While consanguineous relationships take place everywhere, living in a sparsely populated area can foster additional conditions that foster such relationships. I've covered many consanguineous relationships though exclusive interviews, and while many share certain traits, there is still diversity within the group. Below is a shorter interview that some may find shocking and others might find incredibly erotic, but whatever your reaction, consider that consenting adults are denied their rights to be together in many places. Is that good policy? Whether someone likes any given adult relationship others are having, should people outside that relationship be able to force lovers apart?
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FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Tell us about yourself.
Sybil: My name is Sybil Sybarite and I live in the far north of British Columbia, Canada. I am married to a petroleum engineer, who is married to his job, and I am OK with that, because that is his life's work. I am 5'9'' slim build long black hair and piercing eyes. I am a female medical doctor and an online life coach. I hold a medical degree, and masters in Psychology. I have six siblings and I have had multiple children. My husband and I have been together since childhood and been married more than twenty years.
FME: How would you describe your sexual orientation and your relationship orientation?
I am bisexual in a marriage with a bisexual husband. We are polyamorists.
FME: You currently live with...?
I currently live with some of my children and one niece, and my husband when he is home.
FME: You are in a sexual relationship with family members?
I am active with a son, daughter, and occasionally my niece. They are all above the age of consent.
FME: Did you raise your children, or was there significant time apart? How was family life while they were growing up?
I have raised all my children and they were always under my care. Family life was close and loving.
FME: How did sexual affection become a part of your relationships?
My husband is away a lot and I am a very sexual person, so it was my husband who suggested I become totally intimate with my son.
FME: How do you describe the sex now
Sex for me is based on passion now, since I don’t want any more children and am on birth control. What we do is open and honest and there are no taboos except violence, force, or scat.
Family sex is the best ever because there is no pretense and it is all about sharing love.
FME: Does anyone in your life (in addition to your husband) know the full, true nature of your relationship?
Close friends and family members know about our sexual appetites. Of course we need to shield our relationships from the rest of society.
FME: What do you want to say to people who disapprove of your relationship, or disapprove of anyone having this kind of relationship? What's your reply to those who would say that this is you abusing them and they can't really consent?
If someone does discover the nature of our relationships and disapproves I am capable of changing their mind or sending them on their way. Abuse is a word most abused. Consent to me is finding pleasure in what is happening. If a person doesn’t approve they will say so and I respect the word "no.".
FME: What advice do you have for someone who may be experiencing these feelings for a relative or family member?
I suggest an adult consultation with a mentor. And if someone is having those feelings, then I suggest explore them deeply.
I have interviewed and helped thousands of families who wanted to show their love in more than hugs and kisses. I deal effectively and successfully with mothers and son, dads and daughters, brothers and sisters and even bisexual situations.
I deal with all life situations but am very, very good at sexual circumstances where secrecy is very important. Since I live on the west coast of British Columbia, I am in the Pacific Time zone in summer and the Mountain Time zone in winter. Many know my expertise, but because of the secrecy of it all, please do not ask for references. Contact me at sybaritesybil@yahoo.ca and it is .ca and not .com
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Why should they be denied their rights? There’s no good reason.We need to recognize that all adults should be free to be with any and all consenting adults as they mutually consent, and part of doing that is adopting relationship rights for all, including full marriage equality sooner rather than later. People are being hurt because of a denial of their basic human rights to love each other freely.
You can read other interviews I have done here.
If you are in a relationship like this and are looking for help or others you can talk with, read this.
If you want to be interviewed about your "forbidden" relationship, connect with me by checking under the "Get Connected" tab there at the top of the page.
If you know someone who is in a relationship like this, please read this.
Thank you to Sybil for doing this interview! We wish you well in your relationships and your polyamory.
Seems like there is a major part of the story that's missing.
ReplyDeleteWhat was her first reaction to her husband's suggestion? Did she consider it before that suggestion? How did she approach her son about this? What was her son's reaction to such a proposal?
For that matter, how did things start with the daughter or niece?
Keith, I hope you get a chance to interview the son, daughter, and/or niece at some point. I'd be interested in learning about this family dynamic.
Unfortunately, not every question I asked is answered or answered for publication, and I opt to not badger my subjects. Hopefully, someday, there will be follow-ups.
DeleteWell Anonymous you are correct to wonder so here is my answwer My first reaction to my husband's suggestion was happiness since he is often gone for long periods of time and my husband was aware of my need for sexual passion so his suggestion was strictly for my satisfaction. Yes, I did consider things before he suggested it many many times. We talked about my needs and he offered to help me and himself at the same time. He loved the idea as almost all sons would. Our family relationship was not in trouble but this cemented things totally.
ReplyDeleteAs for sex with my daughter was simply mother/daughter desire. The genetic bond was in place all we had to do was let it grow. Hope this answers some of the questions.
So how did you approach your son? Was it just an honest and direct conversation along the lines of: "Do you want to have sex? Your father suggested it when he is away?" or was it something more gradual and more seductive?
DeleteI honestly don't know what simply "mother/daughter desire" means. Was is it an affectionate relationship where slowly over time one thing leads to another? If so, when/how did it become sexual?
Someone Anonymous tried leaving comments here but I thought perhaps they were meant for private communication. Sybil provided a way to get in contact with her above, and I can be reached at fullmarriageequality at yahoo dot com
ReplyDeleteare you in a boyfriend girlfriend relationship with your son?
ReplyDeleteThis woman is obviously highly intelligent. Her answers are straight and to the point. No exaggerations or explanations of what the other person's she's involved with. For obvious reasons of keeping privacy. I would be interested to read more, but wouldn't want to hound her with questions. Thus I'll just smile and nod in approval for her and those that she loves. Two thumbs up to her relationship.
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