Celebrating International Consanguinamory Day

April 28 is a day to celebrate and to affirm consanguinamory. 

People who are consanguinamorous or in consanguinamorous relationships shouldn't have to hide.

Consanguinamory has always been part of the human experience, wherever people have been, regardless of location, class, or demographics. 

Consanguinamory isn't shameful. It is quite often a beautiful thing. 

Consenting adults should be free to love each other how they mutually agree, and shouldn't have to hide their love. They should be free to share their love and be true to themselves, without being prosecuted, persecuted, or discriminated against. 

To all consanguinamorous people:

Most of you have to keep your celebrations private, but we know you're out there, and you are valid and deserve your rights. Today is your day. Progress is being made. Let's make more!

International Consanguinamory Day

April 28, 2021 is the fourth Annual International Consanguinamory Day.

It is a day to celebrate and raise awareness about consanguinamory, consauinamorous relationships, and consanguinamorous people. It is important for people to know:

• They know people who are consanguinamorous, perhaps people they love and admire.
• Consanguinamorists exist in every demographic, race, class, and population and always have.
• Consanguinamory is in your genealogy.
• Consanguinamorists face prejudice, harassment, discrimination, even criminalization and murder simply for being who they are and loving other consenting adults.
• We are going to ensure that people of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship orientations, including consanguinamorous people, have their rights sooner rather than later.

The double-bond or double-love of consanguinamory is worth celebrating.

Consanguinamorous people and allies are welcome to join Kindred Spirits for support and opportunities to help others. If you’re consanguinamorous, you’re not alone!

This year, we especially welcome those who have newly enjoyed consanguinamory or have discovered or confirmed their consanguinamorous orientation due to the COVID-19 "stay home" precautions.

Lesbian Visibility Day

A Happy Lesbian Visibility Day to all of our lesbian family and friends. April 26 is a day to recognize and appreciate the lesbians of the world, who’ve contributed so much and endured so much.

Three Common Misconceptions About Consanguinamory

There are three very common misconceptions about consanguinamory or consanguineous relationships, also known as consensual adult incest. These misconceptions are often invoked when someone asks why such relationships are criminalized or why laws against such relationships haven't been repealed, or when someone asks why the consanguineous freedom to marry is still denied. Clearing up these misconceptions will assist us in reaching relationship rights for all and full marriage equality sooner rather than later.


1) "The kids will be mutants!" We've cleared this up many, many times. Although most consanguineous sex does not result in children, although most sex anyone has is not to reproduce (and often the chance of reproduction is ZERO), this is the old stand-by when people want to justify their position against letting consenting adults love each other how they mutually agree. It's a very weak argument. The fact is, even when consanguinamorous relationships do create a child, it is very likely the child will be healthy. People with consanguineous parents are literally everywhere. Chances are, one of your neighbors or co-workers is such a person, maybe even someone you admire or find attractive.

National Day of Silence in the US

 GLSEN's National Day of Silence is Friday, April 23.

Traditionally, it's a day of silence, especially in schools, to bring awareness to the prejudice, inequality, and bullying suffered by LGBTQ people. This year, some schools are still closed, but there are still ways to participate.

Along with all allies, I also think polyam people and consanguinamorous people should participate.

Everyone should have the freedom to be themselves without being bullied. Every adult should have the right to share love, sex, residence, and marriage (or any of those without the others) with ANY and ALL consenting adults, without prosecution, bullying, or discrimination. Young people should be free to develop relationships, as appropriate for their age, with their peers without being forced into a narrow heteromonogamous paradigm. Transgender, genderfluid, intersex, nonbinary, gender nonconforming, and other students and faculty need to see that they are supported.

LGBTQ, poly, and consanguinamorous students and faculty still have to deal with hateful policies and attacks, but with your help, that will continue to change.

Guilt By False Association

This post carries a ***TRIGGER WARNING*** because we will be discussing abuse and quoting/paraphrasing hateful, bigoted, discriminatory, sexist, racist, homophobic statements to expose the tactic of "guilt" by false association long used by anti-equality holdouts.

