Anonymous:
I’m a 25 year old woman living in Tampa, Florida. I work as a hotel
manager of sorts. I’m not there yet, but my boss sure does like to give
me all the work related with the job title. I’m Hispanic and Jewish,
which is not what most people expect, and my favorite hobbies are
dancing, laying on my hammock, and yes it counts as a hobby, and
watching soccer games just to hear the announcer say "Gooooal!" I like
reading Russian literature, planting trees, Ikebana and collecting
currencies of countries that no longer exist.
FME: What's your gender, sexual orientation, and relationship orientation?
I'm
female, and my sexual orientation is largely straight. I say largely
because I have kissed a few girls here and there, but overall I’m
straight. And so far I’ve been monogamist.
FME: Who do you live with?
I currently live with my parents and my younger biological brother. The bother we are talking about is my full-blooded brother.
FME:
What was your childhood like? Was sexual diversity a topic discussed in
your home? Can you describe your sexual awakening? How did you discover
your orientation?
My
childhood was rather typical of someone growing up under a very
politically progressive household. Very few topics were taboo at the
table. Our parents would always have "radical" professors over and lots
of what would be deemed as "controversial" topics for kids to hear were
spoken in plain sight. Of course our parents being very liberal,
alternative sex was widely discussed in the home. Our parents were and
still are quite committed to LGBTQ and other minority rights.
As
for my sexual awakening, it happened like it did for most people,
around puberty. The first time I had sex I was 14 and the guy was 15. My
parents found out, but rather than freak out they gave us condoms. No
joke.
How
did I realize my sexual orientation? I don’t know, when you are
attracted to the opposite sex you just feel it I guess. It’s the same
for everyone, gay or straight, you just know.
I
first accepted consanguinamory as a right not unlike any other LGBTQ
right around the same time I became sexually active. I felt that if I
could enjoy the beauty of consensual intimacy with someone from my
school without any repercussions, then why not siblings who felt the
same urge?
FME: Have you had experiences or feelings for other family members?
I’ve
not had any such feelings for other family members. My younger brother
obviously has such feelings for me, and I’m quite happy that he does. I
don’t feel it’s a negative thing that he feels this way. In fact I find
it quite healthy. He’s younger and hasn’t had much if any sexual
experience, and his desire to gain such experience with his big sister
is not only brave, as most would never come out of that closet, but
unbelievably sweet.
FME: Does anyone else know what is going on?
I
don’t think anyone in the family knows of his true feelings for me. Yes
our parents have seen us as being quite close, even physically, like me
sitting on his lap or us just spooning together on the couch, but I
doubt they’ve thought much past it. Sometimes they can be too absorbed
in their own hobbies to notice us smooching or holding hands. Those are
kisses without tongue.
FME: Have you been aware of anyone you know who has been involved in consanguinamory?
I
met one girl in college who was in such a relationship with her dad.
She initially panicked when she realized that I knew. But I reassured
her that I had no intention whatsoever to out her, and that she could
count on me to be her friend and confidant if she wanted.
My
other contact with people in consanguine relationships was when I
traveled to Tel Aviv last year. Tel Aviv, by the way, is known as an
LGBTQ Mecca. There, I spoke with perhaps half a dozen or so Israeli
youth who told me that romantic sibling relationships were practically
as common as any other relationship, especially in the very liberal and
gay districts of Tel Aviv.
FME: What are your plans?
I
will let my brother have the time of his life with me. It would be
wrong of me to deny him a deeper aspect of our sibling love, especially
since he’s confessed his feelings and I have been supportive, at least
vocally.
FME: What do you expect that will be like?
Well,
physically, I have a pretty good idea. Emotionally? I won’t know until
I’ve tried it. I imagine our sibling bond, which is already very strong,
will be further strengthened when we consummate our love. I want to
envision an experience for him that will last him the rest of his life.
That will guide his approach to love and lovemaking.
, for siblings to have sex. Why?
I wish her and her brother lots of luck. I hope they are very happy together. I also would love to chat with her if she is willing. I am in a relationship with my brother, our story is here on this blog. She is right about their sibling bond being much stronger once they start to make love.
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MalcolmD says: Even though it required some flexibility, I think that this is a worthwhile "first" for your blog, Keith. It's valuable to see the issue from a number of different perspectives, and I have yet to hear from someone in the same position that Anonymous describes in this interview. I hope that her experience with her brother continues to be rewarding for both of them and that they continue to support and enrich each other's lives.
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