TW/CW!!!
How many times does it need to be said?
Consensual incest (consanguinamory) and abuse are two very different things.
It is terrible that anybody was abused by a close relative. But abuse by a close relative doesn't make CONSENSUAL affection between close relatives wrong any more than rape by a stranger makes sex with a blind date wrong.
From the article at Cosmopolitan.com...
There’s nothing morally okay about inter-family sex, no matter how hot the actors and how palpable the chemistry.
On the contrary, there is nothing wrong with it. Consenting adults should be free to chose their lovers.
And yet, week after week since August 21, fans have rooted—nay, thirsted—for Daemon and Rhaenyra Targaryen on House of the Dragon, and I, dear reader, am one of them.
Yes, it is one of those situations. "I'm turned on by the idea but I think real people who actually love each other should be denied their rights and stigmatized!"
When they finally had sex (as consenting adults), fans ate it up.
Good. But don't turn around the throw real people under the bus.
So even though IRL, incest is wrong (“Children resulting from an incestual relationship can sometimes suffer from congenital anomalies when blending familial genetics,” says Dr. Gary Brown, a prominent couples therapist in Los Angeles. “This is one of the primary reasons that incest is a taboo to begin with.”
This, apart from the fact that when it does happen, it is often a result of sexual abuse.)
That is literally the same sort of crap bigots say about people being gay. Most people who were abused in the past still CHOOSE their CONSENSUAL lovers later.
Kinky fantasies are also at play here. It’s okay to be turned on by something (be it in porn, on your favorite Netflix show, or in your own private mental playground) that you’d never actually do IRL. That’s why they’re called fantasies. Everyone has them, and shows like House of the Dragon give people an outlet for safe exploration.
Many people want to engage in consanguineous sex.
None of that is wrong in and of itself.
There are people everywhere who are in ongoing, loving, romantic relationships with one more more close relatives. You might even know and admire some without knowing of their relation. Stop separating people out to be the targets of prejudice and other forms of hate. Let's defend the rights of ALL to their sexuality and relationships.
Its a shame cosmopolitan deleted the tweet because many people think incest or consanguinamory is hot. It is one of the reasons house of dragon and game of thrones is so popular. The fantasy of sex with a family member is hot but in reality its even hotter!
ReplyDeleteIncest is hot. And l think there are people who are scared to see and hear that truth. Those shows and that tweet are just more evidence of how interesting and sexy it is and can be. Not everyone is going to be into it, just like other interests, but it's wrong to fully condemn it. Those who want to be an intimate relationship with a relative should be allowed to do so. We also need to admit that incest fantasies are hot and that there's nothing wrong with seeing it that way.
ReplyDeleteTotally agree!
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