When In-Laws Get Along Really Well

If you're in an relationship that involves ethical/consensual/disclosed nonmonogamy, what if a partner of yours wanted to be with your sibling or parent? Martha Cliff of The Sun had an article that ran at nypost.com...

Self-described swinger Brook Maklin has outlined her unusual family arrangement in a few viral posts.

It's less unusual than most people would think.

In the videos on the account @brookmaklin213, the social media user can be seen with two women who she claims are her mom and her sister.

Speaking to the camera, Maklin claims that she shares her husband with her mum. 

There are people who embrace some form of nonmonogamy, but wouldn't ever want their partner to be with a family member, and people who aren't nonmonogamous themselves, but understand/support it as long as it doesn't involve in-laws (or blood relatives). But to others, including me, this is backwards. Who better for a partner to be with than your close relative? You love your partner, you love your family member, and you trust each other. Isn't that better than someone they picked up in a bar or an app? You all already know and love each other. Something polyamorists often deal with is what kind of relationship with any, to have with their metamour; if the metamour is a problem, that can be a big problem. But if their metamour is somomeone they already know and love, great!

And people didn’t hold back in the comments section. 

Of course.

One questioned: “What happens if 1 gets pregnant…you’ll have a brother, sister, nephew or niece but also stepchild.” 

First of all, it's called contraception. Secondly, what children care about is that they are being cared for. If they have more than one close connection to someone, that isn't a problem.

Another added: “Sick n twisted.”

How it is sick and twisted if they're all enjoying this? Sex isn't a sick thing.

It is unclear whether the group of three are being serious or joking.

Representation, if done well, is good in and of itself.

In another video, which she subtitled “swinger life,” Maklin claims she keeps her “man happy” by letting him “play” with her little sister too.

He's not an action figure. He has his own will. So does the sister.

Another added: “I don’t think this is what being a swinger means. This is more poly..something, multiple partner things.”

Someone an be a swinger and polyamorous. And if they sex they are having is "just sex" and not part of a romance, they might choose to think if it as swinging, even if it with someone who is a close relative of their partner.

Many people find that they don't lose anything, and quite often gain, if their partner has other partners. That can be even more true if your partner's other partners are your sibling or parent.

Does this remind you of any of your experiences, or anything you've thought about trying? Comment below or contact me.