We Get Hate Mail and Misrepresentation

The New York Post ran an article about a couple who wants their right to marry. Then they did a follow up in which they accurately quoted me. They tweeted a link to that article, and that tweet drew many bigoted responses, but nothing even approaching a good argument as to why this couple, or any consenting adults, should be denied their rights. 

Some people decided to email or comment here on this blow with their hate. Here, for example, is one submitted comment...

This destroys relationships with ALL FAMILY MEMBERS and the people practicing it period.

The experiences of millions of people say otherwise. But let’s see if this anonymous hater will explain how.

Still No Good Reason To Deny the Freedom To Marry to the Consanguinamorous

The New York Post ran a short follow up to their recent article about a consanguineous couple, an adult and their parent, who want to exercise their right to marry. You can see in the replies & quote tweets to their tweet linking to the article just how much hateful bigotry there is, but no actual arguments against people having their rights. The disgust of some people should never be a reason to deny the rights of others.

Full marriage equality is the right side of history. Leave your prejudices behind.

New York and Every State Needs Full Marriage Equality

I'm seeing a lot of attention for this article from nypost.com, written by Kathianne Boniello...

A New Yorker who wants to marry their own adult offspring is suing to overturn laws barring the incestuous practice, calling it a matter of “individual autonomy.”

Good. Either we have a right to marry, or we don't. Most people support the right to marry. We certainly do!

Full marriage equality is needed NOW!

National Siblings Day

It’s National Siblings Day, at least here in the US. 

In keeping with the interests of this blog, we want to celebrate all people who love their siblings, especially if that includes supporting your sibling as they face discrimination for their gender identity,  their sexual or relationship orientations, or their relationships or sexuality.

We also want to celebrate all siblings in consanguinamorous relationships. For many of them, there is no more important person in the world than their sibling(s).

So if you have a good sibling, let them know you appreciate them.

Here's one of many interviews I've done with consanguinamorous siblings. There are more here.

If you have siblings or children or a parent or some other close relative or friends in such a sibling relationship, this is for you.

Sometimes middle-aged siblings experience a change in their relationship dynamic. Unfortunately, siblings are still denied their freedom to marry in most of the world.

Finally, there is some really wonderful, painfully realistic fiction about a sibling relationship.

Comment below or email fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com if you have something you want to share about your sibling(s).

One Family in Serbia

We have another interview to bring you.

As this interview is being published, there are many people still spending more time home with family members. Perhaps some of them will find this interview an inspiration? Or they can see this for some possibilities.

People in consanguinamorous relationships are everywhere, though consanguinamorists tend to be closeted. Fortunately, some are willing to be interviewed for this blog. As a result, Full Marriage Equality has featured scores of exclusive interviews with lovers denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage treated equally under the law. Most can’t even be out if the closet or they’ll gave prosecution under absurd incest laws, which, instead of focusing on abuse, also target consensual relationships.

The man interviewed below should be free to legally marry his lover, or simply to be together as a couple without having to hide. They are consenting adults who aren’t hurting anyone; why should they be denied their rights? In much of the world, they could be criminally prosecuted for their love, and might be persecuted severely in addition.

Read the interview below and see for yourself what this man has to say. You may think this relationship is interesting, or it might make you uncomfortable, or you might find it ideal, even highly romantic, but whatever your reaction, should lovers like these be denied equal access to marriage or any other rights simply because they love each other this way?

Also please note that someone you love, respect, and admire could be in a similar relationship right now. Should they be attacked and denied rights because of the "incest" label?

*****

FULL MARRIAGE EQUALTY: Describe yourself.

Anonymous Man: I am a 19 year-old student from Serbia. I am an average looking  guy, I wear glasses, I am kinda shy, a gamer type person. My ethnicity is Serbian, I already have primary school, secondary school, and now I am learning in a university. I am studying s media course. I have a 21 year-old sister who is learning in the same university as me. But not on the same course.

My mother and her first son are a couple but they aren't married because of the law. But they wear rings. They are our parents. Our mother is 62 and our father is 42.

