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“Incest” can mean very different things.
An adult raping a child can be incest.
Middle-aged adults consenting to share loving sexual affection with each other can be incest.
This is why I have preferred to refer to the latter as consanguineous relationships, or consanguineous sex, or consanguinamory. Love, affection, recreational sex between people who mutually consent is an entirely different thing from rape, assault, and abuse. It can be a difficult word to pronounce. kahn...sang...win...am...oree It means loving (someone of) the same blood. It should never be lumped together with abuse. Consaguinamorous people should have equal rights and shouldn't have to live in fear.
“Incest” can mean very different things.
An adult raping a child can be incest.
Middle-aged adults consenting to share loving sexual affection with each other can be incest.
This is why I have preferred to refer to the latter as consanguineous relationships, or consanguineous sex, or consanguinamory. Love, affection, recreational sex between people who mutually consent is an entirely different thing from rape, assault, and abuse. It can be a difficult word to pronounce. kahn...sang...win...am...oree It means loving (someone of) the same blood. It should never be lumped together with abuse. Consaguinamorous people should have equal rights and shouldn't have to live in fear.
the term consanguinamory is better.
ReplyDeleteI agree that "consanguinamory" is a more appropriate term for perception than "consensual incest", it allows you to clearly separate the crime from the usual sexual relations between representatives of different genders related by kinship. Although everything is not yet fully defined here.
ReplyDeleteThe word "incest" is a scarecrow for ordinary people. When I start asking what degree of kinship "incest" begins with, I get an evasive answer or complete nonsense.
Sexual violence is abhorrent wherever it occurs, in the family or among "friends", acquaintances, strangers, etc. By the way, if we analyze the posts and comments on social networks, then rape in families does not occupy such a large place among all cases of rape, about 5-6 cases out of 100. Of course, these are my own estimates, and they are based only on my research. At the same time, I understand that not all victims of sexual abuse anonymously contact communities, and the official statistics of police appeals also do not reflect reality. But it shows that violent (nonconsensual) incest is not the rule, but rather a tragic exception.
The stories told on social media by people who have been sexually abused also show the vagueness of the concept of "consensual" or "nonconsensual". A lot of people in communities ask for the opinion of strangers about specific cases that have happened to them. This is surprising and makes us doubt whether all the described cases of sexual violence are true.