If that's you, you might need to read this:
There's nothing wrong with consenting adults sharing affection, or wanting to share affection. There's nothing wrong with consenting adults getting playful and experimenting with each other, exploring different sensations and ways of interacting with each other.
Relationships and sexual affection don't have be limited to a heterosexual, monogamous framework that follows a narrow casting and choreography. You can be with people of the same gender as you. You can be with more than one person, including people who are different genders from each other. You can be with other adults who are younger than you, older than you, a different race than you, have a background that's very different from you. You can be with people who are closely related to you by genetics or by law. (This isn't to say that some places don't still have unjust laws against some relationships or affection.)
When you are with these people, your physical affection with them might include, or not, countless different things. You might explore things considered kinky or strange or taboo.
People have done these things all throughout history, wherever there have been people. They are doing them now - right now, not far from where you are. You are not alone.
It doesn't matter if some people haven't liked that other people have done these things. What matters is what you and your lover(s) mutually consent to do.
It is OK to try things and then decide you don't want to do those things again, or maybe you'll try it again some other time, but not soon. It's OK to want to try new things even if you have been doing the same thing for a while. Desires change. Curiosities evolve. Tastes shift.
Different things you want might have the potential for effects that you might not want. There is information about minimizing the possibilities of such effects, whatever they are.
Don't let the prejudices of others and the restrictions they have placed on themselves or the fears smothering them prevent you from having the relationships and sex life you want to have. If you need someone else to tell you that it is OK to enjoy or at least try something, this is it!
If you want someone to talk with, contact me.
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