There are diverse reasons as to why someone is polyamorous. This is apparent from the basic fact that there are many ways to be polyamorous, and that some people recognize they are polyamorous as part of who they are; it's not based on what they do, whereas others consider it something they do, not necessarily part of their identity.When someone asks me why I am polyamorous, I could talk about it for hours. But I'm going to keep it short here.
I have a polyamorous orientation. (No, not all men are polyamorous.)
I realized I can care for more than one lover at a time. Whether it’s flirting, going out on dates, long intimate conversations, physical affection, celebrating special occasions, being there when someone is suffering and needing company or help, or otherwise spending time together, limiting all of that to one person feels extremely confining to me.
In addition, I don’t need someone I'm seeing or with to only get those things from me. In fact, I am fortunate enough to experience compersion, so I tend to like it when someone I'm seeing or with also has good experiences and bonds with someone else.
In addition, I don’t need someone I'm seeing or with to only get those things from me. In fact, I am fortunate enough to experience compersion, so I tend to like it when someone I'm seeing or with also has good experiences and bonds with someone else.
That’s the most basic way I can explain it.
I support your right to have the relationships to which you and your lovers mutually agree, and I hope you support mine.
I support your right to have the relationships to which you and your lovers mutually agree, and I hope you support mine.
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I used to frequently join my friend and his wife for mmf. I was the only person my friend would allow to join them, with the focus being on his wife. So I guess they almost had an open marriage but not quite.
ReplyDeletePolyamory is expressed in many forms - open marriage/relationships, polygamy, etc. And, unfortunately, in the infidelity towards committed partners who have given each other formal or informal obligations to be exclusive. I also believe that close "friendship" (soulmates, "twin flames", former exes, etc.) of representatives of the opposite genders is also a form of polyamory, because it ALWAYS occurs against the background of sexual attraction - at least from one of the "friends". This is often not realized by them, but eventually leads to open sexual acts. I would call this "friendship" between people including those in a committed relationships with other partners, which is not expressed (yet!) in physical or open emotional sexual acts, the "romantic stage of polyamory".
ReplyDeleteAnd I want to emphasize in this regard that polyamory should be ethical, which means that it should not lead to moral and/or physical harm to third parties. Polyamory, as a state of mind/soul and sexually romantic activities, in no way serves as an excuse for infidelity, betrayal and deception. Anyone wishing to practice polyamory/polygamy should do so only with the consent of a committed partner (if any) and if they do not get one, they must break off the committed relationship.