I never really considered the concept of being in relationship with different people simultaneously as having a name, or any sort of connotation at all. It was just a thing that happened, a friendship that shifted, with the added benefit of a sexual relationship.
That happens a lot.
There is never one template to define relationships, regardless of how many parties are involved.
That is important to remember.
Different people have different definitions of what polyamory is; James sees it as a matter of primary and additional relationships.
Ask two polyamorists, you might get three definitions.
Anna found it helpful to view her sexual relationships as extensions of friendships. “A healthy relationship is a solid friendship foundation,” she says. “You don’t have only one friend at a time, so in the same way, if you meet someone else who is cool your friend hopefully doesn’t get territorial and make you decide.”That's a good way to look at it.
And above all, it was the communication, consent, and the continuous checking-in with one another that has kept that particular relationship strong, not the number of people involved.
At this point in my life I have found myself in a series of polyamorous relationships. The people I choose to spend time with each fulfill different facets of my life that make me happy.
Glad to see another positive piece on polyamory.