Wish I'd Found This Blog Sooner

The blog A Nadder refuted arguments against consanguineous sex and consanguinamory (consensual incest) two and a half years ago, and has returned with an update. I wish I had found the earlier write-up before. First, the earlier refutations of objections, which I’m sure will look familiar…

1. It’s unnatural — the same old line’s been used to prove the immorality of homosexuality, interracial marriage, contraception etc. Sorry. The answer’s always “so what?” (being unnatural doesn’t make something bad) and “no it isn’t” (eg. 10–15% of college students reported some childhood sexual contact with a brother/sister).

Yup. Discredited Argument #5.

2. It’s universally condemned — this was also used against interracial marriage etc. Again: so what? And again: no it isn’t. It’s universal to have some kind of incest taboo, but the limits vary a lot. In many cultures it’s common for first cousins to marry (with up to 50% of marriages being between first cousins).

See #2, 3, and 4.

3. It causes birth defects - finally a somewhat true statement (although apparently the best strategy is to actually marry your 3rd cousin). But if that’s reason to outlaw incest we need to outlaw drinking/smoking during pregnancy (which we don’t and it would be a big deal to do this). We’d also need to prevent 2 carriers of a genetic diseas from procreating. Finally despite what you hear on the news, we’re not living in the 12th century. Sex ? babies. 2 sisters having sex, or a heterosexual incestuous couple using contraception will demolish the argument.

See #18.

4. People who were brought up together shouldn’t be together — umm, because…? I’ve heard this one before. It’s priceless, the ultimate non-sequitir. This suggests that two childhood friends should avoid romantic relationships. This of course happens very often. I’m not aware of studies suggesting such couples are psychologically/emotionally worse off than the average couple. This argument is grasping at straws.

See #19, 21.

5. It makes me personally uncomfortable - at last, the truth! Yes, it certainly does.

See #1

So, there’s no reason not to legalise it.

Nope, there isn’t. It should be legal. The more people think through this, they more they will see that.

Here’s the recent follow-up.

My 2.5 year old post on consensual incest continues to be the most popular post I’ve ever done.

That’s because there is a lot more of it going on, and going on in the fantasies of some, than we publicly admit.

He looks at the statements of those who clung to their prejudice.

Kohl wants the consanguinamorous to stay in the closet and adhere to a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” guideline. Should they sit in the back of the bus, too?