 (soon to be 7) siblings. None of my siblings are my full siblings. They are all my half-siblings.
FME: Are you married or have you ever been married?
No, I am not married. Nor have I ever been married.
FME: How would you describe your sexual orientation and your relationship?
I am bisexual and in a genetically incestuous relationship.
FME: You currently live with…?
Roommates would be the best way to describe them.
FME: You are in a sexual relationship with your genetic half-brother?
Yes, I am. I love him so much.
FME: What kind of relationship did you and your brother have, if any, while growing up?
While growing up we had no relationship whatsoever. I didn’t end up reuniting with my little brother until I was 18. It was so much fun. I really enjoyed seeing him for the first time in so many years. But, what I wasn’t expecting was the strong attraction to him that I felt. It may seem cliché but, it was actually “love at first sight”.
FME: Do you know the term "Genetic Sexual Attraction," and if so, when did you find out about that? Do you think that is what you were feeling with your brother?
Yes, I know what “Genetic Sexual Attraction” is. I Googled it a few years ago. I do feel genetic sexual attraction to my brother, but it’s more than just the sexual attraction. I’m romantically involved with him as well. I’m in love with him.
FME: How did sexual affection become a part of your relationship?
The way that it happened initially was sudden. Allow me to explain… I've been having dreams of making love with my brother for years and it had finally gotten the better of me. Then came the hard part... I had to talk to my brother about it. When I confided in my brother I made sure to stress to him that it was only a dream and if he said no I would not be mad. It took him like a week to think about it. I agreed and waited patiently. He was shocked to say the least. But, after he got done thinking about it I can safely say that I was more shocked than him when he told me that he would like to (physically) be a part of my fantasy. I invited him over one night and when everyone was asleep we made love. For him it was his first time, with me being a few years older than him. I made sure to take it slow and I told him that if he was uncomfortable with anything that we were doing to let me know. After our first time together as lovers we were hooked. I created my blog and shortly after he created his as well. On our blogs we go by false names so that no one will know who we are. It was a very happy and floating kind of buzz. Such an amazing feeling.
FME: How do you describe the sex/lovemaking now? Taboo? Natural? Especially erotic? Is it family-with-benefits, an affair, girlfriend-boyfriend, a marriage, what?
I would describe it as a few things… Family-with-benefits, lovers, best friends and girlfriend-boyfriend.
FME: You also had prior experience with your maternal uncle. How did things go with him, and why did they stop? Did anyone find out about it? How did they react?
I had approached my uncle with questions about sex and the male physical body because I was too scared to approach my parents. Little did I know that my answers would become somewhat erotic. Back then I had no idea what incest was and when I fooled around with my uncle I had no idea that it was considered 'forbidden' or 'taboo'. All I knew was that I loved my uncle and I enjoyed our private time together. I think that's where all of my incestuous urges and desires came from. My uncle and I had lost touch over the years because he lives in a different state and I had no way to contact him.
My family found out about it. In the time where we lost touch I felt hurt, used and betrayed because he left without any explanation. So, I mistakenly confided in one of my siblings. I had no idea that the sibling was going to go home and blab. I was entrusting my sibling with my deepest secret because I needed someone to talk to about it. When I got home all hell broke loose with my mother, who had no idea until then. She thought that I was lying. I was in tears because I was telling the truth and felt like she wasn't gonna believe me. My mother threatened to call my uncle and get the truth from him because she was positive that I was lying. I was so scared that he was gonna lie to save his own ass.
To my relief he confessed to everything. My mother came back to me afterwards and hugged me and apologized for calling me a liar. She informed my grandpa about it all and between the two of them they made sure to keep us apart.
FME: Some people say consanguineous eroticism is inherently kinky, but I have found that for many it doesn't feel kinky. What about for you? Some say it is the best sex they've ever had.
It is the best sex that I’ve ever had. But, I must agree that it doesn’t feel kinky.
FME: Describe your relationship with your brother now. Are you siblings or lovers or are those two roles inseparable?
We are still family (as our cover story) but, behind the scenes we are lovers and in a boyfriend/girlfriend type of relationship. We do not live together. Our roles are definitely inseparable. There is definitely a huge difference between my relationship with my uncle and the one that I currently have with my brother. With my uncle we were just teasing each other because he was too scared to get caught or to get me pregnant. With Asreal we are still careful so that we don’t get caught but, at the same time it’s more than just teasing. We make love.
FME: Does anyone in your life know the full, true nature/history of your relationship with your brother and how did they find out?
Only a few people that I have told know my full true story. The only family that knows is my uncle… I think you can understand my reasoning’s behind that. They have reacted just fine. Like it’s a normal occurrence. Sadly, we are not able to act like a couple in public. Everyone that we know knows us as siblings so it would be awkward if we were to run into some of our friends or family… We are siblings to everyone that knows us.
FME: What kind of steps, if any, have you had to take to keep your privacy? Having to hide the full nature of your relationship from some people can be a disadvantage. Can you describe how that has been?
We have had to take every cautionary step possible. It’s been relatively easy hiding our true nature, but I hate having to hide it. I wish that everyone would accept us as a couple and be perfectly fine with it. It should be a normal thing. We are consenting adults after all!
FME: What do you want to say to people who disapprove of your relationship, or disapprove of anyone having this kind of relationship? What's your reply to those who would say that this is one of you preying on the other (and that you can’t truly consent)?
I would tell them to get a life that way they could leave mine alone.
FME: Aside from the law, which I think is ridiculous, can you think of anything that would make relationships like this inherently wrong?
It would only be wrong in my eyes if the relationship was not between consenting adults.
FME: If you could get legally married, and that included protections against discrimination, harassment, etc., would you? Or is this a different kind of relationship than that?
Yes, I would LOVE to marry my brother.
FME: What advice do you have for someone who may be experiencing feelings for a sibling or some other relative?
I would say this: Come talk to me. My blog is always open and the advice that I would give is always true, free and personal. I normally talk to the person one-on-one and then after hearing their story and emotions I would give my advice. Also, if they would like for me to keep their advice private LET ME KNOW. Otherwise I post my advice with their original question (not the personal story) for others to read that may be having the same thoughts and situations.
FME: What advice do you have for family members and friends who think or know that relatives they know are having these feelings for each other?
Sames as I just said. Come talk to me.
FME: Do you know in-person others who have had relationships like yours?
No, I do not. But, I would love to meet some.
FME: What do you have to say to anyone who says you're not for real?
You need to get out more! Relationships like this DO happen.
FME: Anything else you want to add?
If anyone needs advice you may follow me and Asreal on Tumblr.
Here are their NOT SAFE FOR WORK Tumblr blogs:
There you have it. Consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone, but who have to hide their love, denied their right to marry.
Why should they be denied their rights? There’s no good reason.We need to recognize that all adults should be free to be with any and all consenting adults as they mutually consent, and part of doing that is adopting relationship rights for all, including full marriage equality sooner rather than later. People are being hurt because of a denial of their basic human rights to love each other freely.
You can read other interviews I have done here.
If you are in a relationship like this and are looking for help or others you can talk with, read this.
If you are a family member or friend of someone who is in or may be in such a relationship, please read this.
Thank you to Jacquelynn for doing this interview!