FME: How do you describe your gender and sexual orientation?

Warning About Imposters

This is a very important message.

It has come to my attention that someone claiming to be a co-founder of this blog is contacting people online.

Accept No Imposters.

Keith Pullman founded this blog. There are no co-founders. My friends who initially inspired this blog DO NOT reach out to anyone online while referencing this blog. (I do publish submissions sometimes and note them as submissions.)

Here, in email, and on social media, I go by Keith Pullman, FullMarriageEquality, FME, or some combination thereof.

My email addresses are:

fullmarriageequality at protonmail dot com
fullmarriageequality at yahoo dot com

Please note exactly how they are spelled. You can reach me at those addresses (ProtonMail is best) if you have any questions.

These are also my accounts through which I reach out to people:

Tumblr (SFW) - https://fullmarriageequality.tumblr.com/

Tumblr NOT SAFE FOR WORK - https://nsfwfullmarriageequality.tumblr.com/

Twitter - http://www.twitter.com/FullMEquality

Facebook - http://www.facebook.com/fullmarriageequality
Quora - https://www.quora.com/profile/Keith-Pullman

Reddit - https://www.reddit.com/user/KeithPullman-FME
Wire - fullmarriageequality

To a lesser extent, I also use...

Telegram - KPFME
Discord - FullMarriageEquality #2999

There are a few other social media services, and I also have a presence on some "Tumblr alternatives," but I haven't reached out to anyone through them and haven't planned to. I'm also on some forums. If someone is claiming to be me or connected with me and you're not sure, email me or contact me at the accounts linked above. I want to know if someone is falsely claiming to be associated with this blog or me.

I protect privacy. While I do sometimes accept what people initiate to send me, I won't pressure you to provide personally identifying information, documents, pictures, or video.

If I want to put you in contact with someone, I will personally introduce you to them with your permission. I don't send people to contact you without letting you know.

I hope this helps.

These Are Not Arguments

This has been added to our Discredited Arguments page, which you'll find to be very helpful in answering the usual arguments that are really flimsy attempts to justify prejudice.

NOT EVEN ARGUMENTS: 1) Labeling or describing something, even accurately, is NOT an argument. For example, saying "That's homosexuality!" does not make a claim as to why it shouldn't be allowed or why it should be discriminated against. 2) Stating an opinion, such as that something is "wrong" or "immoral" is not an argument, either. It indicates WHAT someone thinks, but not WHY. 3) Claiming to have made an accurate prediction that someone would want their rights, such as "I said this would happen!" isn't an argument. 4) Appealing to the very law in question, by saying "It's illegal!" isn't an argument (and, it isn't always true, either, depending on location.) The very thing being argued is whether something should be illegal or otherwise discriminated against.

Here's the full page.

Genetic Sexual Attraction is Not a Mental Disorder or Character Flaw

Since Genetic Sexual Attraction or Genetic Attraction isn't something most of the masses know or understand, it's easy for there to be misunderstanding about it, especially some seemingly sadistic (and I'm not talking about the good kind of sadism) bigots decide to verbally beat up people who have experienced GSA.

Reunion GSA describes the intense, overwhelming attraction a postpubescent person may experience after being reunited or introduced to a postpubescent close genetic relative with whom they've had little-to-no contact since about age seven or before. It can happen when someone conceived through sperm donation meets someone else who had the same sperm donor. It can happen when a woman meets the genetic father who never knew she existed because she was conceived during a one night stand. It can happen when an adoptee reunites with a birth parent or finds an aunt or uncle or full or half sibling. It can happen when full or half siblings were separated because of divorce as young children and raised thousand of miles apart, barely seeing each other until they're in their late teens or older. There are many ways for this to happen.

It's about the phenomenon experienced by an individual. That person may not even tell anyone else about this. It may or may not be reciprocated. If reciprocated, sex often, but not always, results. Trying to dismiss GSA as some deceptive synonym for incest is ignorance or a willful attack on persecuted people, many of whom had absolutely no say in the circumstances that have resulted in GSA.