Saturday, December 19, 2015

Have a Look Around

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Over there in the column on the right you can find ways to connect and to follow this blog.

There at the top of the page are tabs with drop-downs of some important pages, entries, and links.

There's a Welcome message and there's an About This Blog page, and you can read about the triad that originally inspired this blog.

There's a Glossary so that you can become familiar with terms frequently used here.

I explain why we need solidarity in supporting full marriage equality and I debunk all the arguments that you'll ever hear made against equality.

On the Case Studies page I feature interviews with people who have been denied their rights, so you can "meet" people who are, or have been, in consensual loving relationships who have are harmed by the lack of equality under the law.

Are you here because of polyamory or polygamy? Perhaps you're here because this blog covers Genetic Sexual Attraction or consanguinamory (consensual incest)? Do you need help?

Whether you're a family member or friend who is looking for more information, or a journalist, or are someone who is looking to help the cause, I hope you are helped by what is here.

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  1. Only an INSANE man would get married in America today, considering how biased the divorce courts are against men and how useless 99 percent of American women really are.

    71 percent of men between the ages of 18 to 34 in America have no interest in marriage:

    And the following essay really explains very lucidly exactly why so many men are avoiding marriage:

    Why Modern, Western Marriage Has Become A Bad Business Decision For Men

    1. Anonymous, thank you for your contribution. I am aware that there are American men that subscribe to a marriage strike, but many of those 71 percent you cite will get married at some point in their lives. The overwhelming majority of adults will. Regardless, I fully support the right to NOT marry, the right to divorce, and the right to NOT have a marriage-like status imposed against an individual or couple's desires (as happens in some "common law" situations.)

      However, I do believe that whatever is offered by a government, whether marriage, civil unions, domestic partnerships, etc., should not be withheld from people based on their sexual or relationship orientation. LGBT people, polyamorous people, and consanguineous lovers should not be denied such designations, if that is what they want.

  2. Hello! After reading though your blog for several hours tonight, I wanted to take the time to tell you that I thank you for writing it. I have a story to tell if you don't mind.

    My parents are extremely religious and are against any type of love that isn't traditional by their standards and they enjoy sharing their thoughts about it all the time. A few family members believe same sex marriage rights and their 'discussions' I'm sure are quiet interesting. This got me thinking about my thoughts and views on the matter, so I did a little research.

    Apparently it is more acceptable to have a traditional heterosexual genetically unrelated marriage that is full of abuse and fear and pain than it is to have a loving and fulfilling same sex, genetically related, multiple partner relationship/marriage. I can tell you that as a child that has lived through the first example, I would have MUCH preferred being raised in the second if given a choice. I have come to the conclusion that as long as everyone in a relationship are consenting adults who love and care for each other deeply, why should anyone be against that?

    While I personally am in a loving traditional heterosexual marriage, it was a choice that I was allowed to make. It saddens me that there are so many other loving relationships out there that aren't allowed to HAVE a choice. So I thank you for giving me all this new information to read and understand. It has taught me many things and helps me to explain why I feel the way I do to others who look at me if I were crazy. I even have somewhere to send them for information!

    1. Draven, thank you so much for your comment. Thanks for reading and I'm glad this blog has been a help.

  3. I cannot find the research paper, but it gave (I think) a 6-9 percent increased risk of major genetic defects for first degree relatives.

    I understand the problem with claiming incest is wrong because of a higher risk of genetic problems. However, what if you knew sex with another person would lead to a still birth with near certainty? Incest or not, what would your response be? Go ahead and try for a child knowing it will almost certainly lead to harm?

    Alternatively, incest could lead to better outcomes on occasion. There is an upside too.

    1. An easy way to think about it is if you have a generally healthy pair of siblings from a generally healthy family and they are, say, in their late 20s, they have well over 90% chance of having a basically healthy baby.

  4. Actually, wouldn't it be interesting to know why more stillbirths occur with incest?

    Another alternative is to just say life, no matter what the risk or burden, is always good. I can't say I can believe in that though as it requires not understanding the actual causes of these stillbirths.

  5. Mr. Pullman, Thank you for this blog. Even if you are not successful while I am young enough to have more children, I am certain your efforts will be successful in the long run.

    I think it would be helpful to point out that restricting relationships is a violation of the spirit of the 1st and 9th Amendments to the US Constitution. I wish you would have a legal section of your blog and think about doing something like the NRA's Institute for Legislative Affairs (NRA ILA). Surely there are some lawyers who support your cause that could take on this issue is a systematic way. Pull something like this together (filing briefs and drafting legislation), and I'll contribute financially.

  6. Thank you for this blog. I have a polyamorous, consanguinamory relationship. Even before it evolved into what it is today thoughts of this nature have plagued me with guilt and shame all my life. I always thought I was alone, a freak, a deviant. More should be as open and accepting of all types of love. Though I will not likely come out to anyone else perhaps with a healthier attitude some healing and self acceptance can begin.

    1. Anonymous, you are welcome and congrats on your love. I'd like to communicate with you privately through email at fullmarriageequality at yahoo dot com


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