For all men raising or helping (or who have helped) to raise a child, whether you are a biological father, presumed father, grandfather, stepfather, bonus father, adoptive father, foster father or any variation… we wish you a Happy Father’s Day!
A special thanks to fathers who have supported and loved their children who are LGBTQ+, polyamorous, consanguinamorous, or have otherwise faced persecution or oppression because of who they are or the person(s) they love. And you fathers who ARE LGBTQ+, polyamorous, or consanguinamorous, we see you, too.
We offer a note of encouragement to all fathers who can’t legally marry the person(s) they love, but would if they could, or who face bullying due to love or who they are: We will win so that every adult can pursue love, sex, and marriage with any consenting adults.
If you have a good father in your life, are you planning anything special for Father's Day?
Some considerations if you have, or are considering, a more physical relationship with your father...
Some of you might want to share more physical affection with your father than you already do, and perhaps this is the time to make that step. This might help you decide, and this can help you make it happen. It can be a simple as making him a "father-with-benefits" if that is what you want. You can go slowly if either or any of you is nervous.
If you know he's interested, whether or not you can go along with it, let him has his fantasies.
If you can't see him in person, but want to give him a special greeting online, there are ways to do that.
If you're involved with your father, and he's struggling with, it check this out.
If you have an especially interesting Father's Day, or are planning something special, tell us about it by commenting below or you can contact Keith.
Here are some past entries on this blog that involve fathers...
Secure Together
Seven Years Along
It Runs in the Family
Expectant Parents Denied Their Rights
Another Woman Denied Her Rights
Father active with my daughter here! I really appreciate this post!
ReplyDeleteOne of the biggest things we need to understand about fathers this: they are sexual beings like everyone else! So many families treat dad like someone devoid of lust or sexual want. Sons and daughters are shielded from the notion their dad may be horny and have fantasies when they should be aware of this, and perhaps even reminded of. It's a central part to understand their father. It's a large part of who he us,.
There's no shame in knowing how he feels what he desires. You can ignore it, that's your right, but knowing what he wants is a powerful thing for building connection. Frankly knowing he has a fantasy and would be over the mood to have it fulfilled is better than living a lie that you've done the best you can do with a cheap gift and a card.
My daughter is tentative to my desires and wants and I've been frank about it. She knows what I'd like and, ultimately chooses to enaged with me as her way of showing, love, and respect,. I enjoy it and treature it more than anything else she could give me. In return I, frankly, feel much closer knowing she's willing to do this for me.
So yes, if you love your dad, why not try to do something that'll make him really happy. Why not not accept that's something which may be sexual? If we just assume it is for now, do you love him enough to help him out?
Anon, congrats!